Just want to hear from some friends,,,

  1. I just want to vent...cry...get some hugs....

    My FIL is back in the cancer hospital for the 2nd time in three weeks. Picture doesn't look good for him, and MIL is driving everyone crazy too. I love my in-laws to pieces, and can't stand to see them like this. Hubby just looks worried and so tired.

    My mom had back surgery Thursday (her 2nd one) and although she came thro surg ok, she is soooo nauseated and miserable. Of course, we are all wondering how she will do once she is released, as her mobility will now be so restricted. I have two sisters to help and that is great.

    My daughter is driving me koo-koo. She will be 25 on March 14 and is still so immature and living w an alcoholic man who is lazy and out of work. She dropped out of college 2 years ago and has had a succession of lousy jobs. Always on the verge of total poverty and looks anorexic to boot.

    I have medical problems too, with an ankle messed up. Going to see an ortho specialist in 3 weeks. Surgery might be in the future.

    I have been working waaaaaaay too many hours and trying to deal with all of this, too. Does the term "burn-out" enter the picture here??

    I am dealing with my job situation soon. I amchanging from 12 hr floor work at my hospital to wok at out Home Health as a visit nurse and case manager. I have done similar work before and I think this will be a good place for me to be now. At least physically and maybe mentally less stress, too. The new supervisor there is wonderful and everyone loves her.

    I do have to deal with some snide remarks at work about my changing jobs. Is it jealousy or what?? I get the remarks from a couple of RNs like I am a job-jumper cuz I have changed positions after less than a year of full-time on the floor. (Used to always work part-time).

    Well, enough of the whining and crying. Thanks for listening to me. I love all you guys and I knew you would not judge me. I know things will be OK...I am generally a very optomistic and upbeat person. God gives me strenth in all I encounter, and it is His love that keeps me going.

    Thanks again.
    Deb
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  2. 22 Comments

  3. by   ERNurse752
    Wow...sounds like you and your family are going through an incredibly stressful time.

    All I can really think of to say is;

    ((((((((((regnursein99))))))))))

    Hang in there, and all of us will be here!
  4. by   OBNURSEHEATHER
    Take a deep breath, handle one thing at a time, and remember.... we're always here.

    Heather
  5. by   Disablednurse
    Our family went through a lot of sickness and changes last year. you will be in my thoughts and prayers. Just hang in there and dont let other people drag you down.
  6. by   CountrifiedRN
    Wow! Hope things get better for you soon. Take it one day at a time, and vent often!

    Don't let those co-workers snide comments get you down. It's sad that they can't be supportive, but you have to do what's best for you.
  7. by   mona b RN
    My thoughts are with you and your family. Life sure can get difficult sometimes. Ditto what OBNURSEHEATHER said. Hang in there.



    mona b
  8. by   Mimi Wheeze
    WOW, woman! Bless your heart!

    Hang in there, and only deal with what you can change.. ignore the co-workers and daughter situation..you don't need to worry yourself about that. (Not right now, anyway) Keep us posted, we're in your corner!
  9. by   Tweety
    regnursein99, hugs to you. Take care.
  10. by   jude11142
    ((((((((((hugs to you))))))))))) deb, i have found that at times like this, it really does help to reach out to your "cyber friends". whether it be to vent, to ask advice, or just to have somebody to hear ya out, it usually makes you feel better. it seems that you have so much going on right now. it's important for you to take some time just for yourself. even if you have to take phone off hook, lock your doors etc....you have to have time for you!! many of us are so used to being the caregiver, the mom, the wife, the friend and so on, that we neglect ourselves. don't let this happen to you. i hope that you feel better and that things are getting better for ya. remember that we are all here for ya. take care of yourself. bye for now,

    jude
  11. by   Sleepyeyes
    (((((deb))))))

    set aside a certain time of the day just for YOU--take the phone off the hook, put your earplugs in, and enjoy a nice soak in the tub, or spend an hour in prayer and meditation, or something restful that will help you rejuvenate a little.

    I only offer this advice because we've been having a year of "changes and challenges" too....
  12. by   baseline
    Hang in there kiddo.
  13. by   BadBird
    Hugs to you Deb, I don't have any words that can ease your stress but please try to take care of yourself during this ordeal you are facing with you family.
  14. by   chrn
    Seems like things always happen "all at once". I believe that is so you aren't dragged down, worrying and tired for a long time- you get it over with more quickly this way!!! Hard part is getting from Point A to Point B.
    Sounds like a good decision to go back to home care, if you feel that will be less stressful for you right now. Your co-workers may have other motives for their comments- like worried about staffing or something totally unrelated to your career decisions.
    Take care of yourself!!

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