Munchausen by Internet: The Lying Disease that Preys on the Heart - page 5

For decades, people have heard of Munchausen syndrome, a disorder characterized by people taking extraordinary measures to fake illnesses or psychological trauma for the sole purpose of attracting... Read More

  1. Visit  TeleRN44 profile page
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    Thank you to the OP for an insightful article on what, sadly, appears to be a insidious problem.

    I went nursing school with a student who it was discovered, shortly before graduation, was not only telling a few online communities that she actively HAD breast cancer but was passing herself off as a nurse practitioner and doling out advice (which was how she got busted) online. I don't remember what the consequences were for her because this transpired days before graduation but I hope she got help she clearly needs.

    As a cancer survivor, I try very hard NOT to get mad when people lie and say they have cancer but I will be forever confused what it is about cancer that sounds so darn glamorous. I am completely baffled why it becomes the go to disease of choice for attention seekers. It sucks. It sucks when you're diagnosed with it...while you're being treated for it...what it does to your peace of mind and your family and then even when it is gone you worry about it coming back. Why in the world would anyone, exercising free will, WANT that??
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  2. Visit  tnbutterfly profile page
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    Quote from TeleRN44
    As a cancer survivor, I try very hard NOT to get mad when people lie and say they have cancer but I will be forever confused what it is about cancer that sounds so darn glamorous. I am completely baffled why it becomes the go to disease of choice for attention seekers. It sucks. It sucks when you're diagnosed with it...while you're being treated for it...what it does to your peace of mind and your family and then even when it is gone you worry about it coming back. Why in the world would anyone, exercising free will, WANT that??
    Exactly!!!!
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  3. Visit  sharpeimom profile page
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    Quote from tewdles
    I certainly have shared some of my medical experiences with AN.
    I wonder if people think I made them up...
    I too have shared some of my medical history on allnurses and have wondered whether people now question my veracity. Can't help it if they do. I have a neurological history so unusual that parts of it appear in medical texts. What a heckuva way to be immortalized!
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  4. Visit  opjewel profile page
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    I must commend the writer of this article, for taking out time to write this piece. A fantastic article it is I must say. Thanks for raising the awareness about this menace, and enlightening the mind of some of us who absolutely have no idea of what it is. I well know that allnurses.com has proven to be a haven for nurses, many persons get support and encouragement from this forum, even in their lowest of lows, that includes but is not restricted to some genuine terminal ailments, with d support and help of nurses on this forum they have been able to pull through or cope with it. Please may this not hinder us in any way from expressing our innate abilities to show compassion and love to one another genuinely from our hearts, which this forum is known for. However our well meaning concern, is to identify symptoms of this psychological disorder, how to handle or cope with individuals who exhibit them,but not to fall prey to unsolicited attention seekers. Or be unusually suspicious of ourselves, doing so will be far from the motive of the writer. Thanks again Tnbutterfly.
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  5. Visit  tnbutterfly profile page
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    Quote from opjewel
    I must commend the writer of this article, for taking out time to write this piece. A fantastic article it is I must say. Thanks for raising the awareness about this menace, and enlightening the mind of some of us who absolutely have no idea of what it is. I well know that allnurses.com has proven to be a haven for nurses, many persons get support and encouragement from this forum, even in their lowest of lows, that includes but is not restricted to some genuine terminal ailments, with d support and help of nurses on this forum they have been able to pull through or cope with it. Please may this not hinder us in any way from expressing our innate abilities to show compassion and love to one another genuinely from our hearts, which this forum is known for. However our well meaning concern, is to identify symptoms of this psychological disorder, how to handle or cope with individuals who exhibit them,but not to fall prey to unsolicited attention seekers. Or be unusually suspicious of ourselves, doing so will be far from the motive of the writer. Thanks again Tnbutterfly.
    And thank YOU for this most excellent post. I agree with this 100%!!! Thank you for understanding the objective of the article.

    One of the worst things about this disorder is the fact that is often wreaks havoc in its wake. It tends to cause a questioning and distrustfulness after its exposure. But hopefully, armed with the information about this disorder and its symptoms, we can continue to offer a safer haven for those who are truly suffering with real illnesses and challenges.

    I echo what opjewel has said:

    Please may this not hinder us in any way from expressing our innate abilities to show compassion and love to one another genuinely from our hearts, which this forum is known for.
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  6. Visit  Yolandalee profile page
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    I won't mention names but my fiance had a kid with someone whoexpresses these character traits. Luckily, my analytical mind, plus my intuitionkicked into gear and was able to detect her sinister ways. Conversely, she hada web around my ostrich fiance for quite sometime, before I could get him tosee her true colors. I am a firm believer in that the truth always comes out.By the way loved this article, it was nicely written! It was like light burstingout of darkness.
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  7. Visit  leslie :-D profile page
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    Quote from Yolandalee
    I won't mention names but my fiance had a kid with someone whoexpresses these character traits. Luckily, my analytical mind, plus my intuitionkicked into gear and was able to detect her sinister ways.
    bolding by me.

    i see "munchausen by internet" as a mental illness that deserves the same consideration as all the others.
    maybe this girl was "sinister" but not everyone that does this, is an evil/sinister person.
    they are sick...and it warrants compassion, imo.

    leslie
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  8. Visit  leslie :-D profile page
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    Quote from TeleRN44
    As a cancer survivor, I try very hard NOT to get mad when people lie and say they have cancer but I will be forever confused what it is about cancer that sounds so darn glamorous. I am completely baffled why it becomes the go to disease of choice for attention seekers. It sucks. It sucks when you're diagnosed with it...while you're being treated for it...what it does to your peace of mind and your family and then even when it is gone you worry about it coming back. Why in the world would anyone, exercising free will, WANT that??
    congrats on being such a survivor, tele.

    i don't think the 'storytellers' "want" cancer per se...
    but it is undoubtedly THE disease that evokes a powerful, attentive, and supportive response from most people.
    i agree wholeheartedly, that it is something you don't deceive others with.
    karma is a tricky phenomenon.
    and one's actions can and will invite an unwanted/unexpected response from the universe.

    i seriously sympathize and pity those who go to such lengths in constructing then living their lies.
    their deluded needs are far more serious and damaging than the insult it creates for others.
    and i continually pray these tortured souls find the solace they so desperately seek and need.

    leslie
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  9. Visit  MedChica profile page
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    I didn't know what to make of that football guy and his drama. Now the catfisher behind it all was a man?
    This whole 'catfish' situation is very new to me.
    I find it beyond weird that someone would go to such lengths. I don't see the big deal with the internet, I guess. I really don't even have a facebook page. It usually never makes sense to others when I say this, but I just don't see the point in it unless I'm going to play the games. I don't really 'get' twitter, either. LOL I don't know of anyone who twitters, either. Is that a high-school/middle-school thing? To me? Unless you're a business owner or brand-building, who the hell cares about what you're thinking about 24/7?
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  10. Visit  FranEMTnurse profile page
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    Quote from netglow
    I like to help and support, but there is a line not to cross.I have to add that many members here have had horrible medical problems and I will continue to support them.
    Wonderful.
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  11. Visit  Anggelica profile page
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    Quote from tewdles
    munchausen by internet is preferrable to munchausen by proxy...
    I agree because they are not using resources that can be life saving for other people.
  12. Visit  tnbutterfly profile page
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    I agree with the above.......At least with Munchausen by internet, there is usually not another innocent victim (usually a child) involved, as is the case with Munchousen by Proxy. And the person using the internet for this ruse is generally not inflicting pain/harm on themselves to make people believe they are ill. They just use words with the help of the internet to gain sympathy and attention.
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  13. Visit  anon456 profile page
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    I unfortunately had the experience of encountering one of these people, who actually was suffering from Munchhausen By Proxy in real life. Her child was the victim, and so were we, the members of her on-line support group. My child had some health issues and I joined this wonderful group on-line to share experiences and vent after a difficult day to those who understood. There was one mom who was on quite frequently. Her child was preschool aged but very very small and weak. She had several disorders including multiple UTI's, severe feeding intolerances, and other chronic infection-type things. In the course of her being a member of our group, her child underwent a Nissan Fundoplication, exploratory bowel surgery, several scopes, several kidney and bladder studies, had a g-tube put in, then a G-J, then went to TPN via PICC line. She was constantly in the hospital. One day one of the members of the group posted a link to a news article in the local paper that identified the women in our support group and said she had been arrested! We all felt so sick and betrayed. The posts were used in court as evidence along with the evidence collected at the hospital.

    Here's the case:

    Mom gets 15 years for hurting daughter - US news - Crime & courts | NBC News
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