Quote from LoriT
Hi! My sister in law is very frustrated with doctors right now. She's been complaining of pain in her right side and bleeding every couple of weeks.From what she tells me the doctors just don't take her seriously. Is there anyone out there that has had something like this and would have any idea what might be going on? I am sure that I don't have all the details. They took her gallbladder out already because she had been complaining of pain further up. She wanted them to do a hysterectomy but was told "no way, you're to young" which doesn't make any sense to her as my GYN has been suggesting that to me and I'm 3-4 years younger then her. I have been wondering if this last bit of information that I have would possibly have anything to do with it. She's also married to an abusive man. Anyway I don't know if I should keep encouraging to keep seeing doctors until she gets the answers she wants. That's what I've been doing, but if all the doctors have the same answer thats made me stop and rethink it little. Thanks.
I don't blame her a bit for being frustrated. I have had similar problems ever since I had my son in October (I'm assuming she hasn't recently had a baby since you didn't mention it?) and no one wanted to listen to me until a couple weeks ago. Now, I am being sent for an u/s and bloodwork to find out what is wrong.
I have also been in an abusive relationship and if he is physically abusive, it is highly likely that she got hit in that area and is now having problems due to the abuse. I know that my abuser was smart and only ever hit me on the face twice...the first time and the time I left.
When you say Dr's, I'm assuming you mean OB's. If this is a major concern of her, which it sounds like it is, I would certainly keep getting it checked out...keep going until you find a dr. who will listen and do something about it. Maybe you should try to go with her to the dr. if she doesn't feel too uncomfortable with it.
For what it's worth, until I had my third child recently, my dr. told me that he would not perform a hysterectomy because I am too young (and I am 30). It makes sense because they figure you might regret it and want children. But then again...it's your body. ...hmmm...I feel a poll coming on! LOL! I hope I helped a little, even if only in letting you know that she is not alone. It took me a long time to get them to understand the importance of my pain and bleeding.