My kids are sending me to the psyc. ward - page 7

THEY ARE DRIVING ME CRAZY!!! (sorry.. having one of those days) maybe because my hubby is gone (week #1 out of 5 mos). maybe because they are only 2 and 5 yrs old. maybe because Im too... Read More

  1. by   RNinICU
    Originally posted by angellavg
    i know where you are coming from!! i decided after a long and hard thought that i would go to walmart because we needed diapers and sandles for the summer. BIG MISTAKE!!!!!! we got in the door and it was like roaches scattering when the lights come on. my 2, 5, and 12 yo decided to all go in different ways. and then to try and put the 2 yo in a cart--that's like trying to wrestle an octopus. my husband works very strange hours (he works in a dairy) so i don't get a lot of help either. i don't even like to go to the grocery store because i end up with twice as much in the cart then i needed because i'm sick of the screaming fits. aren't children wonderful???????!!!!!!!!
    I always found it cheaper and easier to pay a babysitter when I went shopping, especially for groceries. I would take less time in the store , and spend less money when I went alone. The couple of dollars I gave the sitter was a great investment. And I would bring home small treats for the kids which they received if the sitter told me they had been well behaved.
  2. by   Whisper
    Nurse in boots, it sounds like you are doing a great job.
    I haven't got anykids of my own, but I do baby sit family members, and can draw on my own memories.

    My cousin asked me to babysit her son, 2y/o who she lets get away with murder, the first time he kicked, I turned off the tv, after a brief screaming match by him, I turned off the power because as soon as my back was turned he turned it on again... Then the tantrum started, I put him in the back garden until he apologised, and calmed down. I realise this probably sounds bad, but it was a closed military estate, and a fenced off garden, and it was summer and still light out. But he never played up for me again.

    Babysitting his brother, 4y/o, really bad language, was constantly being threatened would have his mouth washed out with soap, after he swore at me, I calmly said:" you can wash your mouth out, or I can" He stood and cleaned his teeth with soap on the brush.

    Physcial discipline shouldn't automaticaly equal abuse, I don't believe a child should ever be slapped across the face, especialy if it is becasue the parent has had enough, I am sure there is no way if you are that stressed that you can be sure you will not hurt the child.

    I am always obsesively careful about the line, although, physical discipline seems to be more accepted in the UK than in the US, for example, nurse in boots, int he resteraunt, you would probably heard quite a few people telling you to take your children over your lap, it happens a lot where I work.

    My own experience as a child?, I always new the threat of a smack was their because other peoples parents did it, and then my parents did to my sister once.
    I had my mouth washed out with soap, I still don't swear in front of my parents, they know I swear but as long as they don't hear it they are happy.

    I have never been grounded, or tried to runaway so my parents must have done something right, the one and only time physical discipline sticks in my mind, my sister bit a huge chunk out of my back, and she got a smack for it, I got stiches and a patch of skin that doesn't change colour in the sun!

    whisper

    p.s. Sorry for going on so long, steppingoff the soap/babble box, But I am tired and my neighbour is having a fricking party,
  3. by   baseline
    Passin thru....I Have seen posts from you that have angered and amazed me....but this thread beats the hell all........ slap them across the face? Keep your tax refund toots. You'll need it for your lawyer and get out of jail card......... Unbelievable....
  4. by   nurse2002
    When my youngest was about 2 years old he started throwing huge temper tantrums at home. Screaming, kicking the whole bit.
    For about two weeks I would sit on the floor indian style and put him on my lap and hold his arms and legs to his side. He would srceam and try to kick for about 1 hour. Id just talk soft to him. He would eventully tire himself out. Afer two weeks of this the tantrums quit.

    I guess he knew he wasnt going to get his way after awhile. Or he would forget about whatever was bothering him.
  5. by   Diana in Sweden
    Originally posted by nurse2002
    When my youngest was about 2 years old he started throwing huge temper tantrums at home. Screaming, kicking the whole bit.
    For about two weeks I would sit on the floor indian style and put him on my lap and hold his arms and legs to his side. He would srceam and try to kick for about 1 hour. Id just talk soft to him. He would eventully tire himself out. Afer two weeks of this the tantrums quit.

    I guess he knew he wasnt going to get his way after awhile. Or he would forget about whatever was bothering him.
    now this I like nurse2002
    you are holding him, showing both limits and love.

    oh and thanks.. I slept very well

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