OH brother do I know this one...hey try seeing them when you are in nursing school! LOL!
My hubby is a paramedic and was a firefighter EMT as well! Talk about never seeing eachother!
We chose and were fortunate enough by the time I graduated and got my RN license for me to do part-time after two years. It was our goal! My father came to live with us (mother left him for another..grrrrrr) and has been here ever since taking care of my son and helping around the house (rent/food/everything covered by us). But most other nurses I know have other relatives or friends that can help care in times of what I call "boats passing in the night phase".
When we would go nuts by not seeing eachother, I was allowed to go to the post for a few hours to be with him for a while. OR I would drive in my car and go to where he was temp posting (if I was lucky and he didn't get a call while I was getting there) and bring him a meal or treat of some sort (one cold night I got a rice neck pillow and heated it up and brought it to him..he loved that!).
I also made lunches or meals with a love note or trinket to remember me by...and he would leave a little something for me many times on the counter or on the fridge (erase boards come in handy too...I got many a love note there
Like I said though...we didn't think I could go part time and make it..but we made that a priority so I could tend to our son, and be a wife as well. We are making it fine....comes close some weeks...but we adapted!
Luckily now he has gained senority and has weekends off, where I have every other weekend off (I got seniority too! LOL). Things have been great ever since, and we still give our little love notes and trinkets for fun!
ALSO plan your time together well....but not like busy time with family or friends...quality down time. Take a bath/hot tub/shower together and enjoy the soothing hot water (oh man that feels so good...just relaxing, and it is always nice to get a nice back cleaning with a lufa from a mate...hard to reach yourself~!), or watch a movie, or make dinner together and eat it by candle light (I find babysitters for an hour or so do well! LOL!). Play a board game with the family even if you are tired (I just played sorry last night and we both were exausted...was SO FUN!).
There are lots of ideas! Just remember...work with no fun makes us all bad jack! LOL!!!!!!! MAKE time!!!
(BTW shower/tub/hottub time for us is a 'cleansing' from work time...a time to scrub the troubles away and just enjoy time at home...it is symbolic as well as soothing! "I'm going to wash that job right out of my hair..." LOL!