"I'm too young for a living will" - page 2

by somenurse 4,216 Views | 34 Comments

(this is copied as it was becoming a derail on the "Slow Code" thread). Some ppl think a living will = self DNR order. Many ppl seem to think of living wills as something old ppl should do, but young ppl don't need one. ... Read More


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    You can buy a living will at staples right? And then have it notarized? Or do you have to go through a lawyer/doctor? Forgive my ignorance. Mmm im thinking this may be an extra christmas present for myself and a couple family members. : ). Can burial/funeral services be included as well? Geez, your right! Its scary that as a nurse i have no idea, other than the clinical definition. I may have to google all of this.

    I did have a family member pass away unexpected at 50 and every decision was left to me and my brother. It was terrible because we really had no idea what he would have wanted, and we just chose as we saw fit. It wouldve been so nice to know we were following his wishes, instead of us just trying to figure it out!
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    Quote from NursieNurseLPN
    You can buy a living will at staples right? And then have it notarized? Or do you have to go through a lawyer/doctor? Forgive my ignorance. Mmm im thinking this may be an extra christmas present for myself and a couple family members. : ). Can burial/funeral services be included as well? Geez, your right! Its scary that as a nurse i have no idea, other than the clinical definition. I may have to google all of this.

    I did have a family member pass away unexpected at 50 and every decision was left to me and my brother. It was terrible because we really had no idea what he would have wanted, and we just chose as we saw fit. It wouldve been so nice to know we were following his wishes, instead of us just trying to figure it out!

    these are darn good questions, NursieNurse!! I will also google around. My best pal is a lawyer, so she drew up both my living will, and my medical POA papers. She told me the fees for the two papers, and both were super cheap, but, i forgot the costs now, but, was impressed it ws so cheap.


    One most definitly can pre-arrange their own funeral. YOu can contact any funeral home you want, pick out everything, pay for it, and make sure your family knows of this.

    Me, i don't want to use up 10 square feet of earth for my dead self, over billions of years, we'll run out of earth at some point.
    so i am being cremated. Being a cheap person, i was kinda horrified to find out, that cremation costs $3000 or more, and the price is rising, year by year.


    so, i found out, i can donate my body to a medical school, or a science org, for like, med students or the like to study up on anatomy, etc. This donation can follow a typical formal funeral, or, one can skip that whole formal funeral thing if they want to. ONe can be an organ donor, first, too, and still donate their body to science.

    (i've opted to skip the whole "rent a parlor" funeral thing, and have instead, instructed my fam to just set out a photo of me, have everyone over for a pizza, and play some music, dance around, have a bonfire, whatever. take the thousands and thousands of dollars that we saved by not having funeral, and go on a "celebration of life" trip !!)

    By donating my dead body to science, i can be helping some students or scientists or future doctors somewhere, so i hope to be useful, even in death, ha ha!!
    Also, i get a free cremation. YAY! This is done after 18 to 24 months. Upon being cremated, one can opt their family be contacted with offer of the ashes,
    or, the science org will dispose of those for you.
    I told my family, i will have them contacted, but, i could care less what they decide, whatever works for them, however, i don't want to be some urn on a mantle. But, if my family wants to, they can opt to accept the ashes, and go sprinkle them somewhere in nature, like a seaside or a cliff, or a forest, etc.
    I also rather liked the idea, of having a tree planted and just dump my ashes in where the tree is planted. but, that's a bit of work, and if they don't feel like it, fine. I won't know one way or another.

    Since i move from state to state fairly frequently, i signed up for a national org, not a state medical school. HOwver, almost all "donate your body to science" orgs, will not accept a decomposed body, so i have some "cremate me" funds set aside, in the event, i die and am not found in time to be donated to science.


    anyway, i digress, i will google more on you very great question!! on how most ppl do their living wills??? It might be something one can do online and have notorized, not sure, but, could be!!
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    btw, it costs nothing to be an organ donor,
    nor to donate one's body to science,
    and i am doing both. One can opt to do BOTH.
    off to google how ppl who don't have best pals who are lawyers draw up living wills!
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    I have found these sites, can't vouch for their reliability, if these types of living wills would be treated as legit. I also think it is wise to get a Medical Power of Attorney, who will speak for you, using your living will,
    when you can't speak for yourself.


    This site claims to offer FREE living wills.
    Living Will | TotalLegal


    this one also offers free living wills:
    Living Will | LegacyWriter


    this "how to" site, suggests asking for a form at your local hospital,
    and adds this: //"A living will must be signed in the presence of two witnesses, according to legacywriter.com. It does not need to be notarized except in North Carolina, South Carolina and Tennessee."//


    this site charges some fee to do your living will:
    How to Make a Living Will - 3-Step Process | LegalZoom.com







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    one could also call some lawyers and compare their fees
    for doing living wills and medical Power Of Attorney.

    It's not much. Doesn't take a long time, either.
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    How To Create a Living Will | Legal Wills


    ^good info on that site, with tips and pointers.
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    In my state you just choose whether or not you want to be an organ donor when you get your driver's license. Is it not like that everywhere? The back of my license has a blurb about being an organ donor that I've not paid attention to, but I know there's a little heart "icon" on the top of my photo which means I told them at the DMV when asked that I wanted to be an organ donor.

    Not that I'm wishing more work on nurses, but it would be kind of nice if there was a fill in the blank type of living will that was an automatic process for being admitted into the hospital rather than just asking, do you have one?
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    You are torturing some readers (me) by using "ppl" so much (or at all). Otherwise, your message is a good one.
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    A few days ago a friend of mine went in for minor surgery on her nose, stayed overnight. Nurse came in to give some IV meds and gave her an IV heart med (it wasn't in this country, and this is what her sister witnessed) which was mean't for another patient.
    My friend had an immediate cardiac arrest and died.
    So you just never ever know the moment, I am sure nobody would have thought that this would happen, unfortunately it does.
    You need to have a Living will, but more importantly you need to make your wishes known to your next of kin, so that the living will is taken with you where ever and when ever you need treatment.
    Plus they know exactly what you want!
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    When I was doing C&L psych at a large urban teaching hospital quite a few years ago, I saw the hospital honor advanced directives and POAs that were handwritten on notebook paper -- as long as it was in ink (not pencil), and signed and witnessed, that was good enough. The hospital's position (although I'm sure this is not universal ) was that you didn't have to pay an attorney to draw something official up; as long as the hospital could determine clearly what your wishes were, and that they were really your wishes, that was good enough.
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