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Hi...very interesting. Angie, if what u say is true, ther are a lot of embittered nurses out there. In my experience with management, when bully/victim activity is going on the managers are not addressing the issue, nor are the bullys and victims. On the other hand, when I have worked with managers who do not allow victimization to go on, there has been none or if there is it is delt with immediately. Going further thinking about what u said, that would mean that managers and management who allow this kind of behavior would want it to continue to keep the "statis-quo" and their power trip going. Like goes to like, so then I guess that a person who is power hungry and a bully would only be comfortable working with like minded people. What do you think? And, what can we do about it?
I think that a good manager simply won't allow bullying and those nurses will either get with the culture or they'll be reassigned.
The rest of us need to raise our awareness of what is perceived as bullying behaviors, and resist the temptation to bully others or to be bullied.
I've met some nurses who I feel are bullies, but who themselves genuinely feel their rude, aggressive, controlling behaviors over their "too-passive" coworkers (this is their opinion, not mine) are what make them "good" nurses.
With experience, we learn to define our boundaries about what is and is not acceptable. Just like in other areas of our lives, we see others engage in successful behaviors and emulate them. As we teach ourselves to prevent treatment that demeans or denigrates us, we teach others to promote their own dignity and self-worth.
Where the media has failed us, the Internet has been a great boon in sharing ideas and raising awareness about many nursing issues. I believe that as Internet access becomes more common, there will be more changes coming for nurses everywhere.