Nurse Bully, please protect your young – don’t eat them - page 4

I believe nurses are very special individuals. Think about it. They are professionals who take care of others in their dire moments. They patiently heal the putrid wounds of some; calm the fear and... Read More

  1. by   AN Admin Team
    Quote from SmilingBluEyes
    Respectfully, I don't see it as attacking the OP personally, but calling out the fallacies of the article he wrote. He put it out there for public consumption and it's being criticized as is done on public forums such as this. And I don't think this is being done unfairly but in truth.
    The member whose post I quoted suggested it might be better to take the discussion to another more appropriate thread and I was agreeing with her.

    Maybe the concern some of us have voiced about the recent slew of questionable "articles" is best addressed in a separate thread so as not to come off as a personal attack towards the OP. Would this be allowed?
    This is not the place to discuss what qualifies as an article. I appreciate that the member quoted was considerate in her suggestion.
  2. by   Farawyn
    The title puts me off so much I won't even read it.
    I commented on FB, too.

    This article as well as the "jokes" and memes about the best patients being medicated, etc. that are chosen to be put up on FB make AN look unprofessional and sensationalist.
    I have removed AN from my FB feed.
  3. by   Farawyn
    Oh, and, re-posted from Cattz in the SN Forum.

    This article is great, and what I try to follow, as well as pass on to the many nurses I have preceptored over the years.

    Words of wisdom for new nurses
  4. by   doodlebuttRN
    oops, I made a mistake and cannot seem to delete my comment. sorry
  5. by   AN Admin Team
    Quote from Farawyn
    The title puts me off so much I won't even read it.
    I commented on FB, too.

    This article as well as the "jokes" and memes about the best patients being medicated, etc. that are chosen to be put up on FB make AN look unprofessional and sensationalist.
    I have removed AN from my FB feed.
    These comments should be posted in the Site Feedback section where they will not get lost among all the other posts here. We appreciate your input.
  6. by   quitor1moretry
    I came to this site looking for some compassion, but also honesty, real experiences, but found none of that. I remember feeling like a nothing as an LPN. One day I said to the doctor I was working with, "I'm just an LPN." she furrowed her eyebrows and looked at me quizzically, as if she didn't understand what I had said. And then She yelled, I don't ever want to hear you say that again." She continued to yell at me, " I couldn't do my job without you. You save my day everyday!" If anybody ever said anything cross or mean about me to her and she felt it unjust, they got an ear full. Because she knew the challenges I faced just to make it as far as I have. She saw something special in me that nobody else had ever seen in me before, and nobody has seen in me since. Her words of encouragement have carried me a long way. and nobody can take away the fact that I am a good nurse.. I am compassionate. and I want to be part of helping others fulfill their goal to provide compassionate care. So, for those who like my message please respond to my questions, concerns, suggestions and comments. For those who think Im a wack job, please keep your opinions to your self.
    Thank you and good night.
  7. by   Spidey's mom
    Quote from Farawyn
    Oh, and, re-posted from Cattz in the SN Forum.

    This article is great, and what I try to follow, as well as pass on to the many nurses I have preceptored over the years.

    Words of wisdom for new nurses
    Thanks for that. I mentored two BSN students today. Took them with me for hospice visits. Also gave them a tour of the Dementia Unit and introduced them. They are eager to learn but saddened to realize that nursing school doesn't teach you all the clinical skills you need to know.

    I'll help them get as many experiences as I can.
  8. by   compassionresearcher
    For those of you affected by bullying, please take my survey! I need just 2 or 3 more.
    Exploring Nurse Bullying (horizontal violence, lateral violence, incivility) and Quality Patient Care Survey
  9. by   healthcare2015
    The truly professional nurses excel and advance. They are few but noticed and respected. They are stressed just as much as the bullies are but CHOOSE not to become negative and turn into that insensitive bully. The bully rationalizes that since they were bullied that they will return the favor to the next newbie.It should not be tolerated but it's reality.
  10. by   Tooda
    I heard the saying that nurses eat there you and it is horrible. I have been in the profession fir quite some time and it is not only that the young are attacked at times the more seasoned nurses are attacked to. I recently left a very stable job for a position that for years l desired (nurse evaluator/surveyor) the person that was my preceptor was half my age and made a lot less money than l did. Her attitude toward me rapidly changed abd she talked to me like a two year old. I became so stressed that my doctir put me out on a leave with the intention not to return. I had been a successful supervisor and at one point in my career a Director of Nursing. With this last job which ended my fulltime nursing career by my choice. I have a lot of experience in several areas of nursing and should have PhD behind my nsme but l wouldn't change the experience that l have for the alphabets behind my name. We as nurses should welcome the young and give them stepping stones to grow and utilize the older season nurses as points of reference
  11. by   Whatdayisit11to7
    I agree with the general principle, that nurses do become distressed and take it out on each other. It is not right, but it happens. Married people do that too. And siblings. And best friends. Literally everyone, to some extent has misdirected their anger. But it doesn't make all of them bullies (unless it's constant/excessive). It would be ideal for us all to always appropriately express ourselves to one another...but we are human. I am one of those "softy" young nurses...and I formed strong bonds with many nurses who did come off angry/intimidating...because I reacted like a professional. Usually there is something that the nurse is trying to teach me. Maybe the nurse expresses this in frustration, but rather than take it to heart, I learn. I also channel my "softy" compassion when anger is misdirected at me and that has opened doors to understanding and helping others, and even becoming friendly with the "Meanies" and in return...one of those "bullies" hugged me as i cried after a very stressful shift. My point...reactions matter too. And can completely change the bond between coworkers.
    Also...I've seen older nurses get disrespected, and bad mouthed by younger nurses. I see that a lot..."so and so is so set in her ways. So and so is too old, too slow." (Then, I want to hug so and so!) 99% of the nurses i think are, "mean" turn out to be such great nurses because I looked to find their good side. And that 1% of truly mean spirited nurses, are few/far...I've met only one. And I feel sorry for her. And i try not to let her get under my skin.

    Basically. Just look for the good in others. You'll find most bullies are just great nurses, trying to teach you, or having a bad day. Honestly!
  12. by   Azxrn
    Thank you admin!
  13. by   Ruby Vee
    Quote from quitor1moretry
    I came to this site looking for some compassion, but also honesty, real experiences, but found none of that. I remember feeling like a nothing as an LPN. One day I said to the doctor I was working with, "I'm just an LPN." she furrowed her eyebrows and looked at me quizzically, as if she didn't understand what I had said. And then She yelled, I don't ever want to hear you say that again." She continued to yell at me, " I couldn't do my job without you. You save my day everyday!" If anybody ever said anything cross or mean about me to her and she felt it unjust, they got an ear full. Because she knew the challenges I faced just to make it as far as I have. She saw something special in me that nobody else had ever seen in me before, and nobody has seen in me since. Her words of encouragement have carried me a long way. and nobody can take away the fact that I am a good nurse.. I am compassionate. and I want to be part of helping others fulfill their goal to provide compassionate care. So, for those who like my message please respond to my questions, concerns, suggestions and comments. For those who think Im a wack job, please keep your opinions to your self.
    Thank you and good night.
    There is plenty of wisdom, honesty and advice on this forum, although it will never be stated exactly as you prefer. You need to pick through a post, decide what pertains to your situation, choose the advice that will benefit you and overlook the rest. You cannot dictate how anyone else responds to anything you put out there, so you might as well decide up front that you'll use the nuggets of great information that you find and leave the rest.

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