Rn hurt by cold behavior

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  • by RNHURT
    Specializes in med/surg/ortho/tele.

hi

I have been in nursing for 3 yrs with Bsn 3.5 GPA, also enrolled in fnp program. Recently I got terminated from job bcoz I refused to resign. I haven't done any errors on floors but had to take leave as my mom met with brutal accident , hit by car while crossing rd. she is disabled for life, is fully vent dependant and cannot speak and lies eyes opened.i had to go back and forth From one city to another to see and follow up on doctors reg my mom. I am only child.

My supervisors started giving me warnings knowing well I don't go to see my mom . I am doing this by taking my own personal and sick hrs etc. supervisor started finding fault with me even though coming to job was some change for me sometime. slowly they started showing me that I need to resign and I did not bcoz finding job is not easy. I cannot go for FMLA as I do not qualify.

I have started hating nursing politics and mgmt because things can happen with anybody. I am sad, moral is down and feel like would I be able to go on floor again with so much cold behavior.

I don't know what to do :crying2:

xtxrn, ASN, RN

4,267 Posts

I'm sorry this is happening.

WHile it feels very personal, it's all about business. They need to have someone who isn't having to take the time off (and I understand why you would).

They fired you- you can apply for unemployment. If you resigned, you couldn't do that. Best of luck, and I hope your mom stabilizes.

Anna Flaxis, BSN, RN

1 Article; 2,816 Posts

Agree with the above. I'm sorry to hear about your Mom.

mookieslife

13 Posts

First, I am so sorry to hear about your mom. I couldn't imagine if something like that happened to my mom. The thing that really upsets me is... isn't nursing an empathetic profession? Where is the empathy for our own people? As far as what to do... having a BSN maybe you can find a job auditing charts or just something away from pt. care at this time. We are all here for you... good luck.

merlee

1,246 Posts

Whether or not you were FMLA eligible you should have been allowed to take some compassionate leave.

I am truly confused about your circumstances because you state you weren't making any errors. Was this all about attendance?

Best wishes.

Esme12, ASN, BSN, RN

1 Article; 20,908 Posts

Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.
hi

i have been in nursing for 3 yrs with bsn 3.5 gpa, also enrolled in fnp program. recently i got terminated from job bcoz i refused to resign. i haven't done any errors on floors but had to take leave as my mom met with brutal accident , hit by car while crossing rd. she is disabled for life, is fully vent dependant and cannot speak and lies eyes opened.i had to go back and forth from one city to another to see and follow up on doctors reg my mom. i am only child.

my supervisors started giving me warnings knowing well i don't go to see my mom . i am doing this by taking my own personal and sick hrs etc. supervisor started finding fault with me even though coming to job was some change for me sometime. slowly they started showing me that i need to resign and i did not bcoz finding job is not easy. i cannot go for fmla as i do not qualify.

i have started hating nursing politics and mgmt because things can happen with anybody. i am sad, moral is down and feel like would i be able to go on floor again with so much cold behavior.

i don't know what to do :crying2:

you may certainly apply for fmla to care for a family member, all it takes is a md letter that states how/why you are needed.

overview

* the family and medical leave act was amended on january 28, 2008. please visit wage and hour's web page for additional information.

the family and medical leave act (fmla) provides an entitlement of up to 12 weeks of job-protected, unpaid leave during any 12-month period to eligible, covered employees for the following reasons: 1) birth and care of the eligible employee's child, or placement for adoption or foster care of a child with the employee; 2) care of an immediate family member (spouse, child, parent) who has a serious health condition; or 3) care of the employee's own serious health condition. it also requires that employee's group health benefits be maintained during the leave. the fmla is administered by the employment standards administration's wage and hour division within the u.s. department of labor.

application of the fmla can also be impacted by the uniformed services employment and reemployment rights act (userra), consolidated omnibus budget reconciliation act of 1986 (cobra), the americans with disabilities act of 1990 (ada), or the health insurance portability and accountability act (hipaa). see "related topics and links" below.

http://www.dol.gov/compliance/laws/comp-fmla.htm

i am so sorry about your mom and my prayers for her and for you!:heartbeat

if they fired you for attendance reasons reguardless of the reason, without fmla if they want to be jerks...they can. sad but that is the true compassionate nature of this profession today:crying2:. it makes them heartless jerks but is perfectly legal. now if they told you you didn't qualify for fmla and refused your inquiries or applicaition that is illegal and you jave just recourse. if they are heartless jerks you are better off without them......:D

bubblymom373

123 Posts

Specializes in LTC.

So sorry about your mom. How awful that your place could not be a bit more understanding due to the circumstances. My prayers and thoughts are with you.

sunnynurse36

32 Posts

I went through the same issue with my father-in-law when he was dying, the DON was heartless and told me if i left to be by his side( he was on hospice and not expected to last for more that 2 weeks), that i had to quit, if i wouldnt have been so emotional i just would have let them fire me. FMLA was not an option, since you have to have 12 months in a job in order to qualify and i was new. I have been a nurse for over 6 yrs and in healthcare for 15 yrs, its sad that no one care anymore, as long as they meet there quotas...

elkpark

14,633 Posts

You may certainly apply for FMLA to care for a family member, all it takes is a MD letter that states how/why you are needed.

Not everyone qualifies for FMLA coverage; there are specific criteria that must be met:

(From the same website you quoted above: )

EMPLOYEE ELIGIBILITY

To be eligible for FMLA benefits, an employee must:

- work for a covered employer;

- have worked for the employer for a total of 12 months;

- have worked at least 1,250 hours over the previous 12 months; and

- work at a location in the United States or in any territory or possession of the United States where at least 50 employees are employed by the employer within 75 miles.

While the 12 months of employment need not be consecutive, employment periods prior to a break in service of seven years or more need not be counted unless the break is occasioned by the employee’s fulfillment of his or her National Guard or Reserve military obligation (as protected under the Uniformed Services Employment and Reemployment Rights Act (USERRA)), or a written agreement, including a collective bargaining agreement, exists concerning the employer’s intention to rehire the employee after the break in service. See “FMLA Special Rules for Returning Reservists.”

There are also specific criteria for which employers are required to offer FMLA to employees; not all employers are.

dudette10, MSN, RN

3,530 Posts

Specializes in Med/Surg, Academics.

I too would have been very hurt and angry by this turn of events.

My best to you and your mom as you grieve her terrible accident and your job loss. :heartbeat

mindlor

1,341 Posts

First, my thoughts are with you and your beloved mom.

Second, If I were you I would thank my lucky stars that I was not working at the facility any longer.....wow, just wow!!!

Guest717236

1,062 Posts

How sad, I am truly sorry for the way your were treated.

I am heart sick at your circumstance, how can any place justify

themselves as a health care center when they treat staff

as poorly as they have treated you. If they are just a business,so be it and

move on. For your experience and education, there will be

better opportunities to blend the needs of caring for your

Mom and your own career.

In the meantime, my prayers are with you and your Mom....

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