Outside of your work environment...... - page 2

If you saw a nurse that bullied you, gave you hell, gossiped about you, and was one of the main reasons you transferred to another unit OUTSIDE of your work environment, would you confront them on... Read More

  1. Visit  Zookeeper3} profile page
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    I am sorry that a person could have such an impact on you. I love running through scenerios later coming up with zingers, sometimes, okaaaay usually I regret that my verbal filter always seems to have a short fuse.

    So take it from someone who regularly eats their own foot, it never tastes good and gives me indigestion.
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  3. Visit  Baloney Amputation} profile page
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    Quote from afrocentricRN
    If you saw a nurse that bullied you, gave you hell, gossiped about you, and was one of the main reasons you transferred to another unit OUTSIDE of your work environment, would you confront them on their behavior?

    And if you did, could that put your license at risk?

    Or would you "let it go", considering you are not at work at this time?
    I'd leave her alone without confrontation. What would be the point? You've already left. I know, you want to deal with your feelings and make her see the error of her ways, but she just may not ever see what an buttmunch she was, no matter what you say. I find that people like her just never get it. Furthermore, if you do confront her, do you think she'll break down and apologize sincerely, or do you think she will revert back to her ways that made you leave your job? I'm betting her response would leave you feeling worse.

    I'm thinking the mean look you gave her was probably more fuel for her gossiping fire, even though you are no longer there. That stuff is fun for a gossiper, not threatening or intimidating. She now knows that she is still annoying you and still has some power over you.

    Even though it won't happen, you know she can report you to the BON without you confronting her if she was truly intent on being a buttmunch. However, methinks the imaginary hating scenarios may be going a bit far...

    Please kick her "power" to the curb into the sewer. That's where it deserves to be.
  4. Visit  nursel56} profile page
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    There's really no need to be unpleasant or make a scene, however. . .you could. .

    1. Stop your cart at a 45 degree angle before you pass her, preferably next to one of those cardboard display contraptions, while developing both a sudden fascination with the label on a jar of pickles and a severe hearing problem. .or

    2. Wait until she's almost ready to check out, discreetly get in front of her. Pull out a big wad of coupons after the cashier has finished the transaction. Ask for a price check on something very small and obscure. Drop your coins all over the floor. Scan your receipt before moving on and find 3 things they failed to give you the sale price on.

    3. Sneak an item in her bag that has the shoplifting sensor on it. . .

    Ha, yeah I'm 5 but still. . . if only in our minds. . . .
  5. Visit  RhiaRN75} profile page
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    'Living well is the best revenge.'

    A confrontation in such a public place would only briefly make you feel better. It's just not worth the repercussions and certainly the coworker isn't worth the gift of free fuel for the fire. Now if the other nurse were to make confrontation unavoidable- that's a different matter.

    I would just smile, maybe say 'good morning', and go on.

    People such as your ex-coworker eventually pay for their deeds. They usually manage to drag a whole bunch of people down, though, before it catches up to them.
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  6. Visit  not.done.yet} profile page
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    The opposite of love is not hate. It is indifference. As the above poster said - the best revenge is living well. The best thing you could have done is gotten on your phone, smiled, looked happy and made plans with those who ARE in your corner and ignored her completely. She is insecure, small and miserable somewhere inside herself. The only thing that would get to her is the sense that you have moved on and are happy. And there are no words to tell someone that....telling someone how happy you are without them in your life is proof you still care. Simply moving on and letting the anger in your heart dissipate to indifference is proof this person no longer holds any power over you.
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  7. Visit  morte} profile page
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    Quote from nursel56
    There's really no need to be unpleasant or make a scene, however. . .you could. .

    1. Stop your cart at a 45 degree angle before you pass her, preferably next to one of those cardboard display contraptions, while developing both a sudden fascination with the label on a jar of pickles and a severe hearing problem. .or

    2. Wait until she's almost ready to check out, discreetly get in front of her. Pull out a big wad of coupons after the cashier has finished the transaction. Ask for a price check on something very small and obscure. Drop your coins all over the floor. Scan your receipt before moving on and find 3 things they failed to give you the sale price on.

    3. Sneak an item in her bag that has the shoplifting sensor on it. . .

    Ha, yeah I'm 5 but still. . . if only in our minds. . . .
    yup,yup,yup.....like that one, oh yeah,,,,gotta store that one away.....
  8. Visit  TheCommuter} profile page
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    The next time you see her, keep it moving. Bullies don't lose a minute of sleep over the people that they torment, so why in the world are you concentrating so hard on her?
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  9. Visit  Praiser} profile page
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    just pretend she is invisible. you don't see her. she is a vapor. not there.

    you are the better person. hang in there !

    praiser :heartbeat


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