Judge of Charecter?

  1. are you a great judge of character? or one of the other options?

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  2. Poll: Are you a good judge of character?

    • I am a great judge of character!

      39.58% 19
    • I am average at judging others! :

      43.75% 21
    • |I am a terrible judge of character!

      4.17% 2
    • I am just too trusting period, whiuch explains the outcomes!

      12.50% 6
    48 Votes
  3. 15 Comments

  4. by   sunnygirl272
    i am a good judge of character except with guys i date...
  5. by   nightingale
    I would have to say average; I still give people the benefit of the doubt and get taken advantage of still (and at my age!). I am a risk taker and I think that is important; nothing ventured nothing gained etc...

    B.
  6. by   ats
    I'm pretty dead-on at spotting the character of other people in most situations, especially when my friends are the object of someone's attention. (I'm pretty protective of people I care about.) Guess I'm intuitive, just good at picking up on vibes....sometimes you have to learn to be.

    Except of course when *I* am thrown into the mix, then I'm blind as a bat and twice as dumb. You'd think I'd learn, wouldn't you? But I am, slowly.....

    Trust is EARNED, remember. I don't just give it away anymore hoping for good things in return. (Although I've done that in plenty, with bad results.) I think you need to know how people act, not just talk about themselves. And maybe it's a good thing to know how they treat the people they *don't* like, as well as the people they do like, before you decide they deserve your trust. Anyway, that's my story, and I'm stickin' to it!
  7. by   suzannasue
    Pretty good judge of character now that I have been cremated emotionally in the past. Yes trust has to be earned, thus I trust no one. The words "friend" and "FU**ED" both begin with "F", thus I keep my distance from most everyone. Have been betrayed way too many times. Probably missing out on a lot in life but I will not miss the dissappointment, hurt and anger of finding out that I have disrespected by anyone...ever again !!! When asked, I never give advice...I refuse politely any invitations for lunch with anyone... my co-workers are my co-workers...that is all they are...no swapping of phone numbers...no shopping together... distance is my defense mechanism...the walls of personal protection shall be steadfast in their construction...
    Have heard it said that no one can do anything to you without your permission...and as far as I am concerned...PERMISSION DENIED PERMANENTLY.
  8. by   ats
    Originally posted by suzannasue
    Pretty good judge of character now that I have been cremated emotionally in the past. Yes trust has to be earned, thus I trust no one. The words "friend" and "FU**ED" both begin with "F", thus I keep my distance from most everyone. Have been betrayed way too many times. Probably missing out on a lot in life but I will not miss the dissappointment, hurt and anger of finding out that I have disrespected by anyone...ever again !!!

    suzannasue, I'm very sorry you've been hurt so much in your life. I have been myself so many times, from early childhood...makes up the majority of my memories. So many times I've wished I could just sit down and give up, I get so tired...but something always keeps me going, even if my life is not what I'd like it to be. It can only get better, and it really has, slowly.

    I believe in the possibility, if not the strong likelihood, of finding trust and love in my life. Without that belief, I don't think I'd have made it through all the truly terrible times--and there have been many of them over the years. But I did make it through, mostly intact, and I realize that I'm a pretty strong person in many, many ways. Maybe the greatest of my strengths is that I still believe there are people out there, somewhere, who are deserving of my trust, and who will let me earn theirs in return. The thought keeps me sane when I'm near the edge, moving when I'd rather sit still, and trying to be a person who's worth loving. Most days anymore, I truly think I am.

    Sorry so long-winded, but your post made me feel sad for your loss, and my loss as well. I hope you can find it in you someday to try, just one more time, because good people are out here just waiting for you. Take care.

    ats
  9. by   OBNURSEHEATHER
    I consider myself a pretty good judge of character. It isn't unusual for my hubby or friends to say "I didn't know that about_____," and I'm always saying "didn't I tell you 2 months ago they were_____?"

    Sometimes I don't know why, but I just get a vibe about a person. I'm usually considered weird for it, until they prove me right....

    Heather
  10. by   live4today
    I have always been told -- and I have always believed -- that I am an excellent judge of character. My downfall is giving EVERYONE the benefit of the doubt...even when I know their character stinks like the odor of a skunk! :chuckle Nighty night all! :kiss
  11. by   Audreyfay
    I have been blessed (or cursed) with "first impressions" of character. I can't think of a time when I was wrong. My judge of character is very good. However, sometimes it holds me back because I am not willing to take the chance that I am wrong. But, it has protected me from getting hurt!
  12. by   micro
    Originally posted by suzannasue
    Pretty good judge of character now that I have been cremated emotionally in the past. Yes trust has to be earned, thus I trust no one. The words "friend" and "FU**................................. distance is my defense mechanism...the walls of personal protection shall be steadfast in their construction...
    Have heard it said that no one can do anything to you without your permission...and as far as I am concerned...PERMISSION DENIED PERMANENTLY.

    suzannasue..........
    I can relate..........


    CEN -----thought bending poll........

    micro and out
  13. by   Brownms46
    I'm a sucker for a sob story, and usually am considered waaaaay too friendly, and generous to folks! And most people take this as I'm easy or a push over...until they cross me..! Then they wonder where the ****** came from. It's kind of funny sometimes to see the look of shock on their faces! But for the most part...I'm usually the one who gets screwed in the end!

    I have taken in numerous people ..especially women with children into my home...only to be sorry, and left with hurt feelings, and large phone bills, etc.

    Almost got throwned out of an apt. once when I had more people in the house then the lease allowed! I told the manager when the school of the child staying with me called, and informed them of this, that I would have done it again. I had told this mom not to use my address when she enrolled the child...because I was afraid of this happening. Long story short...female had no where to stay...husband emptied the bank account, and she and her child were put on the street, by the sheriff when they couldn't afford the rent. I had known her less than a couple of months, and moved them into my apartment. Nearest family member several states away! After leaving and denying ever making any long distance phone calls...get a big bill. I won't even go into all the other stuff that happened!

    Moved another battered wife in, only to be screwed in the end! Lend money...and my car...only to regret it!

    One female moved in, and I came home to bodies lying around on the floor and everywhere, after she had a party...while I was at work...and my children crying because they didn't get any sleep!

    And another...... caught her doing drugs with her cousin, after leaving work early! Funny thing is I never charged them a dime to live with us, and gave them money...to help them get on their feet! And believe me I still didn't learn my lesson, as I just got kicked in the butt for doing the same thing last year!! Another female with no place to go..!

    I have good instincts about things...but give me a sob story...and I'm totally lose them..:chuckle! I guess the only people I haven't moved in are men...:chuckle Maybe I'm doing something wrong here
  14. by   JailRN
    I'm a very good judge of character. In my line of work, I tend to be cynical, and distrusting of almost everybody(see, I was just on my waay to the ...doctors office, dentist, rehab, court, pharmacy, hospital...when the police picked me up---yeah, and if I had a dollar for everytime I heard that, I'd be RICH instead of cute!!)

    plus, when I get with in 10 feet of a pedophile, my stomach hurls.. this is kind of the joke around here, run them by the nurse, see if she pukes, them we'll book 'em. WHY ME???

    9.9 times out of 10 my instincts are tright about those I come in contact with, 100% for pedophiles.
  15. by   live4today
    Oh Brownie.....((((((hugs))))))) What a kind heart you have, my dear friend! :kiss

    Do you all think that nurses in general are suckers for a sob face? A sob storyline? A need to reach out and touch someone's life to try to make it all better? Is that what the real essence of "nursing" is all about? What makes us this way? Just curious!

    I can judge people pretty well.....but ONLY....when I can look deep into their eyes. I cannot judge a person's character when I can't physically see the person standing in front of me.

    I've tried summing up a person when talking to them by phone or on the net, but it's only AFTER I meet them in person that I can truly tell if their personalities are "skunk" matter or the sweet essence of a soft perfume. :chuckle

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