Over 20 years at the hospital, left and not even a "thank you"???????? - page 4

Hello all, I've been lurking around for quite a while, and I had a discussion with a fellow nurse yesterday that has just set my blood boiling and my blood pressure near the stroke zone. I am... Read More

  1. by   Otessa
    I have NEVER heard of anyone in our hospital that has left without a retirement party(I've been to many and wished them well and thanked them even if I had never met them!!). There is time limit and $$ limit depending on years of service so the housekeeper doesn't get less of a retirement party than a nurse manager(all equal)............
  2. by   Otessa
    Quote from Alpha13
    Call me pessimistic - but I think this is what happens when you think of your job as a fate or higher calling or whatever. Put less emotional emphasis on your career and you won't get upset when others don't acknowledge your work.
    I agree with this. I believe what I do DOES make a difference BUT my family and friends will ALWAYS come before my job.

    It is like a parent only living through their children-when they leave home they feel like they have no purpose,etc.......feel lost.

    I have thought about this and volunteer in my community and know that I am more than "just a nurse".

    I have an identity that transcends my job.

    I have friends outside of work, I have interests outside of work, ....you get the picture....
  3. by   RNOkie
    I can think of no other profession that is as emotionally charged as nursing. Good grief, look what we deal with; the beginning and ending of life and everything in between.. Maybe it's different in the small rural areas (which is where all of my nursing experience has come from), but we're all one highly dysfunctional family, When one hurts, we all hurt and when one's happy, we're all happy. If we're not crazy when we get into nursing, we'd have to be crazy to stay. Keep your chin up, I'm sure you more than left your mark, whether it's acknowledged to you or not.
  4. by   aemt77
    You think that it is bad to quit and not get any appriciation. The small hospital in my home town did one better than that. I have a very close friend who worked there as a nurse tech, she went to work the other day to be called into the office and told that her job had been cut as of that day. They only had 3 techs and did the same to all three, one with 14 years, her with 19 years and the third with 35 years. Then had the nerve to tell them that if the census picked up and the opened the positions back up that the could apply as new hires, loosing all seniority and any accumulated benefits. Administrarion doesn't like the long term people, too high pay, too many benefits, and too much chance of declining health.
  5. by   dorimar
    Quote from dano
    You have to view it from a management perspective. She is leaving. She is not leaving them anything besides a new slot to fill. If anything, they're going to be ticked off because they now have to bring in a fresh body and hope they're half the woman she was.

    It is sad how she got no recognition, but the business world is a cold one, and one of the many reasons I didn't go into it. If I ever get the offer to sit behind a desk all day after running the floors for years, I would refuse it. It's not the same environment.
    I beg to differ. Any one who has given that many years and was as dedicated to the job as described, left so much more than an empty postion. She trained many a nurse and was probably an excellent role model. She probably contriubted to many policies. She probably sat on committees that formed important protacals and evidence based practices. She probably gave lots o input that affected neccessary changes. And I'll just bet that her care contributed the good reputation of the hospital.

    It's sickening to me. It is also stupid. It is detrimental to an employer (buisiness or not) not to treat loyal, hard working employees well. They're sending a message loud and clear. That place deserves nurses who are just there for the paycheck, and who will leave promptly for the highest bidder. Let the turnover begin! Let the reputation fall!
  6. by   weezer123
    I guess just because I am in a bad mood today, I say Also "Let the nursing Profession fall to the wayside" Just like Policemen, firefighters, teachers, we are the ones who care but the ones that get the least "RESPECT" I cared for so many yrs . It took me yrs to learn that my company did not care for me. And it was a shocking "Lesson".....
  7. by   weezer123
    Sometimes I just wonder "who will be left to take care of the "false Boobed" Tattoed People sitting in the nursing homes in the yr. 2050?????
  8. by   firstyearstudent
    Management is always looking at the bottom line, but why didn't coworkers join together to see these nurses off...
  9. by   yadda_yadda_yadda
    Wow.

    I haven't been in the field as long as this, (only 13 years)--but I've seen the same thing.

    My most recent similarity was @ work, but related to an injury. I'd torn my ACL & meniscus---and was out over a week. When I returned, the supervisor never so much as said, "Hey, welcome back!...How are you feeling?....or HEAVEN FORBID, a We missed you!"

    It was disheartening. I can't imagine how it must have felt to have given that many years & get such treatment.

    On my very first nursing job, the shift supervisor was a much older nurse that the majority of the shift staff. She'd been in the field for over 40 years.---EVERY SINGLE DAY, as we left, she'd say, "THANK YOU! See you tomorrow!"----At first, it seemed odd...I wondered why she'd 'thank us' for doing our jobs.

    In actuality, she was thanking us for putting our best work forward, for being team players & simply caring---and she did the same in return by acknowledging the efforts.

    I can sum it up with a qoute by Indira Ghandi- 'Be the change you wish to see in the world'

    Often times, we simply must mentor to others who simply don't get it.
  10. by   Bala Shark
    Hi, I did not read the other posts but read the first one by the OP..Now I think the hospital did not give a thank you is because the nurses decided to leave for better opportunties..
    Last edit by Bala Shark on Aug 19, '06
  11. by   mawlvn
    After working 23.7 years ( their calculation) , I recieved very similar treatment from management. In leaving I was no longer of importance. To their credit the HR personel were very curious and offered a meeting and/or an immiediate transfer to another area or hospital. They really seemed unwilling to let me leave without trying some other avenue. Unfortunately hospitals are no longer friendly places for nurses. We are in constant conflict with our nursing duty and our exspected employee behaviors. Is there an answer ? I don't know it is very sad for me.
  12. by   old rural nurse
    Gee, and I thought it was only because we had a b---- for a HR Director, but when I left a (am I allowed to say CHI?) hospital after 20 yrs and 3 months, after giving a full 4 week notice, I was told I was not eligible for a 20 year award, since I was leaving before the month they held the "employee recognition banquet". I did tell the HR Director that I guessed they only cared to reward loyalty as long as everyone got to SEE the hospital give the awards. (probably burnt a bridge there, but now she is gone too! )
  13. by   mkuke1
    I also worked for a magnet hospital. I worked for over 30 yrs as a bedside RN. 20 yrs in L&D. Got many different awards over those years. Never had a bad evaluation. I did not choose to leave, the hospital closed the outpt unit I worked in. I attempted to get another position but when I did there were excuses for why I did not fit in there.
    No one in the hospital wanted an RN that came at the cost that I did. They didn't say that but it became obvious that I did notfit in any of the units budgets. (I get 5 wks vacation time, ect)My experiance apparently is a deterent.
    It is so sad but the fact is that hospitals are corporations and it is not patient care that is the primary goal but profit. I unfortunatly have become to expensive.
    No I did not get any goodby's or sorry you are leaving they just quietly pushed me out the door.
    The scarry thing is that I thought no problem I'm an RN I can get a job anywhere there is a shortage.
    WRONG. I have applied for several positions. Some have not even replied, other tell me sorry you don't meet the requirements.
    I live in a city with at least 4 major hospitals and several branches. I am in shock right now. I just don't get what is happening. I've always loved nursing and can't imagine another career.
    My advise to any older RN's don't let your job get away from you because for us there is not a shortage and experiance in the hospital enviorment is no longer valued.

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