Just put an end my misery if...

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    Just put an end my misery if:

    - I have a decube that you can fit your fist in
    - I have fungating breast cancer that you can fit your fist in
    - I am 500 lbs and pregnant
    - I am 500 lbs, have an EF <20, and need BIPAP to live.
    - I am 500 lbs. Period.
    - I am 94, severely demented, combative, and curse at my caretakers
    - I have multiple sclerosis and cannot even move my own arm at age 35
    - I have a colostomy, peg tube, foley catheter, and am on hemodialysis

    But most of all, please put an end my misery if I am young and healthy, but insist on being rude, obnoxious, and threatening to those who try to help me.
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    Quote from R!XTER
    - I have multiple sclerosis and cannot even move my own arm at age 35
    I get where you are coming from. I really do.

    The quoted, I would like to comment on. Just a perspective on this: I have a family member who has slowly deteriorated over a decade. His mind isn't as great as it used to be, but it's only mild cognitive impairment. He can't walk without an assistive device, he can't shower on his own, he can't cut his own food, he can't do anything that requires a lot of dexterity or strength. And, he spends a lot of the time in the bathroom (and I hate when he answers the phone while on the throne! It's an on-going joke between us.)

    You know what though? He loves being alive. Slow degeneration allows for adaptation, both physically and mentally. You are healthy right now. If something happened to you in a split second--catastrophic CVA, traumatic spinal cord injury, etc.--yeah, it would be miserable. But slowly going downhill often preserves the will to live.

    Sorry for the buzzkill. ;-D
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    Looking for this?
    Last edit by brian on Mar 20, '12
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    Quote from R!XTER
    Just put an end my misery if:

    - I have a decube that you can fit your fist in
    - I have fungating breast cancer that you can fit your fist in
    - I am 500 lbs and pregnant
    - I am 500 lbs, have an EF <20, and need BIPAP to live.
    - I am 500 lbs. Period.
    - I am 94, severely demented, combative, and curse at my caretakers
    - I have multiple sclerosis and cannot even move my own arm at age 35
    - I have a colostomy, peg tube, foley catheter, and am on hemodialysis

    But most of all, please put an end my misery if I am young and healthy, but insist on being rude, obnoxious, and threatening to those who try to help me.
    Nice ending, there!
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    Quote from NurseOnAMotorcycle


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    LOVE IT!

    I wish more patients were as prepared.

    No lost paper work, no way for family to really argue that it isn't what the patient REALLY wants.
    Last edit by brian on Mar 20, '12
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    I am a firm believer that there are some things that are worse than death.
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    Quote from dudette10
    I get where you are coming from. I really do.

    The quoted, I would like to comment on. Just a perspective on this: I have a family member who has slowly deteriorated over a decade. His mind isn't as great as it used to be, but it's only mild cognitive impairment. He can't walk without an assistive device, he can't shower on his own, he can't cut his own food, he can't do anything that requires a lot of dexterity or strength. And, he spends a lot of the time in the bathroom (and I hate when he answers the phone while on the throne! It's an on-going joke between us.)

    You know what though? He loves being alive. Slow degeneration allows for adaptation, both physically and mentally. You are healthy right now. If something happened to you in a split second--catastrophic CVA, traumatic spinal cord injury, etc.--yeah, it would be miserable. But slowly going downhill often preserves the will to live.

    Sorry for the buzzkill. ;-D
    Super kudos for your post.

    I have met some amazing human beings who were bedridden and paralyzed for one reason or another (ALS, MS, MD, spinal cord injury etc. etc.) who did not quit living. They had more spirit, passion and optimism than most people who had full use of their arms and legs. And, now that I think about it, you are so right about the slow progression of their disease process allowing for adaptation. I have observed that in the people I have met.

    Thanks for your post.
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    cool ~
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    yes - put me out of my misery when I have decided that it is fun to finger paint with my poop :-(
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    Quote from Ayvah
    I am a firm believer that there are some things that are worse than death.
    You mean the slow agonizing torture families put their "loved" ones through. I will stand here to this day and say there is no greater torture than putting PEG tubes in people.

    Quantity will NEVER trump quality of life. I would rather die tomorrow knowing I have lived an awesome life than live to see 90 the way some of my pts do.
    Fiona59, BluegrassRN, Mom To 4, and 18 others like this.


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