Munchausen by Internet: The Lying Disease that Preys on the Heart

We all know how it feels to discover that we've been lied to. Have you considered the possibility that you have been the victim of an elaborate online deception? Find out how you can protect yourself from this type of scam. Nurses General Nursing Article

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For decades, people have heard of Munchausen syndrome, a disorder characterized by people taking extraordinary measures to fake illnesses or psychological trauma for the sole purpose of attracting attention and sympathy from others. Munchausen sufferers will do almost anything to validate the delusion of their illness. Another variation of this disorder is Munchausen by proxy, in which people physically or psychologically harm loved ones to gain attention and sympathy. In more recent years, a newer variation of this disorder has been noted to infect online communities.

Munchausen by Internet

Internet traffic has exploded over the past two decades, providing users with instant access to information and networking with others. With the increasing number of online users and formation of online social communities and support groups, beginning in the 1990's there have been increasing reports of users who have deceived internet forum participants by portraying themselves as gravely ill or as victims of violence or psychological trauma. The internet was made for such fakers. Arming themselves with medical knowledge obtained through hours of perusing the internet, these users create intricate online stories of prolonged suffering and even death which end up being nothing more than fabrications.

A pattern for this new Munchausen variation was identified in 1998 by Dr. Marc Feldman, a clinical professor of psychiatry at the University of Alabama, and an expert on Munchausen syndrome and factitious disorder. Dr. Feldman coined the term "Munchausen by Internet" in an article published in 2000, "Munchausen by Internet: Detecting Factitious Illness and Crisis on the Internet".

What is Munchausen by Internet?

This disorder is essentially the same as the better known Munchausen syndrome, with the main difference being that people carry out their deceptions online. "On the Internet," Feldman explains, "it's very easy to fake. All you have to do is click and you go to another disease site. You can become an expert on anything in 30 minutes by visiting Google." At first, Munchausen by Internet was most common in online medical support groups, but variations of it now show up anywhere that people socialize online, such as social networking sites, blogs, forums, discussion groups and chat rooms. The fictitious stories can take months and even years to play out.

These deceivers are usually not newcomers to the site, but instead have already begun to weave their story of deception, making online friends while they are setting the stage. They portray themselves as incredible, wonderful and charismatic people. The drama unfolds in different ways but usually involves a sudden revelation by the writer that they have contracted a serious illness.

They may have already disclosed lesser challenges they have previously faced, just to ensure they have sympathetic listeners. All the time while weaving their web of deception, they are bravely coping with whatever tragic situation or string of situations they are facing. They go on to provide details of their declining situation, including hospitalizations, doctor appointments, treatments, etc.

Many times their condition/hospitalization will preclude them from using a computer, thus making it possible for another fictitious character to enter the picture and post in their place. This is usually a close friend or family member(s). They refrain from divulging their location or contact information such as telephone number. Most of these liars end up having shocking, sudden, or especially poignant deaths which is relayed by someone close to them. There may be a miraculous recovery, followed by relapses and more drama..... and prolonged suffering for both them and their followers. It will go on and on...

Red Flags

Put yourself in the place of one of the targeted "victims." At first, you are greatly saddened by the predicament of which the member posts. You want to help. You may even offer support. You find yourself drawn into the drama as it continues to unfold with layer upon layer of catastrophic detail. Slowly, you notice the story contains more and more discrepancies. You tend to make excuses for these inconsistencies, thinking the faker's thought processes may be clouded by the medications and illness. As the lies continue to pile up, you slowly come to the realization that you've "been had". And on that day, you feel like a total doofus. There is an overwhelming sense of betrayal as you realize you have been lied to, used, and manipulated. You may even feel angry at the perpetrator.

7 Clues To Detecting Munchausen by Internet Sufferers

Once you have been fooled by one of these liars, looking back you will see more and more inconsistencies and red flags in their story. While the stories vary greatly, the behavior of these people is consistent enough that Dr Feldman has described seven "clues to detection of false claims" based on numerous case studies.

  1. The posts consistently duplicate material in other posts, in books, or on health-related websites;
  2. The characteristics of the supposed illness emerge as caricatures based on the individual's misconceptions;
  3. Near-fatal bouts of illness alternate with miraculous recoveries;
  4. Claims are fantastic, contradicted by subsequent posts, or flatly disproved (e.g. a call to the hospital reveals that there is no such patient);
  5. There are continual dramatic events in the person's life, especially when other group members have become the focus of attention;
  6. The individual resists telephone contact or contact via mail, sometimes offering odd justifications
  7. There is feigned blitheness about crises (e.g., going into septic shock) that will predictably attract immediate attention;
  8. Others apparently posting on behalf of the individual (e.g., family members, friends) have identical patterns of writing.

Motivation

What motivates people to do this? Dr. Feldman states that the clue to their motivation "may lie in the power granted by online communities to quantify the sympathy for an illness or the shock of a death via comment boxes or replies to a journal thread." These fakers can sit back and read the comments of support from numerous readers who are following the created saga as their illness progresses. They relish the thought that their words are eliciting sadness and tears. "It feeds the desire of the narcissist and provides the lonely with the attention that they may never previously have known."

We know that this type of behavior will only increase as others take their lies to the internet. So what can we do? How do we respond? These people are seeking attention, so indifference is one of our defense tactics. As nurses on a nursing website or in any real-life situations we should of course be compassionate and supportive of others in genuine need. Most people online and in real life, are usually telling something close to the truth most of the time. They may embellish their story a bit, but nothing close to what we are referring to here.

Nurses Targeted

As an online nursing community, we are susceptible to being used by Munchausen by Internet sufferers, as well as deceptive posters in general. Because we are nurses, we are very caring people. We are trained to help folks. People like this know how to prey on others...they know all the right buttons to push. It is easy for us to get caught up in this type of scam. This is a lesson for all of us to learn. We cannot always trust what people post online. We should be alert and question the veracity of online assertions and balance empathy with circumspection. You must guard yourselves against getting sucked in. It is also important to not provide personal information to members you do not know.

If you suspect a member is posting deceitful information with the characteristics of this disorder, it is best to report your suspicions to the Administrators of this site or the site on which you are participating. They will take actions to investigate the matter. Remember......you are dealing with someone who is mentally ill, and their response to confrontation is unpredictable. Upon discovery of false posting, most Munchausen by internet scammers leave after possible denials. They search to find another online group on which they can prey.

Let me leave you with one last thought. We have always heard the phrase "If it seems to be too good to be true, it probably is." In this case... If it seems too bad to be true, it probably isn't.

To read more articles, go to my AN blog: Body, Mind, and Soul, Be the Nurse You Would Want as a Patient, From the Other Side of the Bed Rails - When the Nurse Becomes the Patient


References

Feldman, Marc D., MD. Bibby, and S. D. Crites, "'Virtual' factitious disorders and Munchausen by proxy," The Western Journal of Medicine

Feldman, Marc D., MD, "Munchausen by Internet: Detecting Factitious Illness and Crisis on the Internet," Southern Medical Journal 



Feldman, Marc D., MD and Maheu, Marlene M., Ph.D., "Doctor Exposes Munchausen by Internet," SelfhelpMagazine

Feldman, M.D., (2004): Playing Sick?: Untangling the web of Munchausen syndrome, Munchausen by proxy, malingering, and factitious disorder. New York, Brunner-Routledge Hyman

Madrid, Cienna, "The Lying Disease: Why Would Someone Want to Fake a Serious Illness of the Internet?” www.thestranger.com

Russo, Francine, "Cybersickness - Munchausen by Internet Breeds a Generation of Fakers"

Smith, Morgan, "Munchausen by Internet: People Who Fake Illness and Death Online"

Swains, Harold, "Q&A: Munchausen by internet," Wired.co.uk

Szalavitz, Maia, "Munchausen by Internet: Faking Illnesses Online"

 

Thank you for this great post! I' just new to online communities like this and I might be possible victim if I haven't read this article! I'm just so glad I am a part of this community because I am really learning a lot...

Specializes in PICU, NICU, L&D, Public Health, Hospice.

I certainly have shared some of my medical experiences with AN.

I wonder if people think I made them up...

I certainly have shared some of my medical experiences with AN.

I wonder if people think I made them up...

I think the OP gave a good outline as to what to look for in a fraud....most people, at one time or another, DO have medical problems--either themselves or a relative or friend--and I don't think we need to suspect most people of such posts.

It's when it becomes overly dramatic, fantastical, involves multiple people posting "on behalf of" and such that the red flag should be raised.

Personally, I've been involved with a number of online social groups over the last 17 or so years, and have had my own experiences with the occasional wingnut who poses as a normal person--and is anything but. Unfortunately, such people can wend their way through online societies with relative ease, since we really *DON'T* know what they really look like, their actual age, and frankly, even if the gender is correct. I've been a victim of fooling, and thankfully it didn't cost me anything financially--but the anger it created among those of us who found ourselves caring for a fictitious person in a fictitious situation left a sting I still can feel.

Specializes in ICU/ER.

Thank you to the OP for an insightful article on what, sadly, appears to be a insidious problem.

I went nursing school with a student who it was discovered, shortly before graduation, was not only telling a few online communities that she actively HAD breast cancer but was passing herself off as a nurse practitioner and doling out advice (which was how she got busted) online. I don't remember what the consequences were for her because this transpired days before graduation but I hope she got help she clearly needs.

As a cancer survivor, I try very hard NOT to get mad when people lie and say they have cancer but I will be forever confused what it is about cancer that sounds so darn glamorous. I am completely baffled why it becomes the go to disease of choice for attention seekers. It sucks. It sucks when you're diagnosed with it...while you're being treated for it...what it does to your peace of mind and your family and then even when it is gone you worry about it coming back. Why in the world would anyone, exercising free will, WANT that??

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Specializes in Peds, Med-Surg, Disaster Nsg, Parish Nsg.

As a cancer survivor, I try very hard NOT to get mad when people lie and say they have cancer but I will be forever confused what it is about cancer that sounds so darn glamorous. I am completely baffled why it becomes the go to disease of choice for attention seekers. It sucks. It sucks when you're diagnosed with it...while you're being treated for it...what it does to your peace of mind and your family and then even when it is gone you worry about it coming back. Why in the world would anyone, exercising free will, WANT that??

Exactly!!!!

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Specializes in ortho, hospice volunteer, psych,.
I certainly have shared some of my medical experiences with AN.

I wonder if people think I made them up...

I too have shared some of my medical history on allnurses and have wondered whether people now question my veracity. Can't help it if they do. I have a neurological history so unusual that parts of it appear in medical texts. What a heckuva way to be immortalized!:wideyed:

Specializes in I.C.U,PERIOPERATIVE NURSING,BSN.

I must commend the writer of this article, for taking out time to write this piece. A fantastic article it is I must say. Thanks for raising the awareness about this menace, and enlightening the mind of some of us who absolutely have no idea of what it is. I well know that allnurses.com has proven to be a haven for nurses, many persons get support and encouragement from this forum, even in their lowest of lows, that includes but is not restricted to some genuine terminal ailments, with d support and help of nurses on this forum they have been able to pull through or cope with it. Please may this not hinder us in any way from expressing our innate abilities to show compassion and love to one another genuinely from our hearts, which this forum is known for. However our well meaning concern, is to identify symptoms of this psychological disorder, how to handle or cope with individuals who exhibit them,but not to fall prey to unsolicited attention seekers. Or be unusually suspicious of ourselves, doing so will be far from the motive of the writer. Thanks again Tnbutterfly.

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Specializes in Peds, Med-Surg, Disaster Nsg, Parish Nsg.
I must commend the writer of this article, for taking out time to write this piece. A fantastic article it is I must say. Thanks for raising the awareness about this menace, and enlightening the mind of some of us who absolutely have no idea of what it is. I well know that allnurses.com has proven to be a haven for nurses, many persons get support and encouragement from this forum, even in their lowest of lows, that includes but is not restricted to some genuine terminal ailments, with d support and help of nurses on this forum they have been able to pull through or cope with it. Please may this not hinder us in any way from expressing our innate abilities to show compassion and love to one another genuinely from our hearts, which this forum is known for. However our well meaning concern, is to identify symptoms of this psychological disorder, how to handle or cope with individuals who exhibit them,but not to fall prey to unsolicited attention seekers. Or be unusually suspicious of ourselves, doing so will be far from the motive of the writer. Thanks again Tnbutterfly.

And thank YOU for this most excellent post. I agree with this 100%!!! Thank you for understanding the objective of the article.

One of the worst things about this disorder is the fact that is often wreaks havoc in its wake. It tends to cause a questioning and distrustfulness after its exposure. But hopefully, armed with the information about this disorder and its symptoms, we can continue to offer a safer haven for those who are truly suffering with real illnesses and challenges.

I echo what opjewel has said:

Please may this not hinder us in any way from expressing our innate abilities to show compassion and love to one another genuinely from our hearts, which this forum is known for.
Specializes in clinical ex in med/surg/cardio/BH/PED/OB.

I won't mention names but my fiancée had a kid with someone whoexpresses these character traits. Luckily, my analytical mind, plus my intuitionkicked into gear and was able to detect her sinister ways. Conversely, she hada web around my ostrich fiancée for quite sometime, before I could get him tosee her true colors. I am a firm believer in that the truth always comes out.By the way loved this article, it was nicely written! It was like light burstingout of darkness.:)

I won't mention names but my fiancée had a kid with someone whoexpresses these character traits. Luckily, my analytical mind, plus my intuitionkicked into gear and was able to detect her sinister ways.

bolding by me.

i see "munchausen by internet" as a mental illness that deserves the same consideration as all the others.

maybe this girl was "sinister" but not everyone that does this, is an evil/sinister person.

they are sick...and it warrants compassion, imo. :)

leslie

TeleRN44 said:
As a cancer survivor, I try very hard NOT to get mad when people lie and say they have cancer but I will be forever confused what it is about cancer that sounds so darn glamorous. I am completely baffled why it becomes the go to disease of choice for attention seekers. It sucks. It sucks when you're diagnosed with it...while you're being treated for it...what it does to your peace of mind and your family and then even when it is gone you worry about it coming back. Why in the world would anyone, exercising free will, WANT that??

Congrats on being such a survivor, tele.

I don't think the 'storytellers' "Want" cancer per se...

But it is undoubtedly the disease that evokes a powerful, attentive, and supportive response from most people.

I agree wholeheartedly, that it is something you don't deceive others with.

Karma is a tricky phenomenon.

And one's actions can and will invite an unwanted/unexpected response from the universe.

I seriously sympathize and pity those who go to such lengths in constructing then living their lies.

Their deluded needs are far more serious and damaging than the insult it creates for others.

And I continually pray these tortured souls find the solace they so desperately seek and need.

Leslie

Specializes in Psych, LTC/SNF, Rehab, Corrections.

I didn't know what to make of that football guy and his drama. Now the catfisher behind it all was a man?

This whole 'catfish' situation is very new to me.

I find it beyond weird that someone would go to such lengths. I don't see the big deal with the internet, I guess. I really don't even have a facebook page. It usually never makes sense to others when I say this, but I just don't see the point in it unless I'm going to play the games. I don't really 'get' twitter, either. LOL I don't know of anyone who twitters, either. Is that a high-school/middle-school thing? To me? Unless you're a business owner or brand-building, who the hell cares about what you're thinking about 24/7?