Is there any one out there that can help

  1. I was hoping that some one might be able to talk to me and help me figure out what is going on with my nursing
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  3. by   Jamesdotter
    huh?
  4. by   Dixielee
    maybe you are having problems following thru with things???
  5. by   TracyB,RN
    a tad more of a description can help us help you better......
  6. by   zenman
    Quote from Dixielee
    maybe you are having problems following thru with things???



    Syncope maybe? Anyone ever died while posting here?
    Last edit by zenman on Jan 3, '05
  7. by   Malt123
    sorry, I guess I was not sure of how to ask for the help. until that DON wrote I was feeling down and felt I was being dumped on. I was working in that type of place and it seemed like everyone was doing that to me. I worked pm's and the day nurse kept putting the meds onto eves. I was threatened by an aid, they were just down right refusing to do anything it goes on and on. There is a lot more I just haven;t been able to identify everything yet.
  8. by   UM Review RN
    Quote from Malt123
    sorry, I guess I was not sure of how to ask for the help. until that DON wrote I was feeling down and felt I was being dumped on. I was working in that type of place and it seemed like everyone was doing that to me. I worked pm's and the day nurse kept putting the meds onto eves. I was threatened by an aid, they were just down right refusing to do anything it goes on and on. There is a lot more I just haven;t been able to identify everything yet.
    We'd be happy to help if we can figure out what you need help with. I'm afraid I'm still a little fuzzy on this. Or I'm just having a really fuzzy-headed day (which won't be good, since I hafta work tonight).
  9. by   renerian
    Did the DON say your depressed or appear depressed? Did she make some type of action plan to find out who to help you?

    I am not sure how long you have been a nurse? I am not saying that to pick on anyone or anything of that nature, but I am trying to find out the stage of your development as a nurse as we all seem to progress through stages. I agree with a previous poster... more information will allow us to help you guide your path.

    renerian
  10. by   chris_at_lucas_RN
    Quote from Malt123
    sorry, I guess I was not sure of how to ask for the help. until that DON wrote I was feeling down and felt I was being dumped on. I was working in that type of place and it seemed like everyone was doing that to me. I worked pm's and the day nurse kept putting the meds onto eves. I was threatened by an aid, they were just down right refusing to do anything it goes on and on. There is a lot more I just haven;t been able to identify everything yet.
    Hon, there is a reason why it says, in red letters, don't just put something like "help," put something substantive in the title of the thread.

    That would go for the actual message as well.

    We can't help you if you don't tell us what concerns you about you. (What your DON wrote will only make sense to us if you tell us what led up to him/her writing it.)

    Do you think you are feeling down? What is your position--RN, LPN, CNA? What are you doing at work and how do you feel about yourself in your position there?

    Are you making errors?

    Are you having difficulty with comprehending or retaining information which is given to you?

    Are you "drowning your sorrows?"

    Did what the zenman wrote make you smile? (If not, you might see someone for depression--that was a rip! )
  11. by   Havin' A Party!
    Quote from zenman
    ... Syncope maybe? Anyone ever died while posting here?
    Hahahahaha!
  12. by   Thunderwolf
    Quote from chris_at_lucas_RN
    Hon, there is a reason why it says, in red letters, don't just put something like "help," put something substantive in the title of the thread.

    That would go for the actual message as well.

    We can't help you if you don't tell us what concerns you about you. (What your DON wrote will only make sense to us if you tell us what led up to him/her writing it.)

    Do you think you are feeling down? What is your position--RN, LPN, CNA? What are you doing at work and how do you feel about yourself in your position there?

    Are you making errors?

    Are you having difficulty with comprehending or retaining information which is given to you?

    Are you "drowning your sorrows?"

    Did what the zenman wrote make you smile? (If not, you might see someone for depression--that was a rip! )
    How can we help you, pal? Give us more info...the more detail, the better.
    We can only assist with what you give us.
    We're here, pal.
    Thunderwolf
  13. by   Malt123
    I'm an RN was working in an impossible LTC facility, the DON would make up policies as she went along or so it seemed, any way I looked for the pokicy book when I first statred there and the only one I found was from the late 70's. I have been in LTC for almost 24 years but not in this state. anything I did she would pull me into the office and say "that's not our policy" or "this state doesn't do that" she even told me that ignorance is no excuse. she gave me a fairly good yearly eval but then the real stuff started. I was treated as an aid and even told that I was just an aid. It was a constant put down from the aides through out management. It was like living in a bad movie. the problem now is how do I fight this so that I can continue my nursing or am I just dummed because of this. I don't know if I have just picked a few bad places or if some one is actually following me around and pushing me out of jobs. there has been so much crazy stuff going on that I am afraid to even start another job.
  14. by   nursemike
    As noted, your request is a bit vague, so this advice is a bit generic:

    A. Don't panic. Whatever is wrong, the first step is to live through it. At some point in the future, things are going to be okay. Life has an amazing way of sorting itself out.

    B. Don't give up. Same rationale as above, but realize it may take some patience. Time will give you a better perspective. You could be in the wrong job, or even the wrong field, or you could just be having a bad week. In any case, things will get better, even if they get worse, first.

    C. Talk to someone. If you aren't comfortable letting it all out here, find someone you can be open with. Doesn't have to be a nurse. A parent, clergyman, or good friend can be a big help, even by holding your hand while you rant.

    My Dad gave me the best advice I ever heard when I was a kid. He told me I will never feel anything someone else hasn't felt before. No matter how huge something seems, someone else, no better than me, has gotten through it, somehow. Sounds pretty elementary, but if you really think about it, it's true. You can deal with whatever it is, it just may take a while to figure out how. Hang in there.

    I hope you find something you can use. Good luck, and God bless you.

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