Public Breastfeeding - page 3

In a discussion I had with my brother in law today (who is a future nurse!), I learned he is uncomfortable with public breastfeeding unless there is a blanket involved. I know some folks wouldn't... Read More

  1. by   OB_or_NICU_hopeful
    "If anyone thinks I'm closeminded, frankly, I don't care. I have a right to my opinion."

    And fortunately mothers can nurse their babies in public, regardless of your opinion.
  2. by   Q.
    Quote from Cute_CNA
    I don't care if it's "natural," it shouldn't be done in a public area ...
    I might get flamed for this, but I also think that "natural" isn't a good defense. There are ALOT of things that are natural, doesn't mean people want to see them! :chuckle
  3. by   OB_or_NICU_hopeful
    As soon as mothers with bottles need to hide in the corner to feed their babies, I will encourage nursing mothers to do the same (ok, no I wouldn't, but still). After all, bottles are modeled after breasts, are they not???
  4. by   Q.
    Quote from OB_or_NICU_hopeful
    As soon as mothers with bottles need to hide in the corner to feed their babies, I will encourage nursing mothers to do the same (ok, no I wouldn't, but still). After all, bottles are modeled after breasts, are they not???
    No, they aren't in the least. I can tell you that my breast is MUCH more soft and voluptous than any Playtex VentAir or Dr. Brown's bottle. And I know that my husband isn't turned on by those bottles either.
  5. by   mercyteapot
    Quote from Cute_CNA
    I think breastfeeding should be done somewhere private (where there will be no disruptions) and w/a blanket. I personally don't think it's very tasteful to be showing your bare breasts, whether you're breastfeeding or at Mardi Gras.

    I don't care if it's "natural," it shouldn't be done in a public area w/o some kind of cover. I think it's rude to have your boob hanging out for whatever purpose it is serving. I don't want to see that crap. No one can convince me otherwise. If anyone thinks I'm closeminded, frankly, I don't care. I have a right to my opinion.
    Uh, okay. I don't think anyone said you didn't have a right to your opinion. But I must say your language is a bit crass. Breastfeeding isn't about having your "boob" hanging out, and feeding a baby certainly isn't "crap". And the breast is NOT hanging out when a baby is fed. Hello, the baby's mouth is closed over it.
  6. by   tvccrn
    I feel that if done with tact and not flaunted for all to see there is no problem with breastfeeding in public. I did with my daughter, who will be 15 on Monday, and never recieved any comments of nasty looks.

    As to anyone who suggests that a baby eating in public is disgusting, what about them? Aren't they eating in public as well and I would hazard that most babies have better table manners than some people I have endured.
  7. by   ayndim
    Quote from Cute_CNA
    I think breastfeeding should be done somewhere private (where there will be no disruptions) and w/a blanket. I personally don't think it's very tasteful to be showing your bare breasts, whether you're breastfeeding or at Mardi Gras.

    I don't care if it's "natural," it shouldn't be done in a public area w/o some kind of cover. I think it's rude to have your boob hanging out for whatever purpose it is serving. I don't want to see that crap. No one can convince me otherwise. If anyone thinks I'm closeminded, frankly, I don't care. I have a right to my opinion.
    First of all, even w/o a cover there is very little to see. I don't want strangers to see my breast anymore than they want to see them. Second, if you don't want to see someone b/f then I suggest you don't go out in public, as it may occur there. It may seem rude of me to say that but I am also entitled to my opinion. B/f moms and their babies have just as much right to be in public and to nurse as you do. Since you are the one with the issue, I suggest you stay out of public places as much as possible.
  8. by   OB_or_NICU_hopeful
    Q. ~ It's a simple fact that breasts produce milk to feed humans. If a woman chooses to utilize that God given ability, why should she be concerned about who sees it? Your kids should know that babies are fed by their mom's breasts or by formula & bottles.

    I mean honestly, I've seen many nursing mothers and I rarely see any part of her boob. Where do you all find these women that are flinging their boobs & milk around
  9. by   ayndim
    I had only one problem in the 6+ years that I nursed three children. There was little to see but the lady was offended anyway. I find that in most of the stories of someone being offended it is a woman, not a man, who was offended.

    A funny story about my daughter. When she was four, and had seen both of her brothers nurse, she was at a family function. Her 16 year old cousin was playing dolls with her. Her cousin gave the baby doll a bottle. My daughter became very offended and grabbed the bottle away from her. With a straight face she told her cousin "That isn't how babies eat!" and proceeded to put the baby doll to her chest. She didn't raise her shirt, perhaps because you could never see her moms breast when she nursed in public, but proceeded to feed her baby.

    Another funny story is when my cousin's daughter, who is 2, was laying in bed with her. She only nursed for about six months but my niece is currently nursing. She asked her mom if she could have ninnies (our family word for nursing breasts). Her mom told her that she didn't have any more milk in her ninnies. She looked at her mom and thought for a minute and said "orange juice in ninnies." Of course, my cousin and her husband were laughing then.
  10. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Why is this such an issue in the USA? Most of the rest of the world has no problem w/it. I have/had no desire to breastfeed in:

    A dirty bathroom
    My hot (or cold) car
    Behind a building
    In a dark corner
    Someplace very uncomfortable or unsanitary

    So I would discreetly nurse my kids in public, not "whipping anything out" but nonetheless feeding them when they needed to. I remember at a state fair here in WA once, I went to sit in a nearly empty food tent (it was very hot and I needed to get my daughter out of the sun) to nurse. One of the workers had the nerve to march up to me and say, "only people eating here can sit here" and I said: "OBVIOUSLY my daughter is EATING so BACK OFF" (yea I was hot and cranky and so was my baby). She slunk off and did not bother me again.

    I am sick of people thinking it's not right to be able to nurse in public in the USA. Time to GET OVER IT.
    Last edit by SmilingBluEyes on Dec 16, '05
  11. by   S.N. Visit
    I support breast feeding 100%. I will never understand why people are uncomfortable with it, especially people who are in health care. As for young children seeing a mother feeding her baby in public, that would be the perfect time to educate them. It should as simple as, " Babies are supposed to drink their mom's milk to grow stong and be healthy, and that's why ladies have breast."
  12. by   SmilingBluEyes
    My kids have seen it, and I explained it to them. end of question/answer session. I sure hope to raise my son to think of breasts as something besides sex toys.....good luck, Yea I know.
  13. by   CuriousMe
    I'm not a mother, not a nurse....just a bystander. I have no problems with mothers discretely breastfeeding in public places...but that's the kicker isn't it...everyone seems to have a different opinion on "discretely". I know breastfeeding is a "natural" activity....but there are lots of "natural" activities that I don't want to witness while I'm eating in a restaurant.

    My sister has just had her second child....she borders on militant on her right to breastfeed (right being a very big word). I just think that with everyone so defensive on their rights (her right to breastfeed, a passerby's right not to have to explain it to their young children) it's hard to meet in the middle with so many folks.

    I guess I just wish that both sides could consider both perspectives a bit more and be sensitive that whether you think it should be or not...this is a cultural change here in the states. I don't remember seeing women breastfeeding in public while I was growing up......where as now it's a somewhat common site. It takes time and consideration for changes....and I just wish we were kinder with each other during the growing pains.

    Take the whole blow up with Barbara Walters on the View....all she did was say she was uncomfortable when a woman sitting next to her on an airplane started breastfeeding.....she didn't say anything to the woman at the time and said that that she had the right to breastfeed....but just mentioned she was uncomfortable at the time.....the next day there were protesters for crying out loud....the show had to make a public apology. Since when did someone admitting that they were feeling uncomfortable become a problem for all of us....talk about intolerant, can't we give each other a little growing room?

    My .02

    Peace,
    Cathie

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