I am sick and tired of being asked "Who is watching your kids?" - page 5
So who watches your kids while your here? I mean, do you really think they ask my dh as he delivers his mail, so who is watching your kids? NOOOOO!!! I don't make excuses for my career, I worked... Read More
Dec 11, '05I guess I fail to see this as an offensive question-----maybe a MYOB thing, but why get so offended? Really, I see bigger fish to fry.
Dec 11, '05I guess I did not see the sexism in this. I dont' get offended when asked this one. I don't imagine anyone asks my military dh who is watching our kids while he is at work. No one cares; they are not thinking about it....
And no one asks the female airmen this one. Maybe it's the military.
But probably not. In all the years I have been a nurse (and mom) I have never once been asked this question---except by non-supportive , totally inappropriately nosy family members. Never once has a coworker or stranger asked me this one; maybe that is why I can afford not to get upset (grin).Last edit by SmilingBluEyes on Dec 11, '05
Dec 11, '05My kids are 14, 10, and 7 and I get worse looks when I say dh stays home with the kids while I work than the people who send their kids to daycare do. I get these looks of sympathy like "ooohh you're married to a bum. " I spend time defending him regularly. Yes he lost his job, but we're doing fine on my income and my kids don't have to go to daycare... they always have a parent at home for things like conferences and school plays and stuff and ballgames... this is a bad thing?? Come on people it is 2005 not 1905.... nothing wrong with the woman being the breadwinner.
Dec 13, '05Quote from smilingblueyes[font="comic sans ms"]oh my god!!! i love this thread. i meant to start it 5 1/2 yrs ago after i went back to work when my daughter was 6 months old.i guess i did not see the sexism in this. i dont' get offended when asked this one. i don't imagine anyone asks my military dh who is watching our kids while he is at work. no one cares; they are not thinking about it....
[font="comic sans ms"]i don't really see it as a sexist remark (but now i do, after reading this thread :chuckle ). it bothered me sooo much, especially because i did not want to be working full time with an infant. now, i can't wait to get out of the house :chuckle . i saw it as a judgement thing, especially made by those without kids, or those who started their careers when their kids were older, or put their careers on hold to have kids. oh, i hated it. i just don't see why it's anyone else's business. and i used to think the same as many of you "yeah, i left a line up of bottles and a litter box out for her". why do you ask?? unless, of course the person asking is looking for childcare for him/her own kid, and needs ideas. i've had that recently, but you can usually tell when that is the motive.
and my husband was not a babysitter either. as much as i can't stand him now, i'll give him that. because i always worked, he did more than babysitting, and got very offended when people said that.
Dec 13, '05Really, why do they need to know who is watching your kids? I honestly don't see how it's anyone's business, a decision made between you and your dh is YOUR business. No one elses. As long as they are properly taken care of, what does it matter.
I don't blame you for being sick of these questions. It must sound like fingernails on a blackboard every time you hear it.
Dec 13, '05Who watches the kids while I work? My wife does. She stays at home and does so because she wants to. She does 99.99% of the work anyway.