with mean-spirited, manipulative, and conniving coworkers. How do you deal with them? What do you do to make YOUR work time enjoyable or manageable?
I realize that there are a bunch of threads on this topic on this forum, but I would like to read about recent experiences. I started a new job at a place that has hired a new person in years. I feel like an outsider and although I am pleasant to my coworkers, I do not feel comfortable there. I am aware that fitting in takes time. I just want to go to work to work and care for the patients...nothing more, nothing less.
I guess I am asking for help here. Quitting is not an option because jobs are difficult to secure.
i basically had the same problem as you have described when i first started working at my current place of employment. i am leaving in a week after working there well over a year... i would have left earlier but like you i could not do so due to lack of employment opportunities in my area and my lack of nursing experience at that time. anyway, to better my situation i talked to my bully co-workers, the bully charge nurses, and all of their minions one-on-one and got results.
similar to grade school, bullies target people whom they perceive as weak! they tend to stay away from or act respectful to people who tend to challenge them in any way. in fact, confronting the offenders helped me to fit-in better with them so that i could do my job more effectively. today i am not a friend to any of them, but they learned from our conversations i was not going to tolerate unprofessional and disrespectful behaviors any more, which has helped me to get my job done.
for example, if the bully tends to confront you in front of patients in a disrespectful manner, speak up in front of your patients and let that co-worker know that she (i have yet to have a guy act this way) is behaving unprofessionally and that she needs to back off now and you two can talk later. the reason i write that it is necessary to state this in front of your patients is because their disrespectful behaviors in front of your patients creates an environment where your patients may choose not to trust you as his/her nurse.
by the way, the environment i am leaving is awful. it took everything in me to get through one shift. i look back and am surprised i survived well over a year when other nurses with way more nursing and life experience then me left within months of starting (this includes three nurse managers). the bullies have created such an abusive environment that most of my co-workers who have remained are in the process of leaving in the next few months.
the bullies? of course, none of them have plans of leaving any time soon. this is ok... i am so happy that i am leaving i can not express my joy in words!! i hope the same for you too!!! in the meantime, stand your ground with them and they will learn to back off, though they will continue to gossip. gl!
Last edit by MBARNBSN on Mar 2, '11