Quote from Jiggles123
Hi - I am just curious about this because I know of someone who is a surgeon and really thinks something of himself. I've heard from a nurse friend that she would never want to be married to a surgeon because of the lifestyle but what do you guys see at work...
So, from your perspective:
1 - Do you think surgeons lives are stressful?
2 - Is the money really worth all the time and stress of work?
3 - Why the chip on their shoulder?
4 - Do they spend a lot of time at work?
5 - Does home life (wife and kids) suffer?
Or, are they just in cloud 9 all the time because life is so great being a surgeon???????
I am the daughter of a father who was a physician and a mother who was a nurse. I can answer this as the daughter of 2 very different lifestyles.
My father, not a surgeon but a physician, was always stressed. He always had patients in his mind at home and at work. He was in his office with books, internet, studying learning, attending seminars.
My father made very good money, we lived more than comfortable for the area I grew up in.
My father's best friend was a cardiac surgeon. He definitely had a chip as you call it, on his shoulder but I think that came from knowing that he knew and could do what others would not or could not do.
My father spent I would say 80-90 hours a week at the clinic, hospital, and other areas for his work.
Did we "suffer" no. Did we miss him being around, ABSOLUTELY. Mom, as I said was a nurse, RN. She would work 3-4 days a week and was with us the rest of the time. Dad, however, was more absent than present. He took care of us the way he knew how and took care of others the way he felt he needed to. Financially our life was great, emotionally I missed my dad and now that he is gone I realize just how much I really did miss out on with him. I am also VERY proud of the work he did, the lives he saved, and that he did what his heart told him to do.
Our whole family sacrificed for his work, but it was his. He felt called or lead if you will, to care for the sick. The older I get, and now as a nursing student myself, I realize just how important his work, and the work of all caregivers is.
If you do a little research you will see the the divorce rate in the medical community, especially where 1 spouse is in the medical field and the other is not, is extremely high. It takes a special understanding of the time, effort, dedication, and sacrifice it takes to do what these men and women do.