Let me start off by saying that I fully admit I did not handle this situation well and want to make it right. (true confessions always get people's attention, don't they?
Last Friday I handed in my 2 week notice. I'm leaving my present job on the 10th and starting my new one on the 14th. I've been telling some of my regular patients that I'm leaving and taking the opportunity to say goodbye to them as I see them. Yesterday I got a call back from one of those patients. I saw her the day before and she wasn't happy at all when I told her. She's an elderly lady who's been having a really hard time and has been given a hard time a few times by the receptionists. (one of the reasons I'm leaving that place BTW, but I digress) Because of that I treated her a little more kindly and with kid gloves. When she called me she asked me if I was wiling to meet with her for a coffee or lunch as a thank you for all I did for her and to "just talk". This is where I boo-boo'd.
..I didn't have the heart to say no. Instead I said it would have to be in a few weeks and then I tried to tell her that it wasn't at all necessary. She insisted.
I don't think she wants anything per se...I think she's being sincere and that she's looking for a way to thank me. If I was still working there, it would cross the nurse/patient relationship. But would it still be the same if I don't work there? How on earth do I get myself out of this without hurting her? I keep wondering if it would be okay to have a quick coffee with her a few weeks AFTER I quit? If not, how should I word my change of mind?
Most times I have no problem saying no, but this one caught me off guard.