Mr. Manly Male Nurse - page 3

I was told that a great percentage of male nurses were homosexuals, (gay) what ever:(. Am I going to be percieved as a homosexual because of my choice to become a nurse? And if so why? Are people... Read More

  1. by   NRSKarenRN
    Found at ANA's nursing world:

    Men: A Solution to the Nursing Shortage
    4/30/02

    In his 25 years as a nurse, Graham McDougall, Jr., PhD, RN, remembers only one advertising campaign for nurses aimed at men. "I remember one of the posters ... It was a young kid being examined by a male nurse and it said something like 'When I grow up I want to be a nurse just like my dad,'" Dr. McDougall said. Frank Heasley, PhD, President and CEO, of MedZilla.com, agrees that gender based perceptions hinder acceptance of nursing as a worthy profession by men.

    Read complete article at http://www1.internetwire.com/iwire/r...ease_id=41365.
  2. by   Rustyhammer
    My 10 year old says he wants to be a nurse just like Dad.
    "I'll get to help people, have fun and make lots of money". (oh well, 2 outta 3 aint bad)
    -Russell
  3. by   Rustyhammer
    as far as being thought of or considered gay or straight, I don't care what people think about my sexuality. I've been hit on by both sexes.
    -Russell
  4. by   wrightgd
    Is there a "Top Ten Dead Give Aways to Spot a Gay Man"???

    Is male nurse on that list? What if I like the color pink? Could that be some insight as to my sexual preference? Or if I have really good taste in decorating?

    Society is filled with close minded individuals who are going to make assumptions of everyone... If I see this in you, then such and such MUST be true...

    Shakespeare said it best... "to thine own self be true"...
    You can't live your life worried about what the world thinks of you...

    I'm not even sure I would be concerned with how a profession itself perceived by the world. Even though I think nursing ranked second to firefighters in a recent poll about professional integrity. The issue with a choice of your career path is more one of "what do I really enjoy doing", not what will the world think of me if I am a _____? (insert nurse, interior decorator, engineer...)

    Who I am, and what I am is no one's concern but MINE. When it's quiet at night, and I lay my head on the pillow, I sleep well because I know who I am, and what's important in my life. And I'm proud to be a nurse, regardless of what anyone else thinks.

    George
  5. by   James Huffman
    I've found that attitudes have changed over the last 20 years. When I first went into nursing, the gay question came up fairly frequently. But over time, it became less and less of an issue. Of course, I think the whole question has become less of an issue for society in general as well. But in answer to your question, R.J., no one is probably going to ask or care. And, frankly, those who do care are usually not worth worrying over.

    Jim Huffman, RN

    www.networkfornurses.com
  6. by   Dplear
    As a Straight male nurse....vs being a bent Male nurse...(though most people will say I am a little bent esp in my humor) I know how to spot a Gay male nurse right away. I look around at the other male nurses on the unit and if they are better looking than me they are gay........

    Dave
  7. by   nursedawn67
    I just don't get why people feel that if a guy is gentle and caring that he must be gay....would they rather all guys go around grunting, and cussing and pushing others around just prove they are a man?!? Frankly when I have been in the hospital and seen a man that is a nurse my first thought is not "gee I wonder if he is gay?"....no instead my first thought is "gee I hope he knows what the H*** he is doing!" I think that with any one "I hope they know what they are doing!"
  8. by   freethnkr
    kewlnurse writes:

    "There are a few homo's where i work, but are in the minority, a few are the sterotypical sissies, some you would never know.
    I personally have never been accused of being a prom queen but just to make sure I try to sleep with as many of the female staff as possible.(and beofer some of you get all, your married..., I',m kidding. I only sleep with the best looking ones )"

    freethnkr replies:

    There are more than a few breeders where I work, they're the majority. A few are the sterotypical neaderthals, some you would never know. I've never been accused of being a prom queen either, but just to make sure, I try to sleep with as many of the male staff as possible (and before some of you get all, "but you're in a committed relationship...", I'm kidding, I only sleep with the straight ones.)

    Homos???????????? Really kewlnurse, that's so 50's.

    Jim
    who happened to play football, tennis, and run track in high school and made his first attempt at higher education on a track scholarship. who also happens to be the father of twins. who happens to be an engineer in the aerospace industry. who also happens to be studying to be a nurse right now. who also happens to be gay and fabulous.

    Sponge bath?
  9. by   Peeps Mcarthur
    Back in '89 I was looking into allied health as a career. While I was looking into a resp therapy school,I saw some student nurses going into class in another building. I went to talk to them to find out how they liked and what it was like. I had been wanting to become a nurse but felt it was not something a man is often found doing as a career, still I was drawn to the nurses much more than the rt's but I just couldn't get past that stereotype of the gay male nurse. The minute a group came in wearing those hats, it was more than my male ego could stand and I pretty much left there knowing that I could never feel like that all day at work. I already had a problem getting a date. Just imagine the comments I would have endured from my buddies about my lack of a girfriend and my awkwardness with them coupled with wanting to become a nurse. It's easy talking about it with intelligent educated people that have a little worldly sophistication but I grew up in the sticks in AZ. All my friends were beer drinking redneck neanderthals. I was a boy-man that always struck-out with women..................those beer buddies would think just that.....uhmm huh........"I always thought he would be"

    Ten years later and an unfulfilled short-lived "career" as an RT later I'm ready to put that behind me and start a nursing carrer. It was the fact that I felt I didn't belong, because of my social influences. I always wanted to be a baseball player and just one of the guys. I thought I would be "faking it" as a nurse. I thought I would be giving in to some deep dark desire to be one of the girls. I had never seen a male nurse or ever even heard of one unless he was gay. There was nothing else to go by. Once I got into RT work I met some male nurses that were just like me..........minus the character flaw and the inabillity to score. I still could not work OB or PEDS because that's just not in me but Nursing?..........Yea OK, I admit it.

    I want to be a nurse.

    Yes there was a stereotype to overcome that is still hanging around today. It's undeniable and despite what men say,it still sits in the back of our minds and asks "do people think I'm gay?" "How come I'm in a female dominated profession?"

    You just can't get past it.
    I'm tired of trying to outrun it or try to pretend it's not there. I'm just going to deal with it.
  10. by   kewlnurse
    Originally posted by Dplear
    As a Straight male nurse....vs being a bent Male nurse...(though most people will say I am a little bent esp in my humor) I know how to spot a Gay male nurse right away. I look around at the other male nurses on the unit and if they are better looking than me they are gay........

    Dave
    Yeah and the female staff that won't date ya are all lesbians too right :chuckle
  11. by   adrienurse
    Don't worry nurseboy. Once you enter any female dominated workplace, you will be hereby declared "fresh meat" Every XX chomasomed nurse worth her little white shoes will make it HER BUSINESS to determine your marital status, sexual preference and shoe size within your first week at work. It won't be a mystery for long.
  12. by   2ndCareerRN
    Every XX chomasomed nurse worth her little white shoes will make it HER BUSINESS to determine your marital status, sexual preference and shoe size within your first week at work.
    The ones I have run across must be in a faster part of the country. If those questions aren't asked in the first shift they are slacking!!

    Yeah and the female staff that won't date ya are all lesbians too right
    Now you have popped my bubble, with my affinity for the female form in every size, shape and color...I always thought I was a lesbian! Now I find out it is gender specific!

    bob
  13. by   wildfire11
    In reply to your post,
    I can't even believe at this point you would post something like that. I am a female, new R.N. working in telemetry. I just graduated in 2001 and had a few males in my class, that if I was younger, I would have dreamed of dating. These guys were straight and obviously scooped up right off the bat. I also dated a male nurse about four years ago. He was constantly getting the question "Are you gay?" I can't for the life of me wonder where anyone would get off thinking that a guy being a nurse would be grounds for being gay. And so what is he is as long as he is a good nurse, and a safe nurse, what do you care? You sound pretty insecure to me, maybe you are the homophobic. I am a divorced female, and have a child, until a month ago, I was engaged so I wore a ring etc., now I don't. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't get asked by my male patients, if I am married etc., it shouldn't matter. I am not going to date them. I have to say I have been privileged to work with several male nurses and they have taught me a lot. You need to get over your problem. Nursing is a profession, it has nothing to do with your sexual orientation and if you are bothered by it, maybe you can't hack it.
    Wildfire11

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