RN as Inpatient, horrible and looong rant - page 4
On top of everything I have been unable to log into the site. Here I am , minus a UTERUS!!!! Believe me when I tell you that in my situation it is better to be an ordinary citizen than to be "found... Read More
Sep 20, '06I'm sorry you had such a horrible experience as a patient. You should write a letter to the CEO or CNO telling your story. Not to excuse those nurses caring for you for their unprofessional behavior; but I'd like to know what the nurse/patient ratios are at that hospital. I wish you a speedy recovery.
Sep 20, '06Just a thought here. You may want to consider changing the type of primary care provider to an Internist. That way your medical records would be transferred to a "probably neutral" (?) party. You have pretty much identified your remaining problems as-anemia, hx heart failure, fever etc. This is what I did and have been quite pleased. I'd identify myself to her/him as a nurse and request that information be kept confidential.
As far as the fever: cough and deep breathe! The docs will tell you there is no such documented thing as atalectasis causing fever HAH! It really helps.
Keep us posted. Love.
Sep 20, '06I admit I have only read the first page of posts. It makes me think it that happens to me perhaps I say, "yes I am an RN, so I will expect especially good care from you and everyone else." I'll soon be able to add to that, that "I am a Certified Legal Nurse Consultant." Perhaps that will put the fear of God into them. How very very sad I might have to resort to such tactics.\\
Hind site is 20/20, perhaps the op would have fared better if she had been a squeeky wheel. Again it is sad that would even be necessary
Sep 20, '06HauntedRN, I'm sorry you had such a horrible experience. I do hope that you are feeling better and continue to be on the mend. Take care...
Recently my mom had to go into the ED for treatment at the hospital she worked at for 14 years an RN. She didn't tell anyone in ED that she was a former RN as she didn't want to appear to be a know-it-all, and there were some areas in which she wasn't as familiar with.
When she got up to the room, one of her former colleagues called out to her, "It's so great to see you, what happened blah blah no one told us we'd be getting a former RN" Keep in mind my mom had just spent the last 12 hours or so puking her guts up. At first she didn't recognize who the woman was, and then she remembered her... well, this RN decides that it's a great time for a little catch up session, despite the fact that my mom was very ill. Mom hold her that we'll catch up later when I'm not so ill. After that, every RN assigned to mom had an RN who knew her (and this wasn't even the floor she had worked on!!) My mom barely had time to call ME because she was so sick, but everyone else thought it would be a grand time for a catch up/old gossip session.
I guess she had pretty good reason not to mention to the ED people she wasn't an RN.
BTW, mom is home now and doing better... and is getting more rest.
Sep 20, '06So sorry this has happened! Exactly how long ago did you have this done? When I had my TAH in 2002, I was told recovery would be 6-8 weeks. I returned to work one day shy of 6 weeks. DON'T PUSH RETURNING TO WORK early! I doubted my surgeon when he said I'd tire easily; found out he was right when within 5 days of getting home I tried mopping my kitchen floor (I'm one who likes to keep busy even when recuperating!) and was amazed at how exhausted I became! My hospital stay was due to be 3-5 days but when nurses/CNAs weren't washing their hands upon entering OR leaving the room, my husband said "I'm doing most of your care and can do it just as well at home" and was ok'd to be discharged on the 3rd day.
I'm in agreement with others---WRITE A LETTER TO THE ADMINISTRATOR/DIRECTOR OF NURSING and complain. There is absoutely NO reason for you to have been treated that way.
Sep 20, '06Hi Laurie,
I hope you can get over this quickly and without any more complications. I totally agree that you need to write letters - to the hospital administrator, to your doc and if possible, HIS boss. Go to the top whenever possible. Also, I know you won't want to hear this, but I'm sure you've already learned you HAVE to say "NO, in this case, I'm NOT a nurse, I'm a patient!" I was nearly in your shoes a few years ago. Luckily, my doc asked me if I had questions and I said "Yes, lots!" The people taking care (?) of you were obviously unprofessional, lazy, insensitive, and inconsiderate to have put you in that position. It sounds like they thought they could get an easier job with your care and they got away with it. Good luck on both your recovery and on your follow-up with this. Hopefully, no other nurse will have this awful experience after you finish with these people. (nursing all over x 24 yrs) Linda
Sep 20, '06Here's book(s) you might enjoy while you're recuperating:
"What your Doctor may Not Tell You About Premenopause"
by John Lee MD, Jesse Hanley, and Virginia Hopkins.
or "What your Doctor may Not Tell You About Menopause"
by John Lee MD.
It covers the history and politics of the medical and drug establishment, the biochemistry and dynamics of hormones and how they get out of balance, and how to prevent hormone imbalance and stay healthy.
Sep 20, '06Thanks for sharing that, Haunted. I'm an RN student and after reading your post, I can promise that I will never make the mistake of assuming an RN doesn't need the same quality and quantity of care as any other patient.
It's wrong that you had to endure that experience, but since over 1000 people have read your post, you've probably helped to keep several thousands of health care professional from having to go thru the same thing.
Sep 20, '06wow Haunted, i'm so sorry you had to experience all of this.
I would probably be very scared. Yeah i'm a nurse, but I only know general "stuff" about gyn surgeries. I would need everything explained to me, maybe even twice just because having surgery isn't an everyday thing for me.
I'm glad you finally got to talk to someone at the office, and got your pain under control. That sucks about them double charging your co-pay.
Get some rest over the next 6 weeks.
Sep 20, '06Reading over your thoughtful and informed replies, I need to share an epiphany pertaining to this "region" of disease. I am 48 years old. I am saying "goodby" to a way of life I have held onto for almost 40 years.
I believe this fits into the"body image disturbance" issue of a nursing dx. Even though you cannot see a scar, the physical pain and emotional and hormonal trauma remain. If your patient is remarkably quiet during pre op or post op teaching, please do not assume that they are absorbing everything.
There should be a method for follow up and continuim of care. Hand outs are helpful, a print out of resources and publications is invaluable. I remember when Mr. Haunted had a vasectomy I was handed a 2 pound stack of booklets on what to expect, limitations to activity etc. Is surgery biased towards men, probably. Thanks to you all for being with me, if I could I would group hug you all. Nursing rocks and I am honored to be a part of this exclusive group, even though I am having a set back. Please continue with your wise and kind words of advice for my recuperation, I am in wonderful company with the wonderful men and women of nursing. FYI, I declined to name names or direct a nasty gram at this time to the DON of this medical center. On another note, just found out my Mom has been in ICU since the day of my surgery due to complications of diabetes, she was on a ventilator and my Dad was tap dancing all over the phone trying to not tell me. Well!Last edit by Haunted on Sep 20, '06
Sep 21, '06hi, there is no way the treatment you got is acceptable. it is true that nurses and even doctors expect you to "heal thyself" almost, sometimes if they get even a suspicion you have nursing training. they seem to forget the human asapect of nursing and the need for assistance and reassurance when you are on the receiving end with health problems. whether it is embarrassing and/uncomfortable tests or, as in your case surgery, anxiety levels the playing field to a place where we often do not think like a nurse. it is situations such as these that difines a truely compassionate nurse from a career nurse with tunnel vision.
i had a tah a few years back and having witnessed similar situations during my career i gave specific instructions to the staff in advance. on the first day postop i was in the shower when my surgeon came to see me and wrote a discharge order for the same day. when i was informed i instructed the nurse to contact him and say i would not leave until the following day and i needed instructions from him personally before i left as it was the first time i had had an hysterectomy. i did get my request as i felt it was his responsibility to me. don't be afraid to insist on getting your questions answered and demand to get the care the nurse is responsible for. it is your right as a human being and her responsibility as a nurse. let all of us who read such horror stories endeaver to be more understanding and compassionate especially to our peers. let us remember we are human beings first and nurses second. we have all the emotions, fears, and concerns the lay public has, and from time to time need to draw on the compassion of our peers.