Quote from marielina85
I would have told them straight out...if u can afford a navigator im sure u can buy some food.
'zactly. That's why places like Best buy have return policies. SORRY!
I have had friends like this. They don't necessarily mean to at times, or at least I don't think they do...
I like to cook (or at least used to) but always make too much. I'm single and live by myself, so I would invite a friend over and we'd cook. He would eat his fair share, but never bring anything over EVER. That was brought to light in the form of me telling him, "Well I'm supplying the MEAT, and the SIDES, can you bring something over too?" He was grumpy about it, but did in the end.
Also had a former roommate that was getting further and further behind on rent. I'm 26 and he just turned 30 this year. He's in college (started late obviously) and was obsessed with finding a girlfriend. He was single as well, and couldn't deal with the fact, I think, of being alone at this age. He spent $50 on cologne, $30 on FACE CREAM, big bucks on the gel body soap (bars are *much* more economical), HUGE money on hair wax, soap, conditioner, clothes, etc. ....... but he couldn't pay rent or utilities on time. Oh and he drank at LEAST three+ times a week... Needless to say I no longer have a roommate (although I also lost a friend in the process)
These people exist, but when the time comes that they're annoying the heck out of you, you need to set firm limits... Honestly, you probably could phrase it a bit better, but the next time some of them ask for money, you could say, "You know I love helping people out, but I'm spending so much money on others that I don't have hardly enough for myself!"
Finally, and most importantly, if you EVER give out >$500 ALWAYS have in writing that they're going to pay you back in "x" amount of time, and make it VERY clear in the wording that the amount you're giving is A LOAN, and in no way a 'gift'. This makes people get a little more honest. You'd probably never take them to court over it, but since they signed a paper saying it'll happen, you officially have that hanging over their heads.
If another friend is a notary, that helps, too.
Finally, $20 here and there is something that shouldn't even be on your radar. If you go out to eat with them, "conveniently" forget your wallet and mention it on the way to the restaurant. That way you can say, "Well would you mind picking it up." If they complain about it, you always have the option of saying, "Well I mean I did give you the $20 before.... Not saying I'm going to spend that much, but we can call it even if I don't."
Finally, Good luck - telling people "no" when you have it is hard to do.