I need some advice!!!!!

  1. OK I think I have issues...lol... some of you may know that I had recently put in my 2 week notice in at A LTC last month...becuse of the insurance rate issues....I was just hired on to another LTC here for just a day or so now...and I cannot stand it there...yes the drive is shorter, and the insurance is alot better...but I really can not stand it...The RN supr treats me as her student and not as a nurse..as if i am a complete idiot..and it's just not her...I feel no coonection with these ppl(not that I am supposed too, but it helps)
    I don't know what it is that I cant take..I have been going home w/stress written across my forhead and in tears....
    My other support ppl say I should stay bcuz of the insurance..but I feel that you should feel comfortable where you work at..AM I RIGHT? There has been a few places where I felt "at home"..and I believe thats the way you should feel...
    I'm not sure what I am asking of you..moral support,answers or just some advice..I need something....
    I also called my old LTC back to ask if they want me back becuz i feel like nothing will b accomplished where I am now.. DON seems to care but to busy to deal with it.....
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  2. 13 Comments

  3. by   Tweety
    You should feel comfortable, but you also have to prove yourself. Just be calm, cool, and collected, show that you are a peer with an education and intelligence and hopefully with time it will get better.

    It doesn't matter who comes through our doors, for the safety of the patients, until I get to know you, I'm going to watch you. But being condescending is rude. If it keeps up, talk to her, if she still thinks she's not your peer and an asset to the team, then leave.
  4. by   LLH
    Insurance is important, but you have to be happy. Life is too short to be stressed all of the time. If insurance is the only thing you are worried about at your old job, maybe consider looking to anyother facility with better insurance.
  5. by   askater11
    My first job....my supervisor treated me like a moron. She even told me in front of a patient I was a bad nurse.

    I left that job as fast as I could. My next job was a "dream" job. The supervisor and all the staff are wonderful!!!! They always tell me what a great nurse I am. A far cry from my first job.

    It's very important to enjoy your job!!!

    I say if you're not happy...look around and see what other facilities need help....they'll be a job that feels right for you!!!!
  6. by   bagladyrn
    You might want to set yourself a "time" that you will stick it out - perhaps tell yourself, I will re-evaluate my feelings on this job in one month (or whatever period of time). That way, you will feel some control of the situation as you can say "This is only for a short time" and if it is only a matter of being the new person, you will see an improvement when you re-evaluate. While waiting, take the time to really polish up your resume and explore options in your area without the pressure of needing an immediate job.
  7. by   renerian
    I think you need to like your job, the people you work with and the clients.

    renerian
  8. by   researchrabbit
    In my last job I was in an uncomfortable position with my boss and began looking for something that fit me better. Took almost 4 months to find it, but it was well worth it. I know exactly what you mean about "feeling at home" at the workplace. That's important to me, too.
  9. by   melissa24
    I'm not sure how long you've been there, but it sounds to me like you need to give it a little more time. Changing jobs is, in itself, enough of a stressor. I think you may need some time to work out the wrinkles with this new job.

    I agree with bagladyrn...I think it is wise to set up a time period, like 4 to 6 weeks, see if things change for the better. Then, if it is still causing you stress, go for something else.

    :kiss Relax. Take it easy. Know that if it is something you do not want to do, it is your decision to leave.

    When I started a new job recently, I wasn't sure if I had chosen the right place to work. I have to say now that there are still a few things I don't like...no workplace is perfect, I guess...but I am starting to love my job and realize how well-suited it is to my schedule and my experience.

    Best wishes.
  10. by   GPatty
    I'm struggling over a familiar situation...
    I love the people I work with, and I love the place,
    but...
    I am tired of the unsafe conditions and situations I am put in...
    I work by myself a lot with 60 patients to take care of...
    I don't think it's safe practice, and have voiced my opinion, but to no avail...
    Do I leave or stay?
    Hang in there and give yourself some time to really discover what it's all about....
    Then decide.
    But whatever you do choose make it the best for you.
    Good Luck!
  11. by   CraftyLPN
    Thanks guys!! I was thinking the same thing all nite last nite...I am going to talk to the suprvising RN and tell her how I feel...and also discuss my concerns w/ the DON(no names mentioned) I really want to prove myself, but I can't get anywhere if she or "they won't let me...I am a more hands - on person than anything else...that's the best way for me to learn their routine and paperwork...The one nurse gives me the impression that I am not trusted..which I understand because she doesn't know the real "me"....maybe I am just too over- sensitive about things for now and jumped the gun a lil too fast. But the most important thing now is that I am treated as a nurse ...not her personal prodige.....she has invaded my personal space 1 too many times...by grabbing my hand when I was looking at meds in med drawer and also what in the H*&^ was I doing looking at a residents chart for...this kind of stuff really sets me on edge...like I should feel guilty for watching out and wanting to know some sort of history on the resident so that I can better utilitize my skills....
  12. by   tonicareer
    Julie did you say 60 patients and usually on your own? How in the world? You must be exhausted and so stressed. I know you are a newer nurse too (If I remember correctly). I think you will burn out or wear out really quickly. They are so taking advantage of you. It is not safe for the patients. Are you talking no other LPNs or RNs or CNAs? Is it legal to have this many patients with one nurse?
  13. by   Shevalove
    I have to say there are some bad places out there and some good ones. It took me quite a few unsucsessfull (SP?) tries, but I finally found a place I feel comfortable and appreciated. I am not saying it's a dream job because it's not and there are some people that rub me wrong..but on the whole it's a pretty great place. You have to spend way too much time at work to hate. It is not worth it.
  14. by   CraftyLPN
    Apparently the nurse I am referring to has given alot of greif to all the other nurses on the floor......I didn't ask..they asked me/told me... The nurse who replaced me last night was really surprised to see me back...she thought for sure I had put in my resignation becuase of the other staff member. I did great last night by myself on my sid e of the hall.no probs!!!!!!!!!I think she had me really uptight . I want to approach her but I am a small fry and afraid of steeping on "toes".I don't want to have a black mark before I have a chance to prove myself... I had thought about going to DON and discussing this.. but that doesn't seem appropriate either... any suggestions?

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