I'm thinking about trying to get pregnant and start nursing school? Yes or No? - page 5

:o I've been married for almost two years now and am starting to get the baby fever! I just appiled to the nursing program for the fall of 2005. For all the mother's out there, how hard is it to get... Read More

  1. by   maria456
    So glad I found this thread

    I'm 34 going on 35 this year and contemplating some BIG decisions.... going back to school for nursing and starting a family. Anyway, dunno what to do. I think I may delay nursing school til fall06 and try for baby #1 asap. And then, try for baby #2 after I finish school.

    Any advice?...always good to hear other people's thoughts. Thanks!
  2. by   rebeccainlv
    Quote from maria456
    So glad I found this thread

    I'm 34 going on 35 this year and contemplating some BIG decisions.... going back to school for nursing and starting a family. Anyway, dunno what to do. I think I may delay nursing school til fall06 and try for baby #1 asap. And then, try for baby #2 after I finish school.

    Any advice?...always good to hear other people's thoughts. Thanks!
    Kids are great...but they take up ALL of your time and money. My daughter is 6 and used to me going to school since I went 4 nights per week for about 1 year, 2 nights per week for another year, then full time during the day for a year. Now I"m in a full time BSN program so I'm gone all day everyday plus a 12 hour clinical shift on Saturday. Not to mention the fact that I read/study every night of the week and still cook meals, go grocery shopping, take her to gymnastics classes and go to the gym myself. And that's with a kid that is able to entertain herself, etc while I'm busy with school work.

    The best way to do nursing school is if you don't work and can focus on school 100%. Some of my classmates worked during the first semester but most cut back their hours or quit after they found out how much time school takes up. Most of us are living on student loans.

    A baby should be a priority either way. Either have a baby or do nursing school. Doing both at the same time is going to be the hardest things you have ever done. School alone is going to be very hard. There's so much to do and so little time to get it done. Add in a baby and a load of laundry every day. And pumping milk at school or clinical. And all the household chores that you normally do. And the extra mega-expenses of a baby. It will be no less than overwhelming. I wuld do one thing at a time. They are both very time consuming, overwhelming and life changing.

    You dont' want to miss out on the joys of pregnancy because you were too busy studying. You could have a baby and then go back to school when the baby is a year old or so. The first year is incredible and you wont' want to miss out on it or be too tired to enjoy it. Just my opinion. I wish I had finished my BSN before I had my daughter. Life is so much more complicated post-kids.
  3. by   Betty_SPN_KS
    I would say don't try to do both. If it happens, it happens, but don't try both on purpose. You can find yourself very stressed and sleep-deprived during nursing school. New parents can also be very sleep-deprived. Either one can be overwhelming at times. I can't imagine doing both at the same time. I've had 8 babies and went to nursing school when my youngest was 5.
  4. by   BlaqButterflyy
    Quote from rayofsunshine
    I've been married for almost two years now and am starting to get the baby fever! I just appiled to the nursing program for the fall of 2005. For all the mother's out there, how hard is it to get through nursing school and have a child? My husband really wants to start trying now but I'm really nervous about how I'll be able to manage a newborn and nursing. Please let me know your stories and experiences!
    Hello there. I am not a mother, and I just graduated form nursing school in December 2004. Want some advice about having children and being in nursing school at the same time?........NO!!!!!!!!!! It was hard enough for me and my classmates to be students, and to be a new mom to a newborn child who needs all of your time and attention......I am not saying it is not possible, (all respect to my fellow nursing students who are also parents), but it is a challenge. 2 of my friends had to drop out of school to be mommies. I am sure it is possible, but my advice is to hold off on the kids. You can always have them when you graduate. Good luck on your decision.
  5. by   nurse_wannabe
    Quote from RNinMay2005
    i am pregnant in nursing school now, due right before graduation. reasonable accomadations? the only reasonable accomodation they want to make for me is letting me stay and not kicking me out. i am perfectly healthy and pregnant. i was pregnant all last semester, and will be for 90% of this one. i have yet to miss or be late to a single class or clinical. i get good grades. i am also supposed to have a note from my dr saying i have no physical restrictions on what i can and cannot do in clinicals. i had one that said "no heavy lifting" and that was nixed and i was forced to get another one. so if you go to my school....dont get pregnant.
    Wow, they sound tough! I have to say that my instructors have been great at not expecting me to lift anything/anyone by myself and not assigning me patients with RSV or anything else that might harm the baby. And I didn't even need a doctor's note.... :chuckle

    I've been doing pretty good lately. The shortness of breath has improved (for now). I had to leave clinicals early the other day because my bellly was hurting. I am having some major round ligament pain, and the longer I stand, the worse it hurts. I have ordered a maternity belt, so maybe that will help!
  6. by   nurse_wannabe
    Quote from maria456
    So glad I found this thread

    I'm 34 going on 35 this year and contemplating some BIG decisions.... going back to school for nursing and starting a family. Anyway, dunno what to do. I think I may delay nursing school til fall06 and try for baby #1 asap. And then, try for baby #2 after I finish school.

    Any advice?...always good to hear other people's thoughts. Thanks!
    Hi, Maria! In your case, I would say start that family! It sounds to me like you have put a lot of thought into it and I agree with your plan. Remember, you can go to nursing school at any age! I have classmates in their late 50's and they are doing just fine. In fact, they are doing better than some of the youngsters because they don't have young children at home and can devote more time to studying.

    You should start your family now while you can... especially since you want 2 children.

    Whatever you decide, best of luck to you!
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  8. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Quote from Heath82371
    After reading this post I have decided that if I am not currently pregnant then I will not actively pursue becoming pregnant initially while in school and at least that way I can be done with nursing school by the time the baby is born (I have applied to a one year accelerated program). My hubby is a new CRNA so it is probably better this way. I will be only 32 when I graduate in the summer of 2006.
    Oh wow, new CRNA....you are definately doing the right thing. Either put off school or pregnancy. He can't fill in the "mommy gaps" for you in school, and believe me, there will be times you wont' either. I think you are wise.
  9. by   twinmommy+2
    Quote from rayofsunshine
    I've been married for almost two years now and am starting to get the baby fever! I just appiled to the nursing program for the fall of 2005. For all the mother's out there, how hard is it to get through nursing school and have a child? My husband really wants to start trying now but I'm really nervous about how I'll be able to manage a newborn and nursing. Please let me know your stories and experiences!
    When I started back in school I had a 1 1/2 year old and 5 month old twins. Its do-able, but if you guys can hold off just another few years you will do much better!

    Now, if you just can't wait, you will have to learn fast about time management. Even while preggo you have to tell yourself that ok, this much studying has to be done by tomorrow so I can be caught up for the class, then make yourself go to bed by a certain time cause you will not have good rest pregnant and in school. As far as having a baby and studying, just making sure that you put them on a predictible schedule is worth its weight in gold!

    It can be done, but nursing school is very stressful and if it can be put off than it would be better to put it off.
  10. by   twinmommy+2
    Oh yeah, and I need to add something.

    While its doable, and many nursing students where I attend school including myself are mothers of young children, the time is not the only issue.

    Babies get sick, do you have health insurance? Does hubby work a good job to support you, him and a child? It is a very bad feeling when you have to pull change from the sofa to buy diapers or formula.

    What support do you have? Do you have other family besides your husband who is willing to chip in when you need a break?

    What about childcare while your in school? Do you have a way to get to daycare during school if the day care calls and says they are out of diapers for the little one or if they pooped out of all their cloths or got sick? Is there someone there during the day that can take care of a sick baby (cause the day care won't) if you have to take a test that day? I had to do that one today myself. Poor hubby worked a full 2nd shift last night and had to wake up at 7am to watch the oldest with an upset stomach.

    It is doable, but from experience it is so hard studying, going to school, coming home to three preschoolers and housework, making sure everyone has their doctors appt.s, dental, WIC, childcare subsidies taken care of. I do all of that. Hubby doesn't do any of that. And that is the reality of it sometimes. Not all husbands are going to be bright and shiny about taking care of things like that and if you want to go to school and have children at the same time its something you might have to face. Even if they did want the children to begin with!

    None of this was meant in anyway to be negative, only to be realistic. I will never pretend to tell a woman what she can and can't do because in all honesty in the end its possible to do all this! But it is very very hard to do.
  11. by   maria456
    Thanks for the advice and for the feedback.

    It really helps
  12. by   BEANURSE
    Quote from rayofsunshine
    Thank you so much for all of your advice! I definatley will not attempt to do both. My good sense told me it wouldn't be a good idea but I'm getting a lot of pressure from family and friends. I'm 25 and everyone is telling me I'm getting close to the age of being too old to have babies!!! I really appreciate all of the replys!

    You have got to be kidding!!!!!! 25 is "getting close to the age of being too old" NOT!!!!!! I am 35 in my second semester of my program and am planning on having a baby when I get done (I will be almost 37 when I get done)...

    My advise to you, as with most people that have responded, is DON'T DO IT! Nursing school is the hardest thing I have ever done....rewarding, but the hardest most time consuming thing I have ever done! You literally live and breathe this stuff.....no one is kidding when they tell you that!

    Get your degree and then have babies! YOU HAVE PLENTY OF TIME to have children.....Just my
  13. by   ~Kitty~
    Quote from leslieanne
    I had the same thoughts that you did when I started school. Additionally, I have PCOS, so my biological clock is ticking away doubletime.

    les

    What is PCOS?

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