I ask for "nothing". - page 2

When it comes to nursing, I respect the profession for what it is, what it has been, and where it is headed. Am I proud to be part of the profession? Sure, in a subtle, I'm proud my hair is long... Read More

  1. Visit  Nascar nurse profile page
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    CP - Hands down, you have to be the best author on the board (and we are fortunate to have some really great authors!).

    I'm a DON in LTC and admittedly I struggle with your article and the own self reflection it brings. I didn't just land in this management seat. It took 25 years to get here starting with a nurses aide to LPN to RN to management to DON. I don't disagree with anything you've said but I do wish to point out that most nurse managers have little to nothing to do with the patient care ratios. In fact most are told (at least in my world) "Here is your staffing budget. Make it work or we will find someone who can". I make it work because I still firmly believe that despite questionable staffing ratios, I still have a lot to offer the staff in terms of understanding their struggles as well as offering a hand. I like to think of myself as the kind of manager lucky enough to have staff that wants to be on my team - and this was recently validated when many moved with me to my job.

    Shamefully? I have planned the catered in lunch as you describe for later in the week. I debated doing this but as a manager I feel like damned if I do and damned if I don't. As surely as there will be those that will scorn my attempts, there would be those that would scorn me if I made no attempt at all. What is a manager to do!? It really becomes a no win situation....but for those that come and choose to enjoy - I have great food planned (once in afternoon and again at night time shift change).

    To stop babbling now, I'd just like to say....I can't wait for these kids to get out of college so I can just return to the ranks of an Indian and give up the chief job. Most days it seems I get no thanks at all.
    NightOwl0624, prnqday, GrnTea, and 6 others like this.
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  3. Visit  StNeotser profile page
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    Thanks for posting. I always maintain that nurses day seems to be like a wilted bunch of flowers offered in an abusive relationship. I don't want nurses day, I just want safe working conditions for myself and fellow staff members.

    If the working conditions were all right...........why would you even need nurses day/week?
  4. Visit  CheesePotato profile page
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    To those that took the time to read and comment, I thank you, truly.



    Dear Nascar Nurse--

    First of all, I think I may have blushed myself stupid with your compliment. It is too kind.

    Secondly, may I just say you sound like a conscientious manager, one who genuinely makes effort to relate, to empathize and to support your staff. That is a gift. A rare trait not commonly found in managers.

    And heavens yes, you are stuck between a rock and a hard place when it comes to dealing with upper management who does have control over ratios, expectations, and budget, and the staff that feel the weight of those decisions and blame you for upper level choices.

    After all, anyone can follow, but not anyone can lead.

    I don't envy you. Not in the least. But is it fair to say that I may envy your staff just a little?

    ~~CP~~

    P.S.

    I know there are spelling errors, but I'm typing one handed as Kid is being a wild child and demanding that mommy throw the ball right now Now NOW!!

    So yeah. Good dog.
    NightOwl0624, gonzo1, Nascar nurse, and 2 others like this.
  5. Visit  linzjane88 profile page
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    Cheesepotato, nascar is right- your my favorite poster! Every time I see an article from you I think "Oooh! Gotta read that!".

    You've got definite numchuk skills.
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  6. Visit  Janey496 profile page
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    Quote from Nascar nurse
    Shamefully? I have planned the catered in lunch as you describe for later in the week. I debated doing this but as a manager I feel like damned if I do and damned if I don't. As surely as there will be those that will scorn my attempts, there would be those that would scorn me if I made no attempt at all.
    This is probably true for some, but may I say that a good, supportive leader (as you sound like you are) doesn't mean that you don't cater in a lunch, it just means that you ALSO support your nurses the other 51 weeks of the year. It's only frustrating and offensive when you get a guilt-lunch from someone who offers you no consideration any other time.

    Speaking of lunch.....neither my hospital nor physician group has brought my unit lunch yet. :/ Somebody save me a sandwich?
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  7. Visit  NurseDirtyBird profile page
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    Quote from Janey496
    This is probably true for some, but may I say that a good, supportive leader (as you sound like you are) doesn't mean that you don't cater in a lunch, it just means that you ALSO support your nurses the other 51 weeks of the year. It's only frustrating and offensive when you get a guilt-lunch from someone who offers you no consideration any other time.

    Speaking of lunch.....neither my hospital nor physician group has brought my unit lunch yet. :/ Somebody save me a sandwich?
    We had cake in our break room. Want some?
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  8. Visit  Janey496 profile page
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    Quote from NurseDirtyBird
    We had cake in our break room. Want some?
    YES. I am always down for cake and donuts!
    imintrouble and NurseDirtyBird like this.
  9. Visit  mama.RN profile page
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    Very nice article.
  10. Visit  Esme12 profile page
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    Quote from CheesePotato
    When it comes to nursing, I respect the profession for what it is, what it has been, and where it is headed. Am I proud to be part of the profession? Sure, in a subtle, I'm proud my hair is long kind of way.

    I own no nursing paraphernalia. I do not announce what I do readily at meet n' greets or reunions. I prefer to refer to myself as a Frustrated Carpenter or a Confused Ninja.

    Ever since stepping foot into the profession, Nurse's Week has always been a tough pill for me to swallow.

    You see, I'm used to flying under the radar. I do what I do because it needs to be done. And that's the truth. I am here because I choose to be. I could be pastry chef or a crotchety stay at home couch warmer content to spend her days writing scathing letters to the editor while snorting Cheeto powder.

    But no. In my professional life, I'm a nurse.

    And for the record, I'm not a hero. Never have been one, never will be one, don't want to be one. That is way too much pressure. I look at what I do as getting paid to do the right thing. Hey look, you're not breathing. How 'bout some oxygen?

    It's nothing special. It's just the right thing to do.

    My patients know I exist because when they wake up, their IV sites have mysteriously migrated, the gaping holes in the abdomen are miraculously closed, and, if you are a peds patient, you may have a new stuffed bear friend dressed in scrubs to keep you company.

    It took me a while to get used to the idea of never being seen let alone remembered. And now, my thanks comes daily in the form of self satisfaction and appreciation for the little things. When a tubed trauma patient gives me a thumbs up before going to surgery and a middle finger when I assess his pain as he wakes, I'm doing something right. When a surgeon saves an especially naughty joke just for me and tells it with an excited gleam to his eye like a kid on Christmas morning confronted with a gaggle of puppies, I know that my work has been noticed. And when my coworkers creep up to me mid case to bump shoulders, stand close and communicate with sidelong glances and hidden smirks, I know it's all fine.

    And those are the things that keep me going.

    Not the brunches offered by guilt obligated physicians or luke-warm lunches served by begrudging Nurse Managers. I don't need their approval. I don't need their recognition.

    And when the nation decides to herald nurses in random clips on the news, it causes a bitterness to surge unbidden to the fore.

    You want to thank me? You want to honor nursing?

    To management/corporate leaders: Then lower nurse to patient ratios so I and my brothers and sisters in healthcare can truly do the job to best of our abilities.

    To the Government: Offer clinics that can be accessed by all people in a way that makes sense and for once removes the terrible choice of food or healthcare. We send so many resources overseas, which is all fine, but what of our folks here at home? Research more than the Cancer "flavor of the day". For the love of all thing sacred, stop denying reimbursement funding based up on greater, more ridiculous parameters.

    To patients/families: Remember that time you called the Nursing Supervisor to complain because I sheered the britches off your child's shattered femur and then had the audacity not to escort you to the coffee shop before taking said kidlet to surgery? Yeah...not cool. Kindly learn what to truly complain about. Better yet, respect the fact I helped save his leg or something.

    To the fellow healthcare workers: Treat each other with dignity and respect. Thank each other. Recognize each other. Why do we need a week or a day at all?

    My feeling: if you truly need a day to give you a reason or remind you to show someone appreciation, be it your mother, your spouse, etc, then something is amiss, don't you think?

    I had a doc try to worm a thank you out of me for a lunch his group provided. My answer was simple, "One sandwich does not make up for a bunch of distressing conversations. You made my orientee cry last week, in case you forgot. Perhaps in the future you can treat us all decently as people and I will thank you. But for now yes, the sandwich was tasty. I appreciate the effort."

    He seemed affronted. Surprise.

    I let him mull it over as I waddled off, diet soda in hand, to go settle before having to scamper off to another case.

    Perhaps my refusal to kowtow and play nice in the sandbox makes me a bad person. I don't know. But I think I'm alright with that.

    But I suppose it's time to get to the point, isn't it? Tick-tock, CheesePotato, we don't have all night.

    In summation: Thank me as one person to another, for what I have done and not because of the letters at the end of my name. Thank me genuinely and at the moment it happens.

    And I shall be sure to return the favor.

    ~~CP~~
    another great one!!!! You write what everyone feels!!!!
  11. Visit  HelloooNurse84 profile page
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    I love this article!! Very well put. Thank you for putting that out there.
  12. Visit  lorirn58 profile page
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    To the fellow healthcare workers: Treat each other with dignity and respect. Thank each other. Recognize each other. Why do we need a week or a day at all?

    I LOVE LOVE LOVE this article. Right on the spot and also how I think; thank you. However, I must say this; CheesePotato, weren't you the same one who wrote an article several months ago complaining about new graduate nurses with a disdainful tone?

    Hey, just sayin'.
  13. Visit  mbkrn profile page
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    Thank you for putting it out there! I've always felt that I get paid to do what I love to do (thanks, enough). Like you, no one forced me into nursing it was my choice. After countless "gifts" over the years (an emory board come to mind...) the one "gift" that remains most precious to me is the one I received from one of my first graders (yes, I'm a school nurse) who hugged me and said, "It feels like home when you fix me". Like the commercial says, "Priceless!"
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  14. Visit  Spidey's mom profile page
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    Excellent article! Again!

    I feel the same way and wanted to say something like this when I was reading through a thread a few days ago with folks complaining about not getting Nurse Week recognition. I'd rather they didn't do anything actually except the wonderful suggestions you mentioned. But I understand Nascar's rock-and-a-hard-place situation. Damned if you do; damned if you don't.

    Hey, did y'all know it is also Teacher's Week?
    Nascar nurse likes this.


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