I'm sad today

  1. As you may know. I am the mother of 5 wonderful teenage boys. What you may not know is only 2 of them are naturally mine.
    Today is a big day.
    I am happy but very very sad.
    2 of my boys are going home to live with their natural father today. I am very happy for them but so very very sad. I thought over the years that I had carefully prepared myself for today, guess not.
    I always knew this day would come. That I was just a steping stone until Dad could get it together.
    My hat goes of to all foster parents (Iam not a foster parent) just an Aunt.
    Thanks for letting me vent
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  2. 13 Comments

  3. by   altomga
    you are to be commended and my hat goes off to you....

    you deserve to be sad, but be glad that you helped keep a child's life happy until their dad could get "it together"
    Keep your chin up
  4. by   RRMLPN
    Great big hug to you. You have played such an important role in thier lives and i'm sure you will continue to do so. It's never easy to let go and i know it's bittersweet for you. we are here for you
  5. by   RNsweetie
    I will be thinking of you on Mothers day (you are a person deserving of the title because you have given so much). I am always amazed at what people are able to give of themselves when needed to do so and you have risen to the challenge. Bravo to you.:angel2:
    take care of your self
    Erin
  6. by   live4today
    Originally posted by Erin RN student
    I will be thinking of you on Mothers day (you are a person deserving of the title because you have given so much). I am always amazed at what people are able to give of themselves when needed to do so and you have risen to the challenge. Bravo to you.:angel2:
    take care of your self
    Erin
    A heartfelt second to this message for it deserves to be repeated. I couldn't have written it better. (Thanks Erin for letting me borrow your thoughts to express to sixes).

    ((((((sixes)))))) What a blessing you truly are. :kiss :angel2:
  7. by   susanmary
    The boys are who they are, in part, because of you. You showed them what unconditional love and acceptance is about -- lessons they will carry with them throughout their lives. It's a bittersweet moment for all -- but you have been there for them when their dad was unable to. I'm hoping that social services will follow closely to help them transition back to their lives with their "natural" father. Keep in contact with them and let them know that you are there for them 24/7. What a wonderful person you are -- how rich all your lives must be -- you truly have a home filled with love.

    Sue
  8. by   RNsweetie
    And Sixes, you will never be "just an Aunt" to them.:kiss
    Erin
  9. by   jnette
    Each one is taking a piece of your heart with them.
    While this is painful, know that these heart fragments are not simply "gone", but tethered. Hearts have mingled and blended.

    You will always be as "one".

    May your pain be eased in knowing that each one carries part of you with them.
    And that hearts are never too far away.

    BIG, BIG HUGS for you.
  10. by   Rapheal
    (((((((hugs))))))). As they mature and become men with their own wives and children, you may be pleasantly surprised that you will be included as grandma. My friend was in a similiar situation and when the kids were grown, they gravitated more towards her then their biological mother. They love their mother, but had developed a bond with their stepmother that they came to value greatly when they had kids of their own. Until then, I hope you draw comfort from the knowledge that you are a great mommy-aunt and put their needs before your own.
  11. by   RNIAM
    I want you to know that you are an awesome person. Giving you a great big hug. I used to be a foster mom and I know that pain.
    Take good care of yourself.
  12. by   sixes
    Thank you all for your wonderful words. Tony and Willy left about an hour ago. I think I'm done crying for a little while. I will keep in touch with them and I have let them know that my heart and home are theirs whenever they need it.
    The next thing that will be hard is WEDNESDAY. We are moving to North Bay so that I can restart my Nursing carrer as it has been on hold since 1999. I just found it too hard to work with 5 boys in the house.
    On WEDNESDAY I will be leaving behind my MOM, Sister and the hardest will be leaving my Natural Son Ryan age 17 so he can finish his high school. He maybe joining us in the Bay after but schooling my take him elsewhere.
    So many emotions. I'm excited to restart my nursing, sad that our wonderful family is seperating. So many new things to look forward to.
    Well I'm rambling. Sorry.
    I'll be online until Tuesday. Then I'll lose my fix until I can get up and running again
    Thank You all for your words of encouragement, wisdom, and most of all your hugs

    Jody
  13. by   jnette
    whew... an emotional time for you, indeed. You wll be fine, as will all the family. I believe they (and we) have seen what you're made of ! Wishing you all the best in your new journey. Be safe.
    Be successful. Be loved as you love.

    And get back in touch when you're up and running again !!!
  14. by   NurseRachy
    Wow Jody you are truely inspirational. What a kind and generous person you are to care for these boys. If our world was full of people like you then what an even more magical place it would be. I agree with everyone here, especially you never being "just an aunt" to them - more like an angel!!
    Big big hugs and my very best wishes
    Rachel @}-->------------------

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