Nurse Bully? - page 3

How do you deal with a nurse who is slamming things, condescending, humiliating, lying, harrasing other nurses, yelling at coworkers, cussing, complaining, changing her pt assignment before her... Read More

  1. by   Town & Country
    Many years ago I worked at a job where this nurse would constantly yell at everyone! RN, LPN, CNA it didn't matter who you were. Us nurses were wondering what we should do about it. Anyway, the CNA's took care of the problem. When she arrived to the job one day about 20 CNA's surrounded her car in the parking lot and they were all yelling at her. We never saw her again.

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  2. by   johnr1953
    I've dealt with MANY personnel over the years that think that this behavior is perfectly appropriate. IT's NOT!!!

    Why? Because it sets the work tone for the entire staff, for the entire unit, and the entire shift IF it's allowed to continue. It destroys morale and has a direct impact on the quality of care provided to the patients, not only by this individual, but by all personnel affected by his/her behavior.

    The solutions?

    1. YOU can be the leader by setting a tone by smiling, speaking respectfully to your co-workers and patients, and helping others.

    2. YOU can be the leader by -attempting- to genuinely and non-judgementally discussing this with the offending co-worker - and offering to help him/her improve. Consider asking your other co-workers to do the same with him/her.

    3. If these attempts fail - YOU can be the leader by letting the offending co-worker know that the behavior is unacceptable - and that should it continue you'll have no choice other than to file formal written complaints with Administration. This should not be an attack on the individual - it should be an attack on the behavior, and a clear statement of how this behavior negatively impacts -everyone's- patient care.

    I admit, it's not easy. Anything of consequence usually isn't. But maintaining consistency with a professional approach to this issue will go farther and be more successful than any other approach.

    Consistency...Consistency...Consistency...Consiste ncy

    Professionalism...Professionalism...Professionalis m...Professionalism

    John
  3. by   tterri22
    I definitely know how you feel. I have a nurse that follows my shift almost every night. A real ball buster! I have only been in my facility for four months and the first time this Rn meets me she pulls me aside at my nurses station and says "I know you are a new grad but you made a mistake with this discharge, and why didn't you say that this patient was leaving at five am? and so on and so." Real condescending and belittling and loud enough that all of my co-workers could hear her. I was mortified! Then she turns around and threatens me saying I should have been written up. ( this chick must have thought because I was a new grad that I was a real idiot!) Well come to find out what she was saying was a mistake on my part turns out that she was wrong and I had done it correctly. I went back to this girl a few minutes later and tried to let her know how disrespected I felt. Tried to explain to her that I was trying to be helpful to her and next time I would just leave it to her to finish by herself. Well since then this nasty RN has been writing up every petty thing she can find. Things she could just simply call me about or wait to the next shift day and ask me herself. I don't complain to the supervisor, but recently this girl claims I have an attitude and the suprvisor pulls me aside acting like I am the problem. So I explained that I feel personally attacked by this girl and don't understand why she can't be adult and come to me first when there is a problem. ( that is the chain of command) Supervisor tells me that I shouldn't take any offense. But someone please tell me How do you not when someone is up your *** every five minutes diggin for your mistakes. Feel like I need to be perfect, and super knows this girl is a problem with several staff members and does nothing.
  4. by   medsurgnurse
    Quote from tterri22
    I definitely know how you feel. I have a nurse that follows my shift almost every night. A real ball buster! I have only been in my facility for four months and the first time this Rn meets me she pulls me aside at my nurses station and says "I know you are a new grad but you made a mistake with this discharge, and why didn't you say that this patient was leaving at five am? and so on and so." Real condescending and belittling and loud enough that all of my co-workers could hear her. I was mortified! Then she turns around and threatens me saying I should have been written up. ( this chick must have thought because I was a new grad that I was a real idiot!) Well come to find out what she was saying was a mistake on my part turns out that she was wrong and I had done it correctly. I went back to this girl a few minutes later and tried to let her know how disrespected I felt. Tried to explain to her that I was trying to be helpful to her and next time I would just leave it to her to finish by herself. Well since then this nasty RN has been writing up every petty thing she can find. Things she could just simply call me about or wait to the next shift day and ask me herself. I don't complain to the supervisor, but recently this girl claims I have an attitude and the suprvisor pulls me aside acting like I am the problem. So I explained that I feel personally attacked by this girl and don't understand why she can't be adult and come to me first when there is a problem. ( that is the chain of command) Supervisor tells me that I shouldn't take any offense. But someone please tell me How do you not when someone is up your *** every five minutes diggin for your mistakes. Feel like I need to be perfect, and super knows this girl is a problem with several staff members and does nothing.
    Our managers are supposed to effectively manage people and group dynamics. Sounds like your manager is blind. Keep a log of every incident that happens. Surely, you are not the first person you co-worker has bullied, report to your manager next time she tries to bully you.
  5. by   HarryPotter
    Terri...you need to educate yourself on workplace bullys and workplace victims. I don't understand why you didn't immediately report this "peer" to your supervisor or why you did not document all the bullying you have taken. Not doing this only perpetuates the problem.

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