Mr. Manly Male Nurse - page 2

I was told that a great percentage of male nurses were homosexuals, (gay) what ever:(. Am I going to be percieved as a homosexual because of my choice to become a nurse? And if so why? Are people... Read More

  1. by   joeyrigor
    Originally posted by R. J.
    I was told that a great percentage of male nurses were homosexuals, (gay) what ever. Am I going to be percieved as a homosexual because of my choice to become a nurse? And if so why? Are people really that stupid or shallow to ass-u-me that a lifestyle chooses a profession, or that a profession chooses a lifestyle. I am married with a child. I think that more married men should persue nursing to reverse this stigma.
    Sorry, but I couldn't help but shake my head upon reading this self-serving bit of ......

    Firstly, no, people are not really that stupid or shallow - you're maybe just as ignorant or insecure about your profession as they are about you.

    Secondly, it is offensive. Why would an assumption of being "gay" be an affront to your "Manly Male Nurseness?" Is being gay considered "lesser"? - as is implied in your post..
    You sure you're not my homophobic neighbour, Phil...is that you under that avatar????

    No, I am not gay. But I couldn't care less if people thought I was one or the other. I have three kids and a wonderful wife ..but these characteristics alone don't make me a man - and why would I PURSUE a profession simply to reverse a "Stigma"? Patients need GOOD nurses male/female/gay or otherwise to care for them.

    BTW, I may have sounded too forward in my response but if u meant anything else other than what u have written, u would have done it.

    If you're not part of the solution, you are part of the problem. Get an attitude fix, nurse.
  2. by   thisnurse
    oh wow...wait till i tell the guys they are gay.
    our nurse is going to have one very upset wife, especially since
    shes pregnant with their second child.

    all the good ones are taken or gay...lol
  3. by   JMP
    Man it burns me when people see being gay as something negative, bad, a reason to deny............ what business is it that anyone is straight or gay or both????????

    Everyone is who they are and their professional life is in no way shape or form a reason to judge their sexual preferances.

    If you are straight or gay......... you are a person first. People need to get a grip.


    Not much worse than homophobic attitudes! Drives me nuts.
  4. by   mattsmom81
    I had 4 guys in my class 25 years ago who told me they got questioned daily by male patients regarding their sexuality.
    They joked about intro'ing themselves as"Bob, your hetero nurse this shift" and getting the questions over with....

    From what I hear from younger male nurses today, it doesn't happen AS MUCH anymore but there's always gonna be a few bigoted, homophobic, and just plain rude patients out there...who will come right out and ask the male nurse bluntly "So...are ya married?" (like that proves something..ha!)

    But patients get innappropriate quite often in our profession so we learn how to handle it....even though these personal matters are none of anybody's business.

    RJ, your nursing program should include some role playing exercises where you practice responding to some of the stranger statements patients may make, so you'll be ready for them! Good luck and don't worry..men are very welcome in this profession! .

    And Mario, I know quite a few single male nurses who wouldn't have it any other way, so don't feel all alone out there...
  5. by   semstr
    Who cares about something like that? People don't want a gay nurse or something?
    What about the lesbian nurses? They're gay too, aren't they?
    Hey we live in 2002, a nurse is a nurse is a nurse is a nurse!!

    Take care, Renee
  6. by   micro
    Originally posted by hapeewendy
    I dont know where ppl get their statistical data on this subject................
    these people are judging and stereotyping pure and simple.
    people put the label of "gay" on any man who acts even a little feminine, or any woman who seems "butch"
    -------------
    cheers!
    first off, thanks wendy for letting me paraphrase out of your quote what i found particularly catching to my psyche this a.m.
    weekend off so time to think and ponder life and such........

    mattsmom81...........yeah, i know it and you always state things so well.....

    mario, higher ethics, yes you would hope all held to it............you surely do......keep on, keepin on.....

    joey r.........you said it also.............

    secondcareerrn........ditto also.....

    but sad to say folks, there is a lot of judgin ' that goes on in this world.........and it occurs in health care as well as the rest of the world............
    but thank goodness



    thank goodness the majority of people are professional and caring people that work in this field that do rise above it and care at their professional best.........for all within their scope of care.


    and to end, I will "beatle lyrics" out,
    Last edit by micro on May 5, '02
  7. by   SmilingBluEyes
    WHY in HEAVEN'S name do you CARE?!!! Be secure in WHO YOU ARE; who cares what others think? I remember way back when I was in the Air Force,my best friend and I used to ride in to work together. She and I were inseparable. I refused to date the men in the place I worked....it was a matter of principle to me. Anyhoo....soon the rumors were flying....ya know. WE were lesbian partners. What did I CARE? It got those men off my back. In other words, others are gonna think what they want...let em. Be who you are and do what makes you happy; the rest will take care of itself. Sexual orientation is such a SMALL part of who we are anyway, and only SMALL minds care. JMO!!!!!
  8. by   MHN
    J.R as some asked are you homophobic ?or can't you find your way out of the closet?

    As far as gay men being nurses in my experience there are more gay women as nurses than men and they can hide better than you'll ever know.
    As a nurse who happens to be a male I say it should'nt matter what gender, sexual preference or religon you have as long as you have the qualifications skills to do the Job and are able to be a team member that doesn't let your personal prejudices get in the way of your duties.
    Last edit by MHN on May 5, '02
  9. by   Furball
    It's funny. I remember applying for a "guy" job in high school because the pay was so much better. People crinkled their noses at me. I worked at a restaurant as a janitor after hours made $8/hr in 1980! After working at female jobs with much more resposibility but less, much less pay....I coulda cared LESS what folks thought.
  10. by   micro
    Originally posted by Furball
    It's funny. I remember applying for a "guy" job in high school because the pay was so much better. People crinkled their noses at me. I worked at a restaurant as a janitor after hours made $8/hr in 1980! After working at female jobs with much more resposibility but less, much less pay....I coulda cared LESS what folks thought.

    furball rocks...............:stone

    nurses rock.............

    xx, xy, yellow/green/c poka dots rock.............

    love all hey it is nurses week............kudos and my baseball hat off to all of you!!!!!!!!!
  11. by   kewlnurse
    There are a few homo's where i work, but are in the minority, a few are the sterotypical sissies, some you would never know.
    I personally have never been accused of being a prom queen but just to make sure I try to sleep with as many of the female staff as possible.(and beofer some of you get all, your married..., I',m kidding. I only sleep with the best looking ones )
  12. by   Ted
    When I'm at work providing care to my patients, I'm a nurse.

    When I'm at the Doctor's office for the yearly physical and have to "cough" while the physician "assess things", I'm a male.

    When my wife and I practice our favorite indoor sport, I'm a heterosexual.

    Interesting how society likes to make apples out of oranges out of peaches and attempt to label and stereotype.

    I've had more than a few patients ask me if "I was married" after finding out that I was a "male nurse". Out of the blue, they would ask this question. Were they wondering if I was gay or straight??? I don't know. I really don't care. But I'm still suprised when they ask this question.



    You know what . . . we're only human. . . I respect that. Strengths and weaknesses included.

    I am proud to be a nurse. Happy Nurses Week, folks!

    Ted
    Last edit by Ted on May 5, '02
  13. by   micro
    ditto, efiebke..........

    "too live nurse" rocks.......

    happy nurses week

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