Most RN's first borns? - page 7

Hi everybody, I have a question and PLEASE dont anybody blast me for typecasting, this was not MY statement, it was a LCSW I was friends with. She claims that a huge % of nurses are first born... Read More

  1. by   Chaoticdreams33
    1st born, but no alcoholism
  2. by   Victoriakem
    Ooo, this is a bit creepy, as I'm first born, Dad is ETOH'r, Mom is depressed but I got into nursing as a second career. My dh is a retired Navy Officer, & a survey done informally while he was on board ship revealed that all the officers there were either first born or only children. He's an only child.
  3. by   smoo
    first born, father was alcholic. I am definately the caretaker of the family. like SBE and Lizz I don't speak with my family. Or at least my dad's family. They are all alcoholics His mom is actually quite ill right now and last I heard they just signed DNR papers on her. I kind of have mixed feelings about that. Some guilt that I should feel more than I do. I haven't spoke to them in over 14 years, since my dad died. My mom is wonderful and has since remarried a wonderful man who is a great grandpa to my kids. I have a wonderful husband who knows how I feel about drinking a lot and it is something he wouldn't ever do!! This is an interesting thread.

    Smoo
  4. by   Sheri257
    Quote from SmilingBluEyes
    The holidays are better, too. I don't go home, don't call, dont' have to hear my parent's sharp words or often-drunkeness during the holidays. Yes, I am sad in a way----family is what it's all about. But we have two kinds of family: the one we are born with, and the one we MAKE. I choose the one I made.

    AH well glad to know I have a kindred soul out there who gets it.

    deb
    I agree. As much as I may feel bad about it this time of year, I know I'd feel worse if I was dealing with them. Holidays are a lot more enjoyable without all of the drama and nonsense.

    :typing
  5. by   Sheri257
    Quote from smoo
    first born, father was alcholic. I am definately the caretaker of the family. like SBE and Lizz I don't speak with my family. Or at least my dad's family. They are all alcoholics His mom is actually quite ill right now and last I heard they just signed DNR papers on her. I kind of have mixed feelings about that. Some guilt that I should feel more than I do. I haven't spoke to them in over 14 years, since my dad died.
    When my mother died I didn't feel that bad, even though we hadn't hardly spoken in 15 or more years. At the funeral, people kept expecting me to feel a lot of guilt and kept saying "I know you feel bad" but ... I really didn't. I'd paid enough for all of those years being around her.

    She was one of those people who could be really nice to everyone but her own immediate family. People just didn't know what she was really like. Of course, after I left many years ago, she turned on the other kids. They felt obligated to put up with it but, I just couldn't.

    :typing
    Last edit by Sheri257 on Dec 6, '06
  6. by   lflaherty
    Reply from an "old" nurse...
    I recall a study being done back when I was in nursing school (we're talking 70's here..). The results were that a vast majority of nurses were either first born or first daughters born to their family. Don't recall the source of the data, but I suspect the concept may be on the right track...
    Laurie Flaherty
  7. by   BoomerRN
    1st born of 5. Two bros. and one sister. No ETOH. I was encouraged by parents and teachers to be independent and do things yourself. As long as I can remember I have enjoyed helping others. I started baby sitting next door neighbors with baby twins and a one year when I was 8, of course, mom checked in frequently, but I fed them, diapered, etc. The parents were very young also. My youngest bro., born when I was 17 1/2 yrs. old, was a joy to me. I helped take care of him until I married at 19 and had my own 3 children. Mom said I was born with a mentality of 30! No one else is in health care except my brother's daughter who also is an RN.
  8. by   RNAdministrator2006
    I am a first born. No ETOH abuse in my family history.
  9. by   bblair
    I am first born, but no alcholic family members.
  10. by   EMAILRN
    fifth, only girl and last one born, mom had mental illness no etoh
  11. by   rktele
    First born. Dad's not an alcoholic, but he's a very sick man and has been since I was a kid. During his many hospitalizations, I realized that it was the nurses that really made the difference.
    My original major was electrical engineering; I changed to nursing after 1 semester.
  12. by   MD1211
    I'm the middle child, second girl. ETOH dad could be applied.
  13. by   spb1
    1st born and alcoholic father here. Dammit, I hate being a statistic.

    Cheers, Susan

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