My son is missing - page 5

My 17 year old son has been missing since last night. We've had trouble with him in the past year with drinking and marijuana, and he's been in counseling. But the past few months he's been clean. We... Read More

  1. by   mert
    OMG!! You must have been so worried!! Thank GOODNESS he was found! I am praying that things will work out. PLEASE keep us posted.
    mert
  2. by   nurs4kids
    My heart goes out to you cyer!! Your title struck fear in my heart. That is a mother's worst nightmare!! I'm so glad he was found. I pray that he gets the help he needs..that is such a tough age. Don't think his life is doomed..many of us ex-pot smoker's turn out okay Hopefully he's just sewing his oats.

    Good luck! You're in my thoughts and prayers.
  3. by   suni
    cyberkat, i am praying for you please post asap when your son returns safely as i pray he will
  4. by   thatldo
    Oh my gosh, so glad there is a good ending!
    Thank God!
  5. by   Spidey's mom
    Cybercat - my thoughts and prayers to you and your family. This is a very difficult time and I, unfortunately, have been where you are. The problem with thinking it is "sowing his oats" is that the decisions he is making have lifelong consequences (vandalizing a car, etc). And that is why I recommend Tough Love and Al-Anon to you and your family. If you go online to the Tough Love web site, they will be able to tell you if there is an organization near you.

    I think what made a huge impression on me is when I saw Carrol O'Connor (Archie Bunker) on TV after his son committed suicide. His son was addicted to heroin, had been in rehab many times and finally shot himself. Carroll held a news conference after and was furious at the drug dealer who kept selling the drugs to his son and was also heartsick that he didn't do more to try to stop his son's drug use. He said something to the effect of doing everything you can to get between your kids and drugs. He was sobbing. You have to be a parent and not a friend. I can take being hated for awhile if it means my kid's life is saved.

    Be strong. steph
  6. by   babynursewannab
    Thank God he was found and you will be able to take care of him (one way or another...).

    As a mother, I know, and agree with others who have said it, being a parent is NOT for the faint of heart.

    Good luck and breathe deep.
    (((((HUGS))))
  7. by   Kayzee
    So glad he is safe. I also have a son I worry about and it can be so hard trying to get through to him. I'm still working on it. I wish he had the life experience I have so he would understand. Wishing your family the best.
  8. by   TammyWilson808
    Sending you as much hugs and Hawaiian aloha from our hearts to you and yours! I am soooooo happy you found your son. I went to Costco today and for ten long, very frightening minutes my very precious five year old daughter was missing. She just wandered off---we can just imagine what you and your family was experiencing. Our hearts are so happy for you.
    Last edit by Keahi North Hi on Apr 27, '03
  9. by   NurseRachy
    Oh thank god he is ok - sending hugs and nothing but my best wishes your way. Keep your chin up!!
    Stay strong
    Rachel
  10. by   sixes
    I too have you in my thoughts and prayers, Please don't apoligize for posting here. I am the Mom of 5 teenage boys ages 12-18. I would feel the same way as you do. Please remember that your son is trying very hard to bring his life around. He has experienced a wee set back, I'm sure he is safe and remember he does have a cell phone so if he were in danger I'm sure he would call the people he knows he can count on in troubled times.
    He is just probable very scared right now. Hope everything turns out for the best.
    Pleases remember in your heart that he Loves You and doesn't realize the agony and fright he is causing you.
    Keep us posted
    Big Hugs too you and your family
  11. by   sixes
    Originally posted by sixes
    I too have you in my thoughts and prayers, Please don't apoligize for posting here. I am the Mom of 5 teenage boys ages 12-18. I would feel the same way as you do. Please remember that your son is trying very hard to bring his life around. He has experienced a wee set back, I'm sure he is safe and remember he does have a cell phone so if he were in danger I'm sure he would call the people he knows he can count on in troubled times.
    He is just probable very scared right now. Hope everything turns out for the best.
    Pleases remember in your heart that he Loves You and doesn't realize the agony and fright he is causing you.
    Keep us posted
    Big Hugs too you and your family
    Sorry I jumped the gun. I didn't read all the posts. So glad he is OK.
    I would throttle him too then I'd give him a big hug and remind him how much you all Love him. He's had a set back but I'm sure he will make it this time.
    Let him know that we are all with your family and we are praying for him
  12. by   Furball
    cyberKat

    How did I miss this thread?

    Glad your son was found. It is pure, gut wrenching, heart stabbing hell not knowing where your teen is. I've been there. Keep us all posted.

    I don't think teens fully realise the pain they cause when they go off track...not until they are parents themselves. I recently learned that our frontal lobes aren't fully developed until our 20's..this is where you find forethought and impulse control. Just an interesting tidbit...not meant to excuse his behavior.
    Furby
  13. by   Katnip
    The good news, at least to us is the police ended up arresting him. That was his biggest fear. The office actually asked us if it was ok, because most parents fight them on it. We told the officer to go ahead and scare the crap out of him to the max.

    Son is sitll in our custody, but he knows if there's a next time it's handcuffs and a trip to the detention center. Hopefully this will open his eyes some more.

    Again, I can't thakn you enough. I'll look into the Tough Love too, now that I'm awake.

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