Me, a nit picker? - page 2

Sorry, this is gonna be a long rant. Had my 3 month evaluation at work today (only been there for a year):p Have very mixed feelings about the whole thing. First of all I acknowledge that... Read More

  1. by   2MagnoliaTrees
    Don't waste your time worrying about what those who Can't do complain about . You only answer to the one who hired you and your supervisor. The others can do their jobs and you do yours the best way that you can and let the chips fall where they may. Patients and others can see who's there just for the pay check. God Bless.
  2. by   Nurse Ratched
    ((hugs)) to you Adrie!

    Another guilty party for being "over-energetic" here.

    It's generally the people who have been there for ages who don't want to know how much they aren't doing when they've settled into their comfort zone who don't appreciate our special brand of anal-retentiveness lol. Care plans and shoddy documentation are a particular pet peeve of mine as well. Granted, you take care of the patient first, and do the paperwork later, but you DO have to do the paperwork.

    Keep being thorough with your patient assignments and eventually you'll get some backup in the form of another energetic new nurse. I've got a friend/fellow nurse on our unit who is as ate up about the documentation as I am, and she is a great sounding board. We're turning them, slow but sure .
  3. by   bandaidexpert
    You only have to explain your actions and the way you are to yourself at the end o the day. However, use this to your advantage. Good luck.
  4. by   UKRNinUSA
    I get the impression from your posting that you believe you are better than your co-workers, because you try harder. No wonder you are alienating your colleagues. A little humility can go a long way. Try to "learn" from them - ask them their opinion, get them involved with the change process, be subtle and be patient - you're not going to get them out of their "little" rut overnight. You may have the book knowledge but they probably have years more experience than you. Give them some respect.
  5. by   adrienurse
    Hey we're talking about me. I did acknowledge that I am there to learn. I may sound that I'm passing judgement -- I have the right to my own observations. I tend to not like perpetuating the system that eats into quality of care. What's wrong with quality? I have to live with myself at the end of the day.

    You obviously have issues. Why don't you start your own "I hate newbies that try to tell me what to do" thread. It's a free country.
  6. by   OrthoNutter
    we have an interim care unit at our hospital....full of oldies waiting for nursing home placement and as you described, some of them can be there for years on end waiting to be placed...and it's not uncommon for some to die there waiting...truly sad but slightly off topic...

    I get pooled down there occasionally and always cop flack from the charge nurse because i insist on helping with the residents' daily cares....apparently every other registered nurse on that unit has nothing to do with basic cares and this is left solely to the aides. Puhleeze! I might be an RN but that doesn't mean I don't have a duty of care for them in this regard as much as the aides. The other RNs don't like it because it makes them look bad....

    Tough titties I say....more hands make light work has always been my motto... Good luck with your situation...
  7. by   Cascadians
    "No good deed goes unpunished."

    The humanimals love to attack those doing good and striving for betterment.
    The mediocre feel powerful and justified if they can bring down anybody showing more effort, ability and accomplishment than themselves.

    Cheerfully go about upholding good nursing practice.

    Keep ideals, never get personal, keep it on loftier levels, and praise the good every time you see it.
  8. by   adrienurse
    My manager and I have found a "creative outlet" for my energy. I have been invited to join the nursing advisary council and the incontinence taskforce. Hopefully those will help to decrease the frustration level. Good for resume too.
  9. by   Agnus
    It is so unfair that we are so poorly prepared by our education to lead others.
    I would suggest educating yourself on interpersonal realations and leadership. However, learing theory is not enough it takes practice a lot of it, to get good at dealing with people. An asertion class would be an excellent start. Then talk to you manager about some classes that she could suggest. Find a leader (nurse or otherwise) who gets the results that you want and emulate that person. See if you can get them to mentor you in this skill. There are many classes out ther that teach the principles. How to Win Friends and Influence People, by Dale Carnagie is my bible. But again it takes a lot of practice. Remember if you keep doing what you have always done you will continue to get the same results you've always gotten.
    You can be a change agent. It is all in the approach. Your attitude is everything. Here's a secret the only person that I have ANY power over is ME. The only person that I can change is ME.
  10. by   disher
    Adrienurse, I think joining the NAC and incontinence taskforce is a terrific idea. Both offer a chance to exchange ideas with others who share your interests. Another way to share ideas is to join a specialty organization like the Canadian continence nurses. If you thought nurses could talk about poop for hours (as in the constipation thread) you should attend a continence conference and hear what they have to say about voiding!! (The conferneces are usually held in Hamilton in the fall.)
  11. by   Burn NA
    Adrienurse-

    Everyone has given you such great advice. I know someone else who has gone through the same thing as yourself, and I understand how difficult it is to work in that kind of environment. I bet that you try to present issues in a very objective, informative way -- a type of communication that works in male-dominated or mixed gender working environments, but can (unfortunately) be taken personally as some kind of emotional assault by a group of mostly women. It sounds like you place the patient first in everything you do, and want to give them the best service you can -- that's wonderful! Please stick to what you feel is right & don't start second-guessing yourself. The world NEEDS more people like you -- those who problem-solve & identify ways to create streamlined efficiency & a better service for the patients.
  12. by   adrienurse
    Burn NA. You're very wise. That's an angle that I haven''t thought of. Hey, where do I find an all male unit to crash?
  13. by   UKRNinUSA
    Originally posted by adrienurse
    Hey we're talking about me. I did acknowledge that I am there to learn. I may sound that I'm passing judgement -- I have the right to my own observations. I tend to not like perpetuating the system that eats into quality of care. What's wrong with quality? I have to live with myself at the end of the day.

    You obviously have issues. Why don't you start your own "I hate newbies that try to tell me what to do" thread. It's a free country.
    Did I touch a raw nerve? Sounds like you are the one with the issues - like not being able to take criticsm perhaps? So now you know how your colleagues feel. It doesn't feel very nice does it.

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