Hi everyone. I'm new here to AN.
So I've been an RN for a year now. I work on a very busy CCU (50 beds) in a medium sized hospital. I happen to be lucky enough to work with a bunch of fabulous nurses. I know it is a rare and great thing to have great co-workers. They are supportive and wonderful. The problem is with management. Or the lack there of.
Our manager left in March and administration has yet to replace her. Recently (in the last 8mos) we've lost a very large number of nurses. Quite a few of the veteran nurses left to take other positions in the hospital (ie admitting nurse, etc), and when we get new people hired in, probably about 1/2 of them leave shortly out of orientation. So we're quite short-handed, and people have been getting frequently (1-2x/month) mandated for the last few months.
Just to add to the chaos, we are implementing EPIC and we have nurses out training DR's, nurses training to be super-users, and we all have to take our turn taking the EPIC training classes.
As a result, we are suddenly VERY short on nurses. I work 3-11's, so when I get mandated, I have to work over night. In the last 8 days I've been mandated 3x. I worked 42 hours last week (I'm 0.6!). And I'm not the only one. Everyone has been working over, but the 5 or 6 of us on 3-11's are being hit the hardest. We are the ones being mandated tto 16 hour, over night shifts, where by the time they are over, we have been awake for 24 hours. No part of this is fair OR safe. We are all beyond frustrated and upset about it. I have terrible anxiety and stress coming in to work every day b/c I never know if I will be able to come home that night or if I'm going to be scrambling to find someone to baby sit the kids in the morning so I can sleep. If it weren't for my wonderful co-workers, I would already be gone.
So, tonight, I called my husband to tell him I got mandated and he completely flipped out on me. Yelling at me, swearing at me, etc. I was in tears when I got off the phone w/him. I don't WANT to work hours like this. I don't LIKE it. And I sure as heck don't need to listen to him complain about how hard it is for HIM when *I* am the one who will be up all night working!! Anyway, I got off the phone in tears, and my charge nurse told me not to stay, that I can't let work interfere w/my home life. She asked someone else to stay (it really was my turn, tho).
I guess I'm just looking for coping advice....how to make my husband understand that I don't have a regular 9-5 job that I can just walk away from and finish up my work tomorrow. How to cope w/a job that is leaving me so stressed (I truly do not want to look for another job, it is a great place to work). How to make my fill in manager understand that what they are doing to us is NOT fair, and that they need to get agency nurses or someone in there. I am stressed to my breaking point right now, and as much as I love this job, I don't know how much more of this I can take.
TIA :)