need advice from working moms

  1. I am going back to nursing (finally). I have two kids- 1 in 2nd grade the other in kindergarten.

    I am confused on the most appropriate hours that I should be working. My husband is away most of the time. I am not familiar with how it works with daycare..since I just got here from the Philippines and Im also worried on how my kids will adjust to this kind of a set up..( sorry, too many concerns to take out)..

    If any working moms out there can give me insights on how/ what the life style is here with having kids around...If I were to take the morning shift, the problem would be not having me around to get them up and prepare for school since I will have to leave before 7am. If I will take the evening shift, does it mean they will spend the night at another house with the people who takes care of them similar to daycare and again, they will have to leave for school from there..since I wont be home that early to prepare them to school.

    Is there such thing as working in less than 8 hours a day?

    Id really appreciate to hear from you working moms out there...and I salute all of you for the good work you do in balancing work and family..one day, id like to be in the same shoes where you are.
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  2. 10 Comments

  3. by   GPatty
    If you work 7a, you can take the kids to a daycare that opens early, and they will get the oldest off to school. Just be sure to find a reputable daycare for your children. Visit them frequently, and pop in unexpectedly.
    If you work the night shift, then yes, the kids would stay elsewhere while you work.
    My husband is here at night with the kids because I work 7p-7a. It works for us right now.
    Good Luck in all you do....

    Julie
  4. by   renerian
    One of the LTC/SNF facilities here has six hour shifts.......call around and see if anyone near you does that..............Good luck. I know it is a challenge.


    renerian
  5. by   cna on her way
    It depends on what you want to do. If you would work home health or agency, you can pick and choose your own ours. And some of them even offer 4hr shifts. Theres also weekend shifts where you could work 7a-7p or 7p-7a saturdays and sundays only. That may be a very good option for you if your husband is away alot because you could be there all week with your kids and only need a sitter two days.
  6. by   nimbex
    my facility has an on site day care!!!! from 6a-730p. Maybe there are a few hospitals in your area that have this.... gives you many daytime options. I work nights, my husband is home during this time though. good luck
  7. by   dawngloves
    Does the school have an after school program ? You could do 11-7 and send them off to school, sleep and then pick them up. If they had a program you could get more than 6 hours of sleep!
    It's tough when they're little. Good luck!
  8. by   mario_ragucci
    Originally posted by dawngloves
    If they had a program you could get more than 6 hours of sleep!
    It's tough when
    Take this into serious consideration. Defending your circadian rythum will be an important/essential battle. Don't [attempt to] think you can do it by getting less sleep, or writing <6 hours of good sleep off. Yule have difficulty learning. Put equal effort into ensuring your own comfort and safety [learning environment], as well as your children's. Yule all be in it together, best of luck.
  9. by   whipping girl in 07
    I don't know what will work for anyone else, but I know what's worked for our family. I work nights, 7p-7a, and my husband is home most of the time with our son. He does have to occasionally travel for his job, so if he's out of town and I have to work, Ian goes to spend the night with our neighbor or sometimes a babysitter will come stay with him at our house. Since I only work 3-4 nights a week, I don't have to worry about it too much. If you can sleep during the day (not a problem for me), then working nights might be a good choice for you and your kids, especially if you work somewhere where they only have 12 hour shifts.
  10. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Try perdiem work like I do...you work when you can and only when you want, and can work around kids' schedules.
  11. by   almostanurse
    what worked well for alot of people I know, is working weekends or just a couple days and then mega financial aid and student loans to make up the difference. you dont have to pay back student loans untell your out of school so thats a plus, and its really low interest.
    Its hard going back to school, and leaving your children with others.
    they ajust quicker then you think though. It was me that cried the first day of nursing school, my child had a blast.
  12. by   EXOTIC NURSE
    I remember those days.....LOL........I hope you can have access to a daycare with before school and after school programs that way you can work day shift and be home with your children in the night. LIke someone else suggested be very selective of the day care program you choose and also have unexpected visits occassionally to see what is going on. Talk to your children on a regular basis and ask them questions about their day. You have to have a good routine for them as well as yourself....Like a set bedtime and set time to eat dinner etc.... it can work....Good Luck to you and I wish you and your family the best......and Welcome to America by the way your children are quite young so young children usually dont have a difficult time adjusting.

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