People think you are rich because you are a nurse - page 9

by chenoaspirit

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First I had to loan my in-laws 1500.00 to keep the bank from foreclosing on their home (never got it back). Then 2 other people borrowed 20.00 and never paid me back. Now I have this so-called "friend" who calls me about 2-3... Read More


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    Quote from chenoaspirit
    I agree! She called me again today asking for 220.00 to pay her electric bill. I was in a staff meeting when she called. I had just got a dirty needle stick and really didnt care what she needed/wanted at that moment. she didnt care that I had just been exposed to possible HIV or Hep, all she wanted was money. She even had the gall to ask me for my credit card when I told her I didnt have it to give to her. She even asked me if I would post date a check! Im LIVID. Someone told me how to request the service to block numbers and Im calling tomorrow to get it.
    I called her once I got home and told her that I dont appreciate her calling me and asking me for loans, that if she wanted to remain friends then stop asking. So I am figuring I may not hear from her again. Which is fine! lol


    What did she say in return?

    I cut my so-called friend off completely, took her off my facebook, blocked her phone calls but she only ever texted me so I can't block them. She even requested to be my friend again on FB and I ignored it.
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    Quote from chenoaspirit
    When I worked the floor, I did have to turn it off because of them. It was stressful because that was how my daughter got hold of me when something was wrong. So it was frustrating knowing that my daughter couldnt get hold of me because of them. So then I just pushed the "ignore" button, but then they would show up at my WORK!
    Wow, what you said about their feelings of entitlement to your attention and money was bad enough... but coming to your workplace? Especially when your workplace is a hospital floor? That crosses a whole new line.

    It this has happened more than once - or if you're not sure they got the message the first time that this was unacceptable - I would seriously consider talking to your hospital's security. Tell them that you're being harassed and that they should keep an eye out for these individuals and prevent them from entering the hospital. After all, security would take an interest if you had a creepy ex-boyfriend who was repeatedly calling you when you told him not to, and showing up at your work if you don't answer. Why should it be any different with leechy friends?

    Edit: I reread your post and see that you're now in home care, so maybe you have no security to inform. However, I still encourage you to consider that this behaviour (repeated unwelcome calls, and especially showing up at your job) could be construed as stalking .... and if it were your ex-boyfriend doing it, I think almost anybody would call it stalking. If they didn't get the message when you told them recently to knock it off, I don't think it would be out of order for you to bring this up with the police.
    Last edit by rhymeswithlibrarian on May 19, '10
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    I'm not even a nurse yet but I get the comments all the time about how I will be swimming in money once I am done. I just roll my eyes. My husband makes more than I will ever make as a nurse and so people will comment about when I have an income too. But he is self employed and you have a lot of added expenses with that.

    People also just assume if you have a nice car or something you must have a lot of money. I have a nice looking car, it's an 02 and while yes it does look really nice on the outside and people think it's much newer than it is, it's not, it has a lot of miles, the inside shows plenty of wear and tear, but we needed a bigger vehicle and we saved up and paid cash for it. My husband got an awesome deal on it in Cali because a lot of people owned them for "show" and when the economy tanked people were trying to get rid of their big SUV's so we snagged it for a great price and living where I live it's a lot more practical in the winter.

    But in school the first time I offered to car pool and we walked to my car I had one girl start making the comments about how much money we must have.

    Hardly, I always joke that we are the richest poor folks I know. We always had a lot more extra money when we were living off of 450 dollars a week 11 years ago.

    I am the type that would help if I could and I have a hard time saying no. But people are so quick to take advantage it's sad. I recently loaned out a vehicle we have to my sons friends mom to help them out. I wasn't getting the pay I was promised and after a month got the car back but I tried so hard to be really nice about it and when I mentioned the payment I was supposed to get I could tell in her reply it would get dragged out so we finally just said to make trade, she was trying to get a spa going and so I will get services to work off the payment.
    Last edit by ~Mi Vida Loca~RN on May 20, '10
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    When I first started school a person in my class asked me (not very nicely either) where all my money came from. She was in my study group and couldn't fathom how I can afford a 4 bedroom house in a nice part of town, being a single mom with no child support, having a nice car and not having to work while in school. I just looked at her like, did you seriously just ask me that? The nerve of some people!!!

    Now, everytime money conversation comes up, I will either leave or change the subject. She once stated that she paid $1500/month on cell phone bills for her, her husband and three teenagers. Um, yeah, that's more than my mortgage payment!!!
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    Quote from CBsMommy
    When I first started school a person in my class asked me (not very nicely either) where all my money came from. She was in my study group and couldn't fathom how I can afford a 4 bedroom house in a nice part of town, being a single mom with no child support, having a nice car and not having to work while in school. I just looked at her like, did you seriously just ask me that? The nerve of some people!!!

    Now, everytime money conversation comes up, I will either leave or change the subject. She once stated that she paid $1500/month on cell phone bills for her, her husband and three teenagers. Um, yeah, that's more than my mortgage payment!!!

    Yeah the funny thing about the girl that made the snarky comment about my car, she is mid 30's, went to a very good 4 year engineering school that her parents paid for, she lived in the same part of town as I do but her house was in an even more expensive sub division that they own. We rent, we sold our house in WA and secured a house to rent here before our house sold. We live in such a good spot that it makes no sense to move until I am done with school, anyway, so now she is in nursing school because she decided she didn't want to be an engineer which is all fine, until one day she was complaining about her parents telling her they might not be able to pay for her last semester of school. My jaw dropped, I mean really? Your parents are paying for this also!!!! She failed out and is currently trying to get back in. But after hearing that and seeing where she lived I could not believe she was making comments about how much money I must have because of my car and where my daughter was going to school. (which student loans were paying for and I rather spend an extra 50 a week to ensure my daughter is in a good safe daycare that I feel good about)

    Some people just seemed to have not been built with the part of the brain that controls tact :|
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    I had to this this to so called friends when I was younger. I learned the lesson then, I will give you $20.00. Don't want it back. If they ask again I may give to again. Next time I tell them how it is. If they won't help themselvs, then I won't help them. I had a fulltime job and a part time job once. They can do that as well or learn to live in your means.
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    The post dated check can be a good thing but it can also come back to bite you in the rear. My Bio mother was a con and queen of bad checks. She would send checks for a birthday and I would call the bank and see if funds were in to cover it and go to her bank to cash if they were. I have had a couple times where I deposited a check, paid bills or what not, 1 week later I am overdrawn and bounced my own checks (back when I used to write checks before you could use cards for everything) and was getting a gazillion fees because the persons checks bounced.
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    Quote from triquee
    Most basic home telephone plans are affordable to most people. For those cannot afford one, there is assistance available. I'm not talking about cell phones here. I'm not talking about 3 way calling, caller ID, and call waiting. I'm talking about a land line from which someone can phone 911 in case their kid is choking.

    To say it is strictly a luxury is a bit off the mark in my opinion. It is a necessity, whether or not someone can afford it.

    If you're wanting to go so far as to say that people who can't afford a $9/month phone bill should not have the luxury of being able to get emergency medical assistance for a dying child (just as one example), then that's a whole different conversation. However, on that note, not all people who are unable to afford a $9/month phone bill are morally defunct freeloaders as the OP of this thread describes.

    That's a pretty broad stroke to paint.
    Talk about painting broad strokes. Don't recall saying I'm in favor of dying children but fwiw for years many people lived without a phone and none of their children choked to death without assistance. BTW where is that $9 a month phone service? I'd like that myself around here $35 a month is the cheapest service.
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    Quote from Jules A
    Talk about painting broad strokes. Don't recall saying I'm in favor of dying children but fwiw for years many people lived without a phone and none of their children choked to death without assistance.
    Just trying to identify the rationale for your statement that a home phone is only a necessity for those who can afford it, taking into consideration that it was your direct response to the notion that a home phone might be necessary for calling for assistance in the event of an emergency. I don't think it was an unreasonable conclusion to draw.

    What did you really mean in that context?

    Quote from Jules A
    BTW where is that $9 a month phone service? I'd like that myself around here $35 a month is the cheapest service.
    Wherever CBsMommy lives:

    Quote from CBsMommy
    I do have a land line that costs $9/month. No call waiting, no caller ID, just a land line.
    Last edit by metal_m0nk on May 20, '10


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