Quote from beachbum3
I smoke, am a nurse, and have kids. We (SO and I) smoke outside, and if the kids are in the car keep the windows all the way down and cigarettes outside the car, if we even smoke with them in the car. Most of the time we don't. At times we smoked inside the house, but that was only when the kids were upstairs in bed, and we were in the basement.
Do you know they are not taking the same precautions? I mean, I'll smoke when they are around (ie outside while they are playing) but I make sure to tell them to not come near me when I'm smoking.
My kids don't have health problems- no asthma, no frequent sicknesses etc. The only time they were frequently sick was when they started daycare. (Which is to be expected)
I just think its a huge jump to call smokers who have kids child abusers.
I don't think you should say anything. Its really not your place.
Actually yes, I do know they're not taking the same precautions. I live in an apartment building. I am on the second floor and they're on the first. During the day they almost always have their front door open and they have a gate up to keep the kids from escaping. When I walk down the stairs from my apartment I have a direct view into their living room. And EVERYDAY I see them smoking with their kids there. Sometimes with the kids in their arms while they smoke.
I realize that not every child gets sick because of second hand smoke. But when a parent smokes around a child, they have no idea as to how it will affect the child. Maybe nothing happen, or maybe the child will get sick enough to die. You just don't know until it happens.
Lastly, I did not say that parents who smoke and have children are child abusers. What I said was that parents who smoke AROUND their children are. You don't have to agree with me. And I'm not trying to attack you. But you are entitled to your opinion as am I. Parents who knowing put their children in possible harms way, are abusing.
I'm glad you take precautions to keep it away from your kids. Fact is, there are many people who don't. Such as my neighbors. And in my opinion, it is abuse.