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- May 8, '12 by nurseonthewayI just recently switched jobs and it isn't easy. At my last job we had an hour lunch and it seems as if the Nurses barely get a minute at my new job.... However, sometimes we have to make sacrifices so we can learn and advance. I know what it is like to work in a toxic environment. That is why I left my last job... Hang in there and I hope that you will find something better.
- May 8, '12 by ladytopazI know exactly how you feel! I too left a very stressful nursing position at a hospital and my family acted like I had committed a huge crime and that I was looking for an 'easy' job. It wasn't until my mother was a patient at a hospital where I worked that she realized exactly what I had been talking about! Not enough help, call lights going off and no one answering them, meds being passed late, and working short every day! Hang in there. If nothig else than for your own sanity!! You did the right thing for you and good luck on your job search !!!
- May 8, '12 by JaselEvery situation is different. I know the unofficial rule always seems to be "stick it out for a year, it will get better" but if things were as bad as you say they were, they were affecting you THAT badly, AND they have a high turn over rate then you probably made the right decision. If you were simply felt overworked and overwhelmed because you were questioning your competency as a nurse I'd recommend sticking it out, but there are hospitals and healthcare facilities out there that just aren't great working environments period and that's a fact.
And just let this experience show that not everyone is supportive, even fellow nurses. Hell I'm in an RN program (am an LPN) and just had another student call me up and it was basically me spending an hour reassuring her that she wasn't going to fail out of the program this semester. She called ME because her mother, her husband, and her children just don't get it and can't really sympathize. But we've taken the same tests, had the same clinical site, and the same clinical instructor so she knew I could relate to how she was feeling. My mother's a nurse and my father's a doctor, but I wouldn't necessarily expect them to be able to relate to my experience where I used to work just because we're all healthcare professionals. I usually vented to friends I made at work who understood completely where I was coming from.
But good luck with getting a new job. I don't think you made a mistake leaving.
- May 8, '12 by SoundofMusicDon't beat yourself up over this. Forget what the family says -- they love you, but they're really not with you there at that job, in your shoes, dealing with what you had to deal with.
I myself started in a position in an ICU as a new grad and it was way over my head. I spent a MISERABLE, HORRIBLE three months there, totally incompetent, treated like garbage, etc. It went from bad to worse and I ended up sobbing in the mgr's office, begging to be let out of it.
Shortly after, I started on another floor in another hospital. It was a med surg type place, newer unit. They were rough, but I joined w/ a new grad cohort that was also new and learning. I still cried, still slogged it out, still had so many bad days ...but at this next unit, I could piddle around a bit more and make mistakes w/o being totally reamed out by ridiculously critical ICU types. I did well, graduated from the preceptorship, and went on to spend 3 pretty successful years on the 2nd unit, made lots of friends, learned a lot and became a competent nurse.
Now I'm in a masters program and doing well. I feel confident I could handle most nursing positions, but likely will just graduate now in a year and become an APN.
So, don't give up. Find another place where they'll be a bit more gentle and let you make the routine mistakes. You HAVE to do that to learn .... sometimes in lesser acuity type places, you can do that. Try even going to a LTC facility to learn, if that is what it takes. Some of our best acute care nurses come from those environments. Then you can move on to that next level.
Life is long -- you can grow in this career at your own pace. You are a normal, sensitive, rational and intelligent human being -- and THAT is why you are having a tough time w/ nursing ...because nursing is just, well, it's hideous at times and there is a VERY steep learning curve that takes time. If I had to do it again, I would have INGORED THE HELL out of those evil bastard young eating nurses that upset me so .....they are just SO inconsequential ..... just hang with your patients -- and do the BEST job you can every day. Put one foot in front of the other and somedays, it's all about just showing up the next day in spite of the crap you went through the day before. Good luck and DON'T give up.
- May 8, '12 by MsHen49Dear Overwhelmed,
Your experiences sound exactly like mine upon entering the workforce post nsg school. Fortunately my family was supportive during that period though. It IS overwhelming t times, and if your place of employment has a very high turnover rate, you probably did the right thing. Your license is a precious and expensive investment, and if a facility is cutting back on staff to the point you don't feel safe working there, i applaud your decision. I have a back injury now due to that same type of mgt style.
On the other hand, its gonna take more than 3 months at a facility to get your organizational skills up to par. They don't teach you how hard others in the profession can be on new nurses, and i would guess family members also in nsg can be the hardest to deal with, because family should have your back.
I will end with this: DON'T GIVE UP! While nsg can and usually is a backbreaking, thankless career, hearing a persons scatchy voice after being extubated, or a smile on the face of a person with a terminal illness, is one of the best rewards you will ever receive. Good Luck, and, if you don't mind me saying, God Bless
- May 8, '12 by kittan40I, too, left my first nursing job after only 2 1/2 months. I was a new grad, and it was my first job in the medical field. I accepted the job, sure I could perform the duties, and besides, would they hire me if they didnt think I could do it?? It was at sub-acute hospital, and not really knowing what that meant, I went for it. I had 4 shifts of training, then was let loose, the only RN, overnight, on the weekends, to manage 16-20 patients of my own, along with the RN duties that the LPN was not allowed to do. There was absolutely no support from the facility, and the attitude pretty much was "why cant you do this..WE all do". My husband tried to be encouraging, but he had no idea what I was going through. The rest of my family just had no idea what i was going through, and was not able to understand. I tried to stick it out, but, like you, I ended up a wreck. This all happened over 3 years ago, and I now have two wonderful jobs at two terrific facilities, and am now really starting to feel like a real nurse, and gaining confidence in my abilities. I still get flashbacks to that first job and still feel a little traumatized at times. I know you are not the only one that is going through this, and I am sure you will find your niche I still work 15 hour days from time to time...there are just days like that! Good luck to you!!
- May 8, '12 by mikea1969No-one knows how it made you feel, other than yourself Butterfly - the job can be hard at the best of times. Experienced nurses can feel the pressure especially on the crappest of shifts. I struggled through my grad program and then moved into another facility where i went from being a junior RN to one of the most senior and struggled big time. I lasted 5 weeks and if i hadnt left i would have stressed myself into the ground. I got a job at a more supportive facility and feel much more confident and knowledgable now.
It takes a lot of strength to walk away from a job but it sounds like you did the right thing for you and thats all that matters. And youve said that youre the 4th person whos left - that says more about the facility than you personally.
Unfortunately there'll be people who wont support you and its a real shame they happen to be your family but DO NOT under any circumstance feel ashamed of looking after your health. Whats more important: a job that makes you feel the way you do or walking away and keeping your health and possibly even your life?
Keep looking and trying and you'll hopefully find something to suit and now youve had some experience to put on your CV. When you get an interview tell them the positives that you got out of that facility, there will be some if you look deep enough! Good Luck
- May 8, '12 by butterfly_kisses9188You all have no idea how much you've helped me. I just wish I would've worked with nurses like you all!
- May 8, '12 by anotheroneQuote from butterfly_kisses9188Yes all the time. No one I know who is not a nurse understands. I do not have any nursing friends either, except for 1 person I talk to RARELY since school, and 1-2 nurses I get along with enough at work to complain/vent since we all started together. I didn't stay 15-16 hour nights unless I was mandated, which was often enough in the beginning. I do not know how you usually react to stress etc but I dealt with the crying everynight, couldn't sleep, dreading work, the first month I lost 10lbs from not eating because I was always nauseous/ too stressed out to eat, all i could think about was how we would be short, not have aides, not have a unit clerk, pts who should be in ICU or step down, discharges and admits, a couple of post ops with a ton of orders, pts who had q1 vitals, etc.... This lasted for a few months and it did get better because I adapted to the stress and because staffing actually impoved. Also I learned a lot and got faster at everything we usually do on our floor. Family and friends do not get it unless they are nurses or maybe PAs/DRs who work in a hospital.Or have very stressful jobs also. Forget it otherwise. People think nursing is handing out pills and flirting with the hot drs just like on tv.No clue what the responsibility of having 6 pts is like without an aide and most are incontient, dementia, etc.... Or worse a friend will have been admitted overnight for a simple surgery and was a 100% walkie talkie while there and thinks all pts are just like he/she was. Good luck..Oh and for good measure I relocted hours and hours away for this job and had no family or friends in the area, did not even know a single person. so that made everything even more isolating/stressfulI wanted to post on this board because I don't really feel like I am getting a lot of support or understanding in the non-nursing world. I recently quit my job at the hospital I worked at. I am technically a new grad and had only been working there for 3 months. I am getting a lot of criticism from some family members (one who is a nurse) about not hanging in there and about not trying hard enough. I was beyond miserable,overwhelmed,depressed,stressed,crying most nights and at home becuase of where I worked. There was a huge turnover rate & not ever enough nurses or help of any kind. I felt like I was stuck in a nightmare. Even though I know at times we all have to stay and catch up, it was becoming a pattern for me to be working 15 hour "nights" and I felt if I stayed my sanity would not be intact right now. I am the 4th person that I graduated with who left this particular hospital. Although I am feeling better, I am now looking for another job,which is stressful as well. Has anyone else ever had the problem of family not understanding what you go through as a nurse?I felt so ashamed of leaving and feeling like I wasn't tough enough or headstrong. Any replies would be appreciated.
- May 8, '12 by sunspunkQuote from butterfly_kisses9188I understand totally. I have been a nurse for 32 yrs bedside. I guess I DO love what I do, being that I am still in nursing. However, as far as what you are feeling and what the reality is.... it doesn't get better, only worse. Its just the sign of the times. Healing is a politically ravaged business/money making entity. And that reality may have been existing for eons, however, I was naive enough not notice. Medicine/Nursing is not what it used to be, and at the time, not what it was supposed to evolve into. The only happy people are the hospital CEO's who are making $$$ big time and, have never worked a day doing what nurses or residents do. How I wish that UNDERCOVER BOSS would happen!I wanted to post on this board because I don't really feel like I am getting a lot of support or understanding in the non-nursing world. I recently quit my job at the hospital I worked at. I am technically a new grad and had only been working there for 3 months. I am getting a lot of criticism from some family members (one who is a nurse) about not hanging in there and about not trying hard enough. I was beyond miserable,overwhelmed,depressed,stressed,crying most nights and at home becuase of where I worked. There was a huge turnover rate & not ever enough nurses or help of any kind. I felt like I was stuck in a nightmare. Even though I know at times we all have to stay and catch up, it was becoming a pattern for me to be working 15 hour "nights" and I felt if I stayed my sanity would not be intact right now. I am the 4th person that I graduated with who left this particular hospital. Although I am feeling better, I am now looking for another job,which is stressful as well. Has anyone else ever had the problem of family not understanding what you go through as a nurse?I felt so ashamed of leaving and feeling like I wasn't tough enough or headstrong. Any replies would be appreciated.