I HATE nursing! (long) - page 7

I really really really need some nurses' advice. So I've realized something about myself lately...I hate nursing. I think I always knew this in college, but I guess I thought things would get better... Read More

  1. Visit  nursemike profile page
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    Quote from NursingStudent2222
    I am a 24 year old male in my 2nd year of nursing school and I HATE NURSING!! First year was a complete waste and full of ********! I swear they just had to make up some random classes to take up time. I almost quit after the first year but I keep trying to stay positive and think that next year is going to be better!?? Now I am in that next year and it still blows!! All I can say is that I can change those diapers with my eyes closed!! I hate every second of Nursing school that I had to go through!! I want to stay positive but I cant. Every time I go to class and sit there for hours I think to myself why am I here? All the teachers do in the class is just read notes and post them on the website. I took the Drug Calculation exam....everybody was flippin out about that exam and made a big deal about it.. everybody was goin nuts... we had labs to prepare for that exam for like 3 weeks....of course I didnt actually study till the day before the exam and still got 91%. I dont actually think that nursing school is hard... I dont do any homework at all and still manage to pass classes, learning is the easy part....but what we actually have to learn is retarded and boring... all this garbage about feelings and self disclosure, immediacy, and all that ******** just makes me sick. I want to bang my head against the wall every time i go to class. I feel like I am being brainwashed and they are trying to change the way students think. I do not enjoy class nor do I enjoy Clinical....all we do is clean ass and change diapers...I do not want to be a Nurse if I have to do this my entire career. I want to like Nursing but it wont let me. Is this all that nursing is about? changing god damned Depends and giving out a few pills? I feel like I am wasting my life..... dont know what to do. and everybody here hates it too for many different reasons.....
    Does Nursing get better with time and experience? or if I hate it already does that mean i'll hate it even more later on?? I like making money not wasting my time on ********. What should I do?
    Some people aren't meant to be nurses. Or, if we aren't supposed to say that, how about, nursing isn't for everybody. There is, in fact, a great deal more to nursing than wiping butts and passing pills, but at least in bedside nursing, those are very definitely part of the job. And while nothing is written in stone, most jobs away from the bedside require, or at least prefer, some bedside experience.

    Working as a bedside nurse is more interesting than nursing school, but also harder. Time and experience help immensely when you have the desire but not the skills. I have to admit, I scoffed a bit at the time we spent in school on therapeutic communication and the like. But in the real world of nursing, it turns out to be quite a big part of the job. Some time ago, I had a patient who was getting all the pain medicine that was ordered: morphine, dilaudid, percocet, and valium for muscle spasms, in doses that made me fear for her life. In spite of it, she wasn't getting adequate relief, and multiple pages to her doctor on call were no help. What finally did make her feel a little better, at least for a time, was me pulling up a chair and listening to her complain. Nothing I could tell her was going to do any good. What she needed was for me to listen and show that I really did care. Well, that and a pain consult, once the day shift came in.

    My first week of on-the-floor orientation, I got to do several things I didn't get to do in school. Trach suction, ng placement, tube feedings and straight caths. It was really cool to do more than just read about them.
    Since then, I've got to do a lot of other interesting things. Titrating morphine on a patient in their last hours is not boring. Heartbreaking and terrifying, yes, but not boring. Watching a middle-aged man weep as you explain why his mother is dying, when she seemed so good a couple of days ago, or a mother as you explain why her son is taking so long to pass, isn't dull. Holding a patient steady while a doctor drills a hole in their head is downright fascinating. For me, and for many others, there are many great things about being a nurse, and they more than make up for the parts that aren't so great. But if you really hate nursing school as much as you say, I can't imagine how you'll ever like working as a nurse. Which is okay. You're young, you have all sorts of options. Run, don't walk, away from a field you already despise. Figuring out what will bring you joy is a challenge, but it's well worth it.
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  3. Visit  MelodyRNurse profile page
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    Quote from NursingStudent2222
    I am a 24 year old male in my 2nd year of nursing school and I HATE NURSING!! First year was a complete waste and full of ********! I swear they just had to make up some random classes to take up time. I almost quit after the first year but I keep trying to stay positive and think that next year is going to be better!?? Now I am in that next year and it still blows!! All I can say is that I can change those diapers with my eyes closed!! I hate every second of Nursing school that I had to go through!! I want to stay positive but I cant. Every time I go to class and sit there for hours I think to myself why am I here? All the teachers do in the class is just read notes and post them on the website. I took the Drug Calculation exam....everybody was flippin out about that exam and made a big deal about it.. everybody was goin nuts... we had labs to prepare for that exam for like 3 weeks....of course I didnt actually study till the day before the exam and still got 91%. I dont actually think that nursing school is hard... I dont do any homework at all and still manage to pass classes, learning is the easy part....but what we actually have to learn is retarded and boring... all this garbage about feelings and self disclosure, immediacy, and all that ******** just makes me sick. I want to bang my head against the wall every time i go to class. I feel like I am being brainwashed and they are trying to change the way students think. I do not enjoy class nor do I enjoy Clinical....all we do is clean ass and change diapers...I do not want to be a Nurse if I have to do this my entire career. I want to like Nursing but it wont let me. Is this all that nursing is about? changing god damned Depends and giving out a few pills? I feel like I am wasting my life..... dont know what to do. and everybody here hates it too for many different reasons.....
    Does Nursing get better with time and experience? or if I hate it already does that mean i'll hate it even more later on?? I like making money not wasting my time on ********. What should I do?

    Do you have any idea what area you are interested in? If you do then maybe you should contact a facility with a related area and ask if you could spend time there observing the unit or practice or whatever it may be. That way you could get some kind of idea of whether or not you see yourself there in the long run. Try to find something that is more intellectually challenging, because it kindof sounds like you need that.

    Oh and In the real world you will not be changing that many "depends". You may need to help out occasionally, but you will have support staff to help do those things.

    Also, if you change your mind about your career it will not be the end of the world either. Life is to short to be that unhappy.

    Good luck and please let us know how things work our for you.
  4. Visit  allibear profile page
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    thanks for the replies about the pre-op clinic. i may look into it...i've gotta get out of where i am. i just need to find something i can "put up with" for 2.5 more years.

    well said, nursemike. i'm all for nurses who really want to be nurses...we need them, but i know that i'm not one of those, and i shouldn't have the position i have because of the way i feel.

    let me tell you about my night (just another reason to place on the stack i already have of why i want out). so, we have 4 vent patients and two nurses. as soon as i came in, one of my vent patients dropped his sats into the 40s. he's now fine, but i could tell how my night was going to be. one hour later, i was yelled for into the room of my other vent patient who eventually dropped his sats to 1 (yep...one) with a heart rate of 40-ish. we extubated then reintubated. during this madness, the other nurse was in the room helping to save his life, and her vent patient decided to drop her sats into the 40s. had it not been for the nicu orientee outside the room noticing the monitor, this one would've been dead. we had no pcp/secretary (to help page docs, answer calls, put orders in the computer), and myself and the other nurse are new nurses with less than one year of experience. ugh. we push "patient-centered care," but all i see from this place is budget-centered care. we work with a skeleton crew and bust our butts just to get by...forget doing anything extra for our patients and their families. everyone in my unit wants to leave. i knew i hated nursing, but there is a lot outside of nursing that goes on in the hospital that makes me hate everything about health care. i'm drained in every sense of the word. i want out.

    if anyone has other options i could look into (nursing wise...or bsn wise) to get through this next 2.5 years, please let me know. i get physically sick to my stomach when i know i have to work.
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  5. Visit  beachbum3 profile page
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    I frequently fantasize about going back to my nice quiet office job in the city, and I'll tell you what, if I was as miserable as you sound I wouldn't waste a minute feeling bad about going back to it, 4 year degree down the toilet or not.

    While I really like being a nurse, at the end of the day, its a job, not my life. Yes, its my career, but still.. just a job. No harm/shame in changing jobs/careers if its not for you. I already know I won't be a bedside nurse forever. I like it now, but I can totally see getting worn out and really being tired of it after awhile. So I'll take this time while I still like it and further my education so that when the time comes that I just don't want to do it anymore I will have some other options. And if I hated it right now, I sure as heck wouldn't be doing it.

    Find another job... any job, even non-nursing/healthcare related. You have to take care of you first....and that means doing what makes you happy.
  6. Visit  nursemike profile page
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    Quote from allibear
    thanks for the replies about the pre-op clinic. i may look into it...i've gotta get out of where i am. i just need to find something i can "put up with" for 2.5 more years.

    well said, nursemike. i'm all for nurses who really want to be nurses...we need them, but i know that i'm not one of those, and i shouldn't have the position i have because of the way i feel.

    let me tell you about my night (just another reason to place on the stack i already have of why i want out). so, we have 4 vent patients and two nurses. as soon as i came in, one of my vent patients dropped his sats into the 40s. he's now fine, but i could tell how my night was going to be. one hour later, i was yelled for into the room of my other vent patient who eventually dropped his sats to 1 (yep...one) with a heart rate of 40-ish. we extubated then reintubated. during this madness, the other nurse was in the room helping to save his life, and her vent patient decided to drop her sats into the 40s. had it not been for the nicu orientee outside the room noticing the monitor, this one would've been dead. we had no pcp/secretary (to help page docs, answer calls, put orders in the computer), and myself and the other nurse are new nurses with less than one year of experience. ugh. we push "patient-centered care," but all i see from this place is budget-centered care. we work with a skeleton crew and bust our butts just to get by...forget doing anything extra for our patients and their families. everyone in my unit wants to leave. i knew i hated nursing, but there is a lot outside of nursing that goes on in the hospital that makes me hate everything about health care. i'm drained in every sense of the word. i want out.

    if anyone has other options i could look into (nursing wise...or bsn wise) to get through this next 2.5 years, please let me know. i get physically sick to my stomach when i know i have to work.
    Years ago, I had a problem with the IRS, and an agent came to see me. I had filed some forms incorrectly and was looking at a stiff penalty, but the agent went through it all with me, and found that I had filed the right info, just on the wrong form. In short, she helped me. Makes me think there isn't any profession where you can't do good for people. And I think it would be a lot easier to help people doing something you liked to do.

    About this contract...it would be worth consulting an attorney to find out just where you stand. If you received a sign-on bonus or tuition assistance in return for agreeing to work there three years, you may be somewhat stuck. But there is more to a binding contract than just signing your name, and it shouldn't cost a ton to have a lawyer look at your contract and determine whether it's valid.
  7. Visit  lovingtheunloved profile page
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    I don't have any advice, just well wishes. I can't imagine how frustrating it must be to be trapped in a job you hate.
  8. Visit  hadenuf profile page
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    Ladymadonna,how Did You Get This Sitting Job? I Would Like This. I Am So Tired Of My Floor Job That I Am Starting To Really Get Some Serious Stomach Problems. Did You Go Through A Staffing Agency> Thanks
  9. Visit  NurseBomar profile page
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    For those of you lucky enough to have a few years of ER/ICU before burning out...try flight nursing. There is no greater joy than the autonomy derived from practicing at 1800 ft. Thanks for all the suggestions throughout the thread...I've been looking for something to do on my days off.
  10. Visit  rngolfer53 profile page
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    You certainly hate patient care in the hospital, but that doesn't necessarily mean you hate all patient care.

    I knew I wanted no part of floor nursing, since it sure seems a sucker's game to me: crazy ratios, too-long shifts for someone my age, no control over working conditions, etc. Nurses that do that job have my complete admiration, and are probably better nurses than I'll ever be.

    I worked as a pre-transplant coordinator and now as an after hours hospice nurse. Both involved lots of patient care, but in a manner quite different from med-surg. One of my strengths is my enjoyment of family and patient teaching. Hospice in particular uses a great deal of that. I'm also pretty even-keeled emotionally, so I can bring some stability to very stressful situations for families with dying loved ones.

    Believe me, if I had to work med-surg, I would be out of nursing, but it really is a field with lots of different options.

    Figure out what your strengths are, and find a place where you get to use them. I think you may very well find an area of nursing that fits them.

    If it isn't in nursing, well, you still have an education that provides many good abilities, among them a systematic way of addressing issues, the ability to help stressed out people cope, and not least, perspective that most things aren't life and death.
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  11. Visit  jjjoy profile page
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    Quote from rngolfer53
    I worked as a pre-transplant coordinator and now as an after hours hospice nurse.
    How were able to get these jobs, be able to function in them, and get the respect of clinical colleagues without having the requisite at least a "few years" of bedside floor nursing experience? Thanks!
  12. Visit  cvrn08 profile page
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    go to surgery
  13. Visit  kemper1974 profile page
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    I don't hate nursing, I hate how it is no longer nursing.
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  14. Visit  azxyrn profile page
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    I feel for you, there are a lot of nurses that get to the point where you are - realizing that you wasted your education time, and life on an occupation that you hate being in. This is why partly there is a nursing shortage (I believe) because so many nurses realize that they don't want to deal with. As many of the other posts suggest try another type of nursing: case management, quality control for pharmacy's, school nurse, workplace nurse, hospice admit, etc, etc. My god you've got a royal flush and you're about to fold and lose what you have in the pot! (figuratively speaking of course). I personally dislike nursing in many ways, but because I am an L.P.N. I'm stuck in between a rock and a hard place, not you, you've got a four year degree that even if you could not stay in nursing, many government jobs open up just because you have that bachelor's degree. I hope this helps and good luck to you...


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