Patients boyfriend gets naked - page 6

So I'm working noc shift on a surgical floor and I'm caring for a 19 year old woman who had had neck surgery the day before. Her boyfriend comes to the floor to visit around 4 am which I felt was a... Read More

  1. by   Lisa CCU RN
    Quote from casbeezgirlrn
    and you summed it up very well covering both acute and ltc. i just don't understand all the approvers.
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    [color=#483d8b]well enough to do the deed, go home. no i'm not going to close the door and give you your privacy. it's not the ramada and this is not the honeymoon suite.
    [color=#483d8b]i can't even imagine being in a stinky hospital and feeling amorous, yuck! don't these people know what has pooled and stagnated on those mattresses??? :uhoh21:
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    well imagine what has "pooled and stagnated" on the matresses at hotels...

    i used to know a girl who was a housekeeper at a a hotel and you'd die at the things she told me.:uhoh21: :uhoh21:
  2. by   Liddle Noodnik
    Quote from Hopefull2009
    I have a question on this. If a patient is on certain painkillers, etc. Can they legally consent to sex? I would say that this would be impaired judgement...
    Don't know, on that. Good point.


    Quote from CRNASOMEDAY25
    Well imagine what has "pooled and stagnated" on the matresses at hotels...

    I used to know a girl who was a housekeeper at a a hotel and you'd die at the things she told me.:uhoh21: :uhoh21:
    I worked in a hotel as a young girl back when sex was a dirty word - and was surprised at what I found a few times ... (blush)
  3. by   saudi-nurse
    thank god nothing from this happend infront of me or i will cry maybe i think i will call security but here in saudi it will be a big deal specaily if they r not married they can go 2 preson 4 this
  4. by   KellNY
    Quote from saudi-nurse
    thank god nothing from this happend infront of me or i will cry maybe i think i will call security but here in saudi it will be a big deal specaily if they r not married they can go 2 preson 4 this
    So knowing they could go to prison, you'd call security on them? Can I ask why, and what good that would accomplish?
  5. by   saudi-nurse
    they will respect the hospital and the ppl there more and it is good 4 there privacy
  6. by   KellNY
    So if they go to jail, that will in turn cause them to respect the hospital more? Hmm....and the whole potentially ruining their young lives thing is just a trade off?

    In the OP, they were not having any type of sex--they were two consenting adults SLEEPING.
  7. by   sanctuary
    Quote from KellNY
    So if they go to jail, that will in turn cause them to respect the hospital more? Hmm....and the whole potentially ruining their young lives thing is just a trade off?

    In the OP, they were not having any type of sex--they were two consenting adults SLEEPING.
    Nope, just checked. OP said that it was obvious that there had been something other than sleeping going on.
    OK, I'm old, and cranky, but NO ONE who needs to be hospitalized should be having sex. If they are that well, DC them and put a sick person in the bed.
    No one who needs to be hospitalized should be going out for a couple of beers with their friends (or alone). How am I to medicate on top of an unknown amt. of ETOH??
    Hospital= sick people. Sex, booze=home.
  8. by   KellNY
    My mistake. I must have misread the 1st time or just misunderstood.

    Does the op ever mention how it was obvious? Or was it just the nakedness? Because my ex-partner and I slept or cuddled naked many times with no sexual undertones.

    And Re: No one that needs to be hospitalized needs to be having sex. I disagree. There are plenty of people who should be discharged...who want to be discharged, but need to stay in for "observation" or as part of protocol. There are also people who are hospitalized for reasons that have nothing to do with sexual abilities/fuction/apprpriateness--ie glycemic control. Tell me how sex could possibly effect that.

    On my unit (and yes, i realize this is diff from the OP's situation) we have some very healthy young women who are sometimes hospitalized for days, weeks, months. And yeah, i think it's unreasonable to expect a couple in their early-mid twenties or thirties to go without any sexual contact for months when it's not medically necessary to do so.
  9. by   bluesky
    This reminds of a funny incident that happened to me. I was once taking care of this macho Harvard grad intellectual motorcycle guy in the SICU who had a pre-op grade 4 liver lac. Well one night his best buddy comes in with 2 rather lovely brazillian women. The next thing I know the buddy is at the unit station making out porno-style with one of the girls and the second woman is in my patient's room, throwing rose petals and spraying lavender musk all over the place and mounting (I mean mounting) my grade 4 liver lac patient. A truely surreal moment for me. Fortunately my charge nurse that night was a serious christian and had that situation locked up before I could even say "carnivale".

    I think he fancied himself as some kind of Arthur Miller sort. The weird part is that later that night when I had to do his bed bath, he refused to let me see or clean his privates.... I just had to shrug ya know.
    Last edit by bluesky on Mar 11, '07
  10. by   Cattitude
    Quote from crnasomeday25
    well imagine what has "pooled and stagnated" on the matresses at hotels...

    i used to know a girl who was a housekeeper at a a hotel and you'd die at the things she told me.:uhoh21: :uhoh21:
    i knew someone would bring this up! i'm sure quite a few things. but it still doesn't change the fact that i'm not going to have sex in a hopsital room!
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  11. by   BULLYDAWGRN
    Never caught anyone getting it on. But I've heard tales of some of the med/surge and surgical floor people catching some folks doing the big dirty...We did have a doc get busted while he was trying to get down with a resp tech on the roof of the hospital a few yrs ago, and where I work part-time a friend walked in on a doc and a nurse on the ******* cath table...
  12. by   imenid37
    I am sorry. If you find sex to be necessary for healing, that's fine. Do it as soon as you go home. I don't get paid enough to make rounds and walk in on people having sex. (Yes, I do knock on the door ALWAYS). It isn't an appropriate place. I may want sex while stuck in a traffic jam. Does that mean I can stop right there and proceed as I wish? NO, it isn't the aprropriate place. As far as barricading the door after you get out of ICU, if you were sick enough to be in ICU and needed to be in the hospital after you are out of the unit, then you shouldn't barricade the door. You might have a problem and the nurse shouldn't walk in on you having sex if you do. If you have sex somewhere private it is totally your business. If you go to an orgy and have sex in fron of other people, they are at a gathering where they obviously don't mind sex in a non-private setting. as a nurse, I don't want to see or listen to someone else having sex not at the mall, in the grocery store, or at the hoispital. That's my right as a nurse. I also don't get paid to look at naked visitors.

    What if you find a fresh MI patient having sex and you give him/her their privay and they arrest? Should you tell them not to do it to begin with? Are you more liable if you don't respect a person's privacy or if you act to protect their health in this case? What if your 16 year old pt. is having sex w/ a 30 year old man is that okay if she's already had a baby and is an emancipated minor? Would it be okay w/ another 16 year old? We are responsible for enough stuff. If they are in acute care they can wait to eat greasy Mc D's food not on their diet, smoke, have sex, have 20 visitors cough all over their baby, or do whatever else no one no one on the nursing staff needs to see or regulate. "Mr. Jones can I bring your antibiotic at 10:00 a.m. when it is due or will you be intimately interacting w/ your mistress Ms. Bimbo then?" Forget it! What if you walk in on group sex. OMG, I have enough issues w/ visitors now! Long-term care where the patient lives in the facility is a different story. Then I think the patient may need some alone time w/ a spouse or partner. I am so sick of having to put up w/ whatever patients and visitors want. Some of these wants just need to wait until they are out of the acute setting. We can't accomodate every wish and we shouldn't have to.
  13. by   EmerNurse
    The consent question is interesting. If I have to make sure consents are signed BEFORE I give someone their dilaudid, on the assumption that after medication they're impaired, are they capable of ANY type of consent, sex or otherwise?

    And I agree with many others - if you're well enough to have sex in an acute hospital, you're not acute enough to be there - go do it at home. As for long term care, as others have pointed out, depends on consent capability etc and other issues.

    But if I'm doing my 9pm med pass, I shouldn't have to walk in on whoopie. Yes, I knock, but c'mon.

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