It is frustrating isn't it to see nurses cater to docs this way. It is not everywhere trust me. Are you in smalltown USA? In large teaching hospitals in the Northwest, you will find nurses and doctors (from interns to attendings) are pretty lateral.
I work at a medium-size hospital in a semirural area and had a hard time when I first got here because of the nurses behavior. I will not give a doc the time of day if he doesn't give me the proper respect, you know?
If you feel you deserve respect as a nurse (and you do), then I would consider moving to a progressive metropolitan city and work at a teaching hospital with young docs and med students. The majority of folks coming through med schools
these days are taught and expected to treat nurses as invaluable members of the team.
I'll never forget the time a doctor had gone to visit a patient (waiting for a lung) and I get a call with the doctor in a panic saying, "Zach, can you come quick the patient is having trouble breathing!" LOL