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Okay, ladies...I have some questions here... I'm an OB nurse. I deliver babies for a living. I have never personally given birth or ever been pregnant. So here's my question....in all honesty,... Read More

  1. by   ARmickie
    I've had four C sections, so I never had the actual "birth" experience you are referring to, I don't think. I started laboring with my first daughter, and I never really thought I was in labor. I was past due, and the dr wanted me to carry as long as possible b/c there was concern about IUGR and the baby being small. When I finally did go to the hospital, it was only to please my DH, since he was concerned that I couldn't get comfortable at home.. my back hurt.. It was not a severe type of pain, just an ache that I couldn't get rid of for several hours. When I got to ER and the monitor was strapped on, the nurses explained it was back labor. I was told by the L/D nurse that the contractions (which still felt like a "catch" in my back) were showing to be rather significant on the monitor. You couldn't tell it by me.. I was fine. Of course, had I dialated ANY, I probably would have felt more, but that never happened. The baby's heart rate started dropping after several hours of this and they went ahead w/ and emergency C section. I think actual labor and delivery would be horrific, but that it also would depend on your own personal pain threshold as well... no doubt about it.. it's not going to be pleasant until it's all over!
  2. by   nurseunderwater
    Quote from shay
    Okay, ladies...I have some questions here...

    I'm an OB nurse. I deliver babies for a living. I have never personally given birth or ever been pregnant. So here's my question....in all honesty, what does labor really and truly FEEL like....other than painful?

    I mean, is it crushing, stabbing, ripping, aching, WHAT? I can't exactly ask my labor patients these kinds of questions...so I want to hear from you.

    Because I'm approaching 30, and although I want children very much, to be quite frank, labor scares the bejesus out of me...all of my friends, with the exception of ONE, had totally drug-free childbirth. I just want the lowdown....what does labor FEEL like???
    well....i've had 3, 1 in hospital w/ a cnm 2 at home....all non medicated. last one was posterior, born in the water....

    it seems that everyone has a different perception of pain r/t childbirth but here is mine.

    1st one - shocked....5 hours total w/ a "cheerleader" as a labor nurse...

    2 - pushing was the worst part...

    3 - the whole thing was amazing...

    it hurts yes, yet i am a mama not afraid to make noise, found that "lamaze breathing" is for the birds and the whole thing is so worth it. It's not pain w/o a reason and it's not neverending. when your done, wallah! you have a beautiful babe at your breast...

    Going w/o meds for me was the only way to go. I don't feel judgement re: women who choose meds. I have friends who say that an epidural is a "gift from God"

    All I can say is...don't be afraid. Women have been doing this for soooooooo long. Have a lot of support, get a doulah (labor assistant) and really once things start "happening" all you can think about is the task at hand. yes it's hard work, that's why they call it "labor"

    it's an amazing experience...as someone who spent a lot of time in my head it was the moment when I truely felt in the moment and didn't care what I looked like, what anyone thought, and as far as my concern about "pooping"...that was the furthest thought from my mind
  3. by   LittleCatB
    Quote from shay
    Okay, ladies...I have some questions here...
    <snipped>
    Because I'm approaching 30, and although I want children very much, to be quite frank, labor scares the bejesus out of me...all of my friends, with the exception of ONE, had totally drug-free childbirth. I just want the lowdown....what does labor FEEL like???
    Have you ever had those *really* horrible diarrhea cramps, the kind that make your whole body hurt? Or a charlie horse? That's what it felt like to me, combined, but worse. Pushing the baby out hurt but, to me, it was nothing compared to the labor pains.

    I think it was because I was being induced; they gave me cervadil and it threw me into labor- I never got any pitocin. I was trying to explain to the nurse why I was having such intense labor pains as I'd signed a paper that explained the risk of cervidil and she was saying that I was wrong, LOL. So, as a first time mom, I went into labor and 3 hours later I was pushing- my OB was pissed because no one bothered to call her...

    I couldn't believe how much it hurt, but afterwards when I saw my baby I would have gone through it all again in a minute. Actually when my OB was stiching up my episiotamy I was talking about having another baby right away- I had this really great endorphin rush.

    I got an epidural but it didn't take, but friends who got it said it made the pain magically go away, although they could still feel some of the contractions. Just plan on an epidural and you should be fine.
    You can do it, women have done it since the beginning of time. (oh, well, maybe not the epidural part)
  4. by   laughingfairy
    Well each and every delivery is truly different.

    I was raised on stories of my own delivery. I was an emergency c-section 6 weeks early. My mother had gone to her OB on friday...every thing was fine. "see you next week" Saturday night my mother woke up with this incredible uncomfortable "can't breath sensation" stood up to see if that would help and her water broke. Dad takes her to the hospital. She isn't experiancing any
    contractions. Okay so they check her out. They can "find the baby's (my) backside" but somehow my head has gone missing. Dr. orders and x-ray. Turns out I was facing her spine with my head bent backwards and chin caught on her lower rib cage feet tap dancing on her bladder and kinda wedged in. The doctor still remembers it. Says it was the strangest position he has ever seen then and now.
    So then I'm pregnant and my MIL tells me about her labor with my DH. Goes into the city for the day, but has a little back ache. Decides to stop at hosp. to get checked out since they were there anyway. Send her and a candy striper to get in a gown and into the stirrups. She gets settled. Puts her legs up and the candy stripper catches. BTW it was the candy striper's first day and her last.

    Then my delieveries. Went to work at 1500. Had one of those days from Heck. Hadn't sat down at 1900 or touched a chart had begun to get this HORRIBLE back ache, but thats okay I had been having it on and off for a month. And several times a day for the last week. Husband calls says he is blowing off class and bringing me dinner. (Burger King). He gets there says "are you sure your okay" I told him tht I would get someone to cover my midnight shift.

    1930 back on the floor calling for coverage. Suddenly relize I have to go to the hospital. Now!!!! I'm not thinking labor because I'm not due for another 6 weeks. Call hubby he comes flying back, maitance man is looking for towels to put in his truck to take me to the hospital, because husbands brakes went out. One of our nurses had asked me does it ever ease up. I said "oh it was easing up until about 20 minutes ago. Now its constant." I'm apparently doing the transition shuffle at that point. Still don't have a clue.

    Long and the short I was 7 cm when I walked onto LD at 2030. told don't push. NONE of my contractions through my entire labor registered on the TOCO. None came around the front. I had stadol @ 2100 to slow me down so I could get Decadron shots. I hated the way it made me feel. I just kinda left my body. Hated being out of control. Bp 70s/40s made to lay flat on my back. No walking no turning no moving. vomited and had loose stools. cried the whole time cause I hadn't finished charting or written T.O. I had taken. Delivered at 0800 with 5 push. Apgars 9/10 4#11oz 18 in

    Second baby a week post due. Smart this time. didn't eat because induction the next AM, had given DH sleeping pill cause he was a wreck. Instead woke up in labor @0130. Tyl, shower, nothing helped. "for pete's sake I'm not going to make until 7. 0230 told him to get his a** out of bed. very nasty at this point. Call the doctor swear at her & tell her I'm going to the hospital. Call MIL come stay with oldest. she asks "R u in pain" (refer to her story) cuss her out (she is my best friend) meanwhile I'm on my knees bent over the couch. Husband (stoned) drives me to the hospital. 0330 get there your fully efaced and 3 cm. 1 more than the day before. get ABT going and IV. 30-45 min later. Swearing under my breath the whole time something about peasent women and fields. Nurse rechecks. 7 1/2 cm. (wow!!) get an epidural OB finally gets there anthesia leaves. 10cm push. HR plummets. internal monitor. (btw I can't feel contractions and once again not showing on monitor). emergency section. prolapsed cord. 0636 deliver apgars 9/10 7# 9oz 22in

    Both wonderful children. #1 no pain med after delivery I left in 36 hrs baby 6 days. #2 pain med 72 hrs. discharge at 48 per my demand. with baby. strangest thing is I would describe cervical pain as the worst of it
  5. by   JUSTYSMOM
    I was never really in labor. I went to my OB on a Monday for a standard 38 week checkup. My blood pressure was sky high! My Doctor then told me I had won a ticket to go to the hospital. When I asked when, he said "NOW".
    I was not dilated at all. The baby was still very high up.

    I was put on a pitocen drip & given a vaginal suppository to thin out my cervix. The only thing I eventually felt were extremely bad menstrual cramps. But nothing else happened. I had a C-Section the next day.

    I had a very hard recovery. But my son was worth every bit of major abdominal surgery.
  6. by   IloveSnoopy
    Hi folks,
    Wow....this is an old thread...but quite an interesting one. I don't have any children yet...but we are planning on starting to "try" soon. I'm one of those that is scared about the pain during labor. That's not what is delaying our child rearing decisions..but it is something that I'm starting to think about. As some of you know...I have endometriosis....and each month I have severe, severe menstrual cramps. The cramping, burning, pulling is almost unbearable at times. I've talked to some other women with children and endometriosis....and 3 out of 4 have said that labor is easier than dealing with the endo. pain. Personally...I'd definately consider an epidural for labor...but the other part of me wants to see for myself if the pain is worse than endo.... Does anyone have any experience with the labor versus endo. thing??? I'd be very curious to hear from other ladies...that have gone thru both.
    Luv,
    Snoop
  7. by   RedSox33RN
    Woweee! It is an old thread!

    I've had 4 vaginally. First was horrible back labor for 10 hours, pushed for 3 1/2, and had only girl (8lb 14 oz). Second was quick, easy, no pain at all labor, labored in tub, delivered on bed our first son (8lb, 8oz). Third was back labor again, hoping for another quickie, but not to be, second son born sunny-side up on bed after laboring in tub for 3 hours (9lb, 6oz). Fourth child, 3rd son, born after a completely painless labor of 3 1/2 hours, labored for 10 minutes in tub and then delivered in tub after 3 pushes (11 lb, 1oz).

    And then I was done.........for good!

    Every labor is different, just like every baby. Who would've thought a relatively small woman (hip-wise) could deliver an 11-lb'er with no pain whatsoever?

    Love the waterbirths though. I highly recommend it.
  8. by   ayndim
    Quote from shay
    Okay, ladies...I have some questions here...

    I'm an OB nurse. I deliver babies for a living. I have never personally given birth or ever been pregnant. So here's my question....in all honesty, what does labor really and truly FEEL like....other than painful?

    I mean, is it crushing, stabbing, ripping, aching, WHAT? I can't exactly ask my labor patients these kinds of questions...so I want to hear from you.

    Because I'm approaching 30, and although I want children very much, to be quite frank, labor scares the bejesus out of me...all of my friends, with the exception of ONE, had totally drug-free childbirth. I just want the lowdown....what does labor FEEL like???
    I didn't have any pain with my 1st or 3rd. With my first I could feel my tummy contracting but there wasn't any pain with it. It did wake me up so I just got up and muddled around the house then got a warm bath. After about 2 hours I got my hubby up because I felt like pushing. I was almost 10 when I got to the birth center. I ended up at the hospital due to meconium. From the point my CNM checked me and my water broke til I got to the hospital was about 10 mins. I was complete when I got to the hospital. With #3 I went to the hospital as soon as I felt a couple of ctx. Not the way they tell you to determine if you are in labor but with my history of fast and painless labors my CNM told me to go in as soon as I thought I was in labor. My CNM checked me at the hospital and I was 4. Not in any pain so she had me walk for an hour. I spent time chatting with the nurses and my hubby while I was up and about. I even thought that I was going home. When she checked me again I was 8. I got an epidural at that point so I could get my tubes tied after the birth without being put to sleep. The pushing isn't bad. You will feel a brief pain, sort of like the burning of a UTI called the ring of fire, then everything goes numb after a couple of seconds.

    With #2 I was induced after my water broker 24+ hours. Let me tell you the pit hurt like h*ll. But my labor was only 1 hour 45 mins from when they put the pit in. It is hard to describe what the pain felt like. I barely remember it.

    I told everyone my labor wasn't going to hurt. They all told me I was crazy. But it didn't hurt (I knew the pit was going to hurt). I think I convinced myself labor wasn't painful. It was all a mind trick. When my cousin was pg I told her how I really believed it wasn't going to be painful. She did the same and had a pretty easy labor too. It could be that we just have high pain thresholds or it could be believing.
  9. by   Energizer Bunny
    Quote from IloveSnoopy
    Hi folks,
    Wow....this is an old thread...but quite an interesting one. I don't have any children yet...but we are planning on starting to "try" soon. I'm one of those that is scared about the pain during labor. That's not what is delaying our child rearing decisions..but it is something that I'm starting to think about. As some of you know...I have endometriosis....and each month I have severe, severe menstrual cramps. The cramping, burning, pulling is almost unbearable at times. I've talked to some other women with children and endometriosis....and 3 out of 4 have said that labor is easier than dealing with the endo. pain. Personally...I'd definately consider an epidural for labor...but the other part of me wants to see for myself if the pain is worse than endo.... Does anyone have any experience with the labor versus endo. thing??? I'd be very curious to hear from other ladies...that have gone thru both.
    Luv,
    Snoop
    We are pretty sure I have endometriosis. My pain is debilitating most of the time, not just during periods. I would still take it over labor induction any day. I would not, however, take it over natural labor progression. The pit. makes a world of difference for me in my pain threshold!
  10. by   devi
    My labor and delivery lasted 24 hours.

    I was overdue with my son and was scheduled to go in the next morning to be induced. My appointment with my midwife was that afternoon, and while examining me, she suddenly did something she called "stripping the membranes". It felt like she grabbed my cervix and twisted it...it hurt like he**!! and she didn't warn me at all before she did it.

    Anyway, by 7:00 that night, I was in labor. It was bearable, though. I went to dinner with my mother at a restaurant, went back home, and tried to doze in between my contractions. I really wanted to be alone, so I didn't wake anyone up. The whole night felt like a fog. I remember being on my knees next to my bed with my elbows on the mattress, rocking back and forth in the dark to ease the back pains

    I woke my mother up at 6:00 am and we got to the hospital right at the time I was scheduled to be there for the induction.

    Between 8:00 am and 12:00, I walked around the floor a lot. At about noon, I could no longer stand anyone to touch me or talk to me. I got into the jacuzzi in my room and went into such a trance that I can only remember 5 minutes of the next 3 hours.

    After 20 hours of labor, I finally took Demerol. The contractions still hurt...I just didn't care anymore :chuckle

    At 22 hours, I got my epidural because my midwife thought it would help me move along faster. How I loved that epidural.

    At 7:00 pm, I started pushing. At 7:05 pm, my son was born.
  11. by   Mimi2RN
    My first baby was born in June 1969. I knew nothing about having babies, had been in this country for two months. The OB told me what he would do, I was from England, went along with it.

    My water broke about 10am, 5 days late. I went into the hospital and eventually put on a pit drip....after shave and enema. I started contracting around 4pm, things moved along quickly, and by 6pm, I was miserable. Was given something for pain, and promptly threw up on my husband. Before 7pm, I was taken to the delivery room, and remember nothing more. I was given some kind of spinal, and he was delivered with forceps about 15 minutes later. 9lb 3oz boy. I have always wondered what I was given, maybe scopalomine? I came to in my room, had to stay flat on my back for 12 hours, and didn't see the baby till next day.

    Next baby was 2 1/2 years later. I took Lamaze classes, and knew a lot more. A couple of weeks before he was due, I was out shopping with a friend, and our kids. I had backache, kept coming and going......realized it was every 7 minutes. I called the doc, and they wanted me to go in and get checked. By the time we had dropped the kids of and got to his office, he had gone to the hospital for a delivery, so they sent me over there. By then I was 7cm and contractions every three minutes. Back labor, I was much more comfortable sitting up, and went to the delivery room sitting cross-legged on the gurney. I think the lamaze really helped me, I don't remember the contractions being anywhere near as horrendous as were the pit-induced ones with my first. I delivered my second baby about 1 1/2 hours after being admitted to the hospital, total labor, including the bachache I didn't recognise was only about 5 hours. He was only 7lb 5oz, too. Tiny compared to my first.

    I made a big fuss, and got to see my baby that evening...and had 3 days in the hospital with both of them. Both breast fed, with bottles at night...that's the way it was, and we didn't argue. Neither of them had any feeding problems. Our hospital stays were scheduled, with the babies brought to us at regular intervals. Fathers were not allowed in the room when the babies were with us. Some things have changed for the better!
  12. by   smk1
    Yep it HURTS! but the funny thing is that when it is time to actually push the baby out (at least for me) i was so tired of the 18 hour labor and all of the problems (4 different people had to try to find a vein i felt like a pin cushion!) drugs wearing off, doc ROM, etc... When my baby started crowning it was like the light at the end of the tunnel and i just gritted my teeth and focused on getting the job done. It feels like ripping, cramping stabbing pains but the last few hours are the worst. the first few the lamaze stuff may help (kind of) and sitting in a whirlpool bath like they had at my hospital helped a little, but once you get toward the end or "transition" all bets are off. But hey you do get through it and once you see that little blue, gooey conehead, screaming baby it is all worth it! lol
  13. by   sleepymom
    both of my labors were wonderful once I got my lovely epidural! You don't get a gold plated baby if you choose not to use drugs. Just keep that in mind. I didn't scream, curse, and carry on like some crazed woman, but I would have probably wanted to die had I not had the epidural. The contractions were so intense!

    I think it's normal to be scared of labor. However, once your 7 and 8 months pregnant you will find that you don't give a damn how painful labor is. All you want is the baby out and your body back! lol
    Last edit by sleepymom on May 4, '04 : Reason: Left some words out

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