Ok heres the problem. New pt. 73yo dx, esophageal ca with mets to lungs, liver and bone family can't except pt is terminal. They refuse comfort care in hopes father/husband will get strong enough to go to another state and get chemo.,and go home. When discussing advanced directives family wants everything possible done except DNR. Pt knows he's dying but goes along with families wishes and does what they want. I have a hard time talking to this family when they have such high hopes and expectations and pt knows he is going to die. They only want him to have minimal pain meds because they're afraid he'll be "snowed" and not be able to participate in PT/OT and get better.The man is in no doubt in severe pain. His prognosses looks grave How do I answer there questions about how he's doing or progressing when all they want to listen to is the good stuff and I want to say he's dying let him go in peace and pain free.