pregnant options age 40 - page 3

My hubby and I are looking at trying for a baby. I am 40 so it isn't in our favor to wait - I will graduate next Christmas. Any tips for managing it all if we get "blessed" to survive school and... Read More

  1. by   SmilingBluEyes
    I agree with those who say those over 40 have little to no time. I would not waste your time on home fertility testing and other gadgets. If you do not conceive naturally in the next (very) few cycle, go to a competent Reproductive Specialist. You don't have time to waste (and money I imagine).
  2. by   sunnyjohn
    Thanks.

    So at 30-ish, would these home tests- egg freezing would be okay?

    I'm not in a hurry but I'm also not foolish.


    Two aunts and three cousins and other close female all had babies naturally over forty. It almost seems to run in our family.

    I won't wait that long, but I always appreciate ideas from folks who've been through it.
  3. by   SmilingBluEyes
    I am sorry, but this thread is is definately beginning to cross a line asking/offering of online medical advice, so I will only say this:

    If you have any doubts regarding your fertility, especially after age 30-35, you should seek medical guidance and expert advice ASAP. I wish anyone here trying to achieve their dreams of parenthood the very best of luck.

    Please, understand, we cannot give more advice than this on this site.
  4. by   cardiacRN2006
    Quote from sunnyjohn

    Two aunts and three cousins and other close female all had babies naturally over forty. It almost seems to run in our family.

    This isnt' medical advice---but my sister and many women in my family give conceived after 35, and close to 40, and it didn't help me.

    Don't rely on other's genetics. Remember, our eggs have been inside us since we've been inside our mothers...
  5. by   SmilingBluEyes
    It's true. 'Old' eggs are less fertile and definately increase the odds of miscarriage and/or problems in the developing fetus. We may look and feel terrific outwardly, but our eggs age fast and decrease in numbers very rapidly after 35. Just a biological fact. This is why it is so incredibly important to get help if you are having any trouble conceiving after age 35. Evaluation is definately warranted and time is short. This is not to say one can't achieve and enjoy a natural and healthy pregnancy after 40. But the odds are increasingly against this for every year past 40, for sure.
  6. by   veritas
    i wanted to donate my eggs... but people who haven't had kids are not allowed to donate their eggs....
  7. by   User123456
    I was preggers during some of my nursing classes and my best advice is school can be put on hold for a semester but sounds like your body cant wait. and another plus with having a baby while still in school you will have more time for tem i think than if you were working. in my experiance im glad i had my babies during college. good luck and may you have healthy babies !!!!!!
  8. by   cardiacRN2006
    Quote from SmilingBluEyes
    We may look and feel terrific outwardly, but our eggs age fast and decrease in numbers very rapidly after 35.


    We lose 1,000 eggs each and every cycle. That's how many our bodies sift through to pick out 'one' for use to use each month.
  9. by   rnmomtobe2010
    she is my lucky charm.[/quote]that was beautiful

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