My kids are sending me to the psyc. ward - page 2

THEY ARE DRIVING ME CRAZY!!! (sorry.. having one of those days) maybe because my hubby is gone (week #1 out of 5 mos). maybe because they are only 2 and 5 yrs old. maybe because Im too... Read More

  1. by   KaroSnowQueen
    I feel for you. I had five of the little angels.
    I remember specifically trying to go out for pizza and they were 6, 6, 5, 4, and 3. Your stories bring back SUCH memories.
    I can tell you this, as miserable as that night was for you, and as rotten as they acted, fifteen or twenty years from now you will be telling this story at Christmas dinner and laughing.
    It DOES get better.
    Mine are now 22, 22, 21, 20 and 19. I can almost breathe at night now. I do get to sleep and I do get to eat whole dinners without yelling!!!!
  2. by   jadednurse
    Just take pleasure in knowing that your sweet "revenge" will come when they grow up and have children of their own!!!
  3. by   Mimi2RN
    I used a harness on my youngest, from the time he was ready to escape, probably a couple of years. It gave him some independence, and probably saved him from dislocated elbows or shoulders, or from being hit by a truck.

    I wished twins on my oldest, didn't get them..........but in October they will have two, 15 mos apart. That's almost as good!

    Try to have a lunch out with a friend sometime, if you get someone to watch the kids. As they get bigger it becomes a little easier. Good luck!
  4. by   Disablednurse
    Nurse in boots, it is stories like yours that really make me glad that I have no children. I can borrow children from newborn to late teens any time I want to, when they start acting ugly, I can give them back. I know my DH and I made the right decision. I will think of you and my wish is for them to be much better and for you to live thru it. God bless you.
  5. by   nimbex
    been there two, have 3 of those aliens. one is 15 now, and her world revolves around her friends.... won't be long before the 11yr. old going on 19 turns her head too.

    If anything I can say to you... is that we have so little time with them while we are there whole world. Goes by so darn fast.

    hug those little devils tight while they'll still let you and let 'em play the video games before eating, they'll settle down with rumbling stomachs eventually. to hell with the people that turn their heads and look at you, you'll never see 'em again.... hopefully!!!

    And have that beer, you deserve it, give yourself credit for doing a grea job... I envy you and the time you have with them to be the center of their world.

    hugs, from one mom to another.
  6. by   nimbex
    PS., if the above advice does not work... I'll visit you in the psyc. ward.
  7. by   Liddle Noodnik
    Originally posted by nurse-in-boots
    THEY ARE DRIVING ME CRAZY!!!
    I feel for ya girl! I had the same trouble with my Thomas and his father was off somewhere drinking for a year and a half and having a great time (well, not REALLY, but I sure did resent having to do it alone!) I learned NOT to even eat at the same time as my son it was that bad! I would feed him first, love him to death (just about) and make sure he was about to pass out before I would eat (that desire to kill you were talking about? That is what I felt when after ALL that he STILL interfered with my meal!)

    Take heart, mine is going to be 16 Thursday and he STILL makes me crazy! Altho' I CAN take him out in public to eat now and he doesn't scream quite as loudly...
  8. by   zudy
    nurse-in-boots, I know just how you feel, my boys were 2 and 5 when thier father decided to go "find himself". It really does get better! At that age, when I wanted to take them "out to eat" I would usually go pick up burgers and picnic at a nearby park. that way they could be messy, run around , scream, and burn off a little energy. Then dump them in a bath with all their bath toys till they were prunes. THAT would usally get them tired enough to go on to bed(but not always!). Hang in there! And come here and vent when you need to.
  9. by   Snakum
    I remember what this can be like, though mine (both boys) weren't as rowdy as most, thank heavens. It has been my experience that once they hit 13 or 14 and you're facing all sorts of new problems, you'll look back wistfully at the toddler stages.

    Just take pleasure in knowing that your sweet "revenge" will come when they grow up and have children of their own!!!
    My poor old Mom always wished this one on me, because I was an absolute TERROR of an adolescent (anger problems and having the wrong friends). Unfortunately for her, my sons are fine young men who've never had to learn the life's lessons the hard way, like I did. I have one headed for college this Fall (18yo)and the younger one (16yo) will most likely enter the ministry. Just awesome!

    I tell my poor Mother, who worships her grandkids, that "Sometimes life just ain't fair."

    Minh
  10. by   Snakum
    my boys were 2 and 5 when thier father decided to go "find himself"
    He should have gone and done something else to himself ... sort of 'be fruitful and multiply', if you know what I mean.

    I adopted my boys when their mother and I married, and I'm the only father they've ever known (poor kids even look like me). When we divorced, the thought never entered my mind that I'd go do my own thing. I made a commitment ... and I honored it ... end of story. I'm not special, I just did what I had to do. Fathers who bail out on families are scumbags ... period.

    Minh
  11. by   purplemania
    I was shopping with my friend, also a nurse, and her 2 yr old when the baby threw a tantrum. She picked up the baby without a word, walked outside, got in the car and went home. When the child calmed down and begged to go to the store again, her Mom said "We will go when you are big enough to control yourself". I will never forget the control MOM showed, which was a big lesson to the child as well. Of course, without another adult to provide babysitting, etc. this method would be hard to practice
  12. by   cwazycwissyRN
    Back in the old days, I took a 4, two 3year olds and a two year old to the movies. As I walked in, I wondered why, knew I had lost my mind. The little angels did not budge throughout the whole movie, eyes glued to the screen. Thank God for ET. Miracles do happen.
    Don't ya love it when you take them shopping and they hide in the clothing racks:angel2:
  13. by   Mint Julip
    Oh boy can I relate. I have two little darlings, 14 and 4. They constantly bicker between themselves. He yells and she screeches. My son doesn't blatantly talk back, but he makes comments under his breath. That really burns my tail. My daughter's screech could shatter glass and when your inside a mall that screech is amplified 3x. She's also famous for hiding in the circular clothing racks. Took the kids shopping one night and my son took her to the toy dept. Somehow she got away from him and we searched for her for almost 20 minutes. I was so frightened that when we did find her instead of being angry I just burst into tears. I have never been so afraid in my life. When my husband is away on business for sometimes weeks at a time I have to be mom, dad and nurse so I know how frustrating it can be. Hang in there honey...

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