Is getting married in nursing school a bad idea?

  1. I am a second semester nursing student and 19 years old. I am planing my wedding for next december 2002, but I am worried that it could possibly effect my studies. I just wanted to hear from others who got married in school and hear their experiences. Thanks!!

    P.S. I am also going to be taking clinical at the time in a BSN program.
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  2. 35 Comments

  3. by   neuro6
    Getting married in nursing school is not a bad idea. Getting married is the bad idea! Sorry I couldn't resist that one. I'm sure you'll manage quite well. Several women in my fast-track program had their first babies during school (clinical actually) and never missed a beat. They had very supportive husbands. All the best to you!
  4. by   BethanyJ
    I got married during nursing school and delivered my first child the day after graduation! Being married wasn't the hard part...sitting through graduation while in labor was! I don't think that it affected my studies in the least. Fortunatly my husband was very supportive and actually encouraged me every step of the way.
  5. by   JennieBSN
    I agree with the other posters. Getting married actually helped me. Dating was a distraction as well as being engaged, because I was always running around planning the wedding or going out of town to visit my fiance. After we got married, all those distractions were gone, and I could focus on my studies.

    I also did the BSN program. Lots of folks got married and/or had babies during school and did just fine!


    [This message has been edited by kday (edited March 23, 2001).]
  6. by   burger914
    Hello,
    Congradulations on you engagement! I am graduating in about 8 weeks and I just got married last month. 2 students in my class are getting married right after graduation,(Winthin days) and another classmate had a baby over summer break. It wasn't planned that way, but worked out really great. My advice is to do one thing at a time and don't overwhelm yourself. If you are going to study, try not to be worrying about the wedding. Hard I know!! Good luck to you!
  7. by   Jennifer Whittaker
    I graduate nursing school on August 7 & I'm trying to plan a wedding for September 1. (I'm 22). It is challenging, but I have not found that it interrupts my studies. My fiancee is very helpful and supportive thank goodness. As far as kids go, many of my classmates have children and some have given birth while in our program. It is a natural thing and I don't think that you should let school stop you. Good luck!

  8. by   crnasomeday
    I can't tell you whether it's a bad idea for you or not, but I can just tell you my experience. I went back to school with a 2 year old and a 2 month old, got married in my second year of school, and had our third child during last semester. I don't regret any of it, and maybe it's made my school experience a little rougher, but I don't think so. I'm still a straight A student, and whenever I get overwhelmed with school at least I have my loving husband to come home to and my wonderful children to cheer me up. May God bless your upcoming marriage!
    Louise http://www.geocities.com/crnasomeday
  9. by   mustangsheba
    Well, I guess I'm going to be the old party pooper here. First of all, why not wait? How supportive is your fiance of your education? What is his profession or is he going to school as well? Once you have your degree and a job, you will truly be able to concentrate on and enjoy your wedding and your marriage. And you will have more money!
  10. by   Teshiee
    I say if you can handle the stress that is given go for it. Nursing school is no cake walk and on top of getting married you may be stressed to the hilt. I would wait then when you finish you will have 2 great things to do get married and pass your boards. I never really dated any one while I was in school because I know what kind of woman I am I get easily distracted to the point I let my studies go out of the window. It is how you can cope! If you can honestly do it then I wish you the best.
  11. by   SharonH, RN
    I got married in my junior year of college and everyone just about had a fit, almost everyone was sure that it was the end of my studies. But of course it wasn't, my husband knew that my finishing school was a priority and there was never any doubt that I would finish. Everything was fine.
  12. by   justjill
    hi! i'm kind of in the same situation as teresab_2000, only without the ring. my boyfriend and i have been dating for 2 years and 8 months, but we are both in school. marriage is something we know will happen, but the timing in still being discussed. with both of us in school, it will probably be hard paying for insurance, housing (my campus doesn't have any married student housing), and the wedding. as of now, our decision is to wait until we both graduate (only two years!!!), but it is definitely not easy to wait!

    teresab_2000, congratulations on your engagement, and good luck with the wedding!!
  13. by   4XNURSE
    Originally posted by mustangsheba
    Well, I guess I'm going to be the old party pooper here. First of all, why not wait? How supportive is your fiance of your education? What is his profession or is he going to school as well? Once you have your degree and a job, you will truly be able to concentrate on and enjoy your wedding and your marriage. And you will have more money!
    I'm with 'sheba.

    I'll grant you it's different, but I went back to school for nursing after I was already married. Nursing school cost me that marriage. My now X-wife found another man who could be around more while I was in school and working.

    Get the schooling done first.

    just my $ .02

    ken
  14. by   kids
    I met husband # 2 in my first year of Nursing school, got married in the second year and was divorced before my boards came back.

    50% of my graduating clas either got married or divorced by the time the 2 years was over.

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