sweet heart you did not fail her. her children did her doctor did but you served her in dignity. And as much as it breaks your heart that we are not listening to her requests that are written down in a legal form, they can be overridden by a well meaning family member. It is unfortunate That this happens all the time.
my mother has sat down with all 7 of us, the only dissident to her wishes is my one sister who believes that mom should be hooked up to everything, only my brother and I are listed as power of attorney, he lives with her and I am to advise him with my knowledge, this was agreed upon by everyone but my one sister who is angry because, we fail to see her religious views, about the sanctity of life. we told her if she dared to fight us on mom's wishes We'd make her life a living hell.
Unfortunately I know first hand how hard it can be to rescind these orders once they are initiated. my oldest daughter had sids her monitor failed. I was in a hospital in another state trying to get the pregnancy I was carrying to term and she was with her dad and his mom. the baby was put on the respirator and other equipment, but was brain dead, and in organ failure, when we went to turn off the equipment the right to lifers came in with my mother in law to fight us. She stated We do not do this in our family. I reminded her both her son and i had thought about this and it was a extremely hard decision to come to but Holly would never come out of this. Holly died 4 days later while we fought in court.
I thank God the local media chose to leave it a private matter and we were not made a public specitical. i think part of that was the fact i was 6 months pregnant and eclamptic. and the Judge told the right to life attorney. that his group was looking to save one child who would have no quality of life and kill another because of the undue stress they were putting already grieving parent through. our relationship with his mother never healed and was always very strained.
I think I'm having dnr tattooed on my chest like one of my residents did so there is no question as to what he wants he wants no infighting from the ambulance crew about weather it is a state form or just a legal form.