i'm going to agree with the others -- don't obsess about this too much.
i was certainly more of a pharmacy error than a nursing error.
yes, you will most likely be held partially to blame, as you gave it, but you did follow proper procedure.
a few questions (mostly to help you with the meeting):
1. how often are chart checks done in your hospital? daily? every 12hrs? every shift? every 2hrs? something else? when are they supposed to be done? sometime that shift, or before you ever see the patient?
2. had a nurse signed off the order?
3. do you have a computerized mar system?
4. had the order carried over from a previous day (handwritten on the mar as a new order) to the next day? if so, who verified the mar?
from what you have said, it sounds as though this was a new order (pt hadn't received it before), yet you say pharmacy put the order on the wrong mar. that would never happen in any of the facilities where i work (though i can see how it could happen, which is the reason for the above questions). the first order is hand-written on the mar by either the nurse or the secretary. when the new mar is printed, the night nurse is responsible for verifying the new mar, by comparing it with the old one, as well as the day's orders. if that sort of process happens, then the nurse verifying the mar should catch the pharmacy error.
i ask about the chart checks because it is really impractical to expect each nurse to go over the entire chart, and verify all of the med orders, before seeing the patient. if you have 6-8 patients, and any of them have been in your facility for any length of time, it will be a couple of hours into your shift before you can see your patients, just because of your chart checks!
while i have met nurses who won't give a single med before they personally verify the order in the written chart, that generally isn't the policy. (i do see where they are coming from, but we have to be practical). in addition, that is kind of the whole point of having the mar checked/verified before use, and why we night shift nurses have to sign off on the task.
i will say, though, that to an experienced nurse, iv ig is a big red flag. not very many patients get it (i've given it once to an inpatient. i've given it quite a bit to outpatients, but it isn't a common in-patient med.) so i would have investigated why the patient was getting it. however, that isn't something i would have necessarily expect a new nurse to know. (i would expect you to look it up; but the drug books don't say "given more often as an outpatient than an inpatient.)
as for the meeting -- it's a good thing. really. they are trying to find out how this happened, and you will give them valuable information in how to prevent this kind of thing from happening again. pharmacists are human, too. and, they are just as overworked as we nurses are. they deserve to have a reliable double-check. the facility needs to know that the 5 rights failed, and need to come up with a way to fix this. that is what the meeting will be about.
and -- iv ig is serious stuff. i've had patients that were supposed to get it have bad reactions.