How many of you married doctors? - page 6

Hi all! I'm currently a student at Johns Hopkins SON, just starting, and I'm wondering how hard it will be to meet and date some of the male med students here to seek out future husbands. Don't... Read More

  1. by   bestblondRN
    Originally posted by JHUnurse
    Wow! I come back to find this thread has become 4 pages! I want to explain a few things....first, I may be young (19), but obviously I would never marry someone I didn't love. BUT, if I happened to meet someone who was perfect for me, AND made enough so that we could both move to NYC and start a family, well that would be my dream. Is that wrong? I just wanted some advice as to how I could go about meeting people so I can find *Mr. Right*. My classmates and I always joke about marrying doctors, I never thought this thread would get so serious.

    To all those people who shared their advice, *thank you*. I don't have much experience working yet, so I didn't realize that a lot of doctors might not make ideal husbands.
    To those who discouraged me from entering nursing, well....that really saddens me. I entered the nursing program here because I honestly want to help people, and I have a strong interest in health care. I could have gone on the pre-med track, but I knew about the nursing shortage and decided that this is what I wanted to do. So far I love everything about it, except for any nurses who judge me or discourage me from being a nurse. Maybe in the future if you see a post like mine you can try to offer some constructive criticism and help guide others down the right path.

    As for me, I will be continuing in nursing school, and I think I'll start looking for a nice engineer.......anyone know where I can find some?
    JHU,

    You are still so young......you will have much more to bring to a relationship with Mr. Right if you have gotten out in the world and done some things for yourself.

    Try NOT looking for Mr. Right right now--in fact, just be open to new experiences and see what (or who) comes your way. It's usually when we're not looking for it that we find someone special anyhow!

    Keep your focus on the goal of getting through school, and then see where you end up--you might find that you can work in NYC on your own without any help from anyone!

    Good luck!

    Suzanne
  2. by   Sleepyeyes
    Originally posted by JHUnurse
    Wow! I come back to find this thread has become 4 pages! I want to explain a few things....first, I may be young (19), but obviously I would never marry someone I didn't love. BUT, if I happened to meet someone who was perfect for me, AND made enough so that we could both move to NYC and start a family, well that would be my dream. Is that wrong? I just wanted some advice as to how I could go about meeting people so I can find *Mr. Right*. My classmates and I always joke about marrying doctors, I never thought this thread would get so serious.

    To all those people who shared their advice, *thank you*. I don't have much experience working yet, so I didn't realize that a lot of doctors might not make ideal husbands.
    To those who discouraged me from entering nursing, well....that really saddens me. I entered the nursing program here because I honestly want to help people, and I have a strong interest in health care. I could have gone on the pre-med track, but I knew about the nursing shortage and decided that this is what I wanted to do. So far I love everything about it, except for any nurses who judge me or discourage me from being a nurse. Maybe in the future if you see a post like mine you can try to offer some constructive criticism and help guide others down the right path.

    As for me, I will be continuing in nursing school, and I think I'll start looking for a nice engineer.......anyone know where I can find some?
    I said what I did because most nursing students who come to the board are freaking out about courses, grades, about the job, about how to manage their personal lives along with nursing school..... and along comes your Post #1, to wit:
    Where do I go to land a dr. husband? Nothing about personal qualities, just "male, rich & dr."

    So forgive me if the true intent of your pursuing a nursing career escaped me. Please go over to the Student Nurse's Lounge and read the posts there, and you'll see what I mean.
    The "usual" first post is like "Hi, I'm new and I'm asking for help with my studies or organizing my life," not, "Hi, I need money, how about I marry a doc, and you good nurses should help me find one."

    I have never told a student not to pursue a nursing career, until that post. My first thought was, What chutzpah! Of all the dumbass reasons to be a nurse!! She's wasting her time and her money--and ours. Our profession has enough problems, thank you very much.

    I'm not saying that you should not have any fun at all while you're in school, but nursing school will test the best relationships, and it's quite taxing on your psyche. Oh, and did I mention, challenging?

    How are you doing in your classes? How much are you studying? What are you having real problems with (besides money)? Where are you now, and what's so attractive about NYC? We are a friendly and helpful group here, by and large, and we WANT TO HELP YOU in your nursing ambition.

    But if you think the nursing program is easy, and you can just breeze through without hassle, you need to know you've targeted yourself for way worse than I could deliver. If you don't want to be picked on incessantly from the 'nursing instructor from he**, hang around here, learn, ask questions, and share all you want; we're happy to support you.

    And please know this: there will be many times as a nursing student and as a nurse, that you will question your choice. So will others. If you're here for the right reasons, nothing on this earth is going to stop you, not having to repeat courses, or the program, or the "nursing instructor from hell" or any of that stuff, and there are a few of us here who can tell you about that.....

    For now...
    sorry we got off to a shaky start, but Welcome to the Board.
    PS I'm not really as mean as I sound.
  3. by   trueblue
    Sounds Good. I'm married to an Engineer for 10 fun and wonderful years. Okay not all wonderful all the time, but fun none the less. Although I endure the occassional "on calls", he's still home at night where he belongs. You can't say that for alot of DOCs.

    I admit there are some very attractive DOCs out there with one thing in mind.

    Good to look at, conversate with, but not good for me.

    More power to you if you can handle it, thread starter. But you should think of the BIGGGG picture here.

    All that is gold does not glitter.

    But thats just me.
  4. by   trueblue
    What did I miss here.
    A whole lot. LOL
    I'm still replying to married to engineer thing dating service thing...... Whatever.

    I like the goute from Kara,"Bought himself a wife", If thats not food for thought what is.

    So think twice.
  5. by   OBNURSEHEATHER
    :chuckle :roll What a riot!

    I'm gone for 2 days and look what happens! Everyone has already said what I would have said!

    Seriously, the fact that your first concerns as a nursing student were those that pertained to nabbing yourself a rich doctor seriously alert me to your true motives as a nurse. Have you spent any time here reading what the other student's concerns are? What their priorities are? WE know their priorities. And now we know yours.

    I know some great doctors, none of which are good husbands. IMHO, if you do nab yourself one, you deserve everything you get.

    Good luck in nursing and finding a man - whichever is more important to you.

    Heather
  6. by   RNIAM
    I do not reccomend finding an engineer.....I have yet to find one with a sense of humor??? Now don't beat me up for that one..tee hee I think i will keep my aircraft engine mechanic...He cute and has nice buns
  7. by   NurseDennie
    C'mon guys - let's cut her some slack. I think this was her first post and everything!!

    I don't think I would recommend marrying a bureaucrat - that's what my hubby does.

    I don't know what the perfect job for the SO of a nurse would be --- oh WAIT!!! It just came to me! FOOT MASSEUR/MASSEUS (okay, I spelled it wrong). But it should be someone who KNOWS that he/she should worship at the feet of his/her nurse AND RUB AND MASSAGE THEM WHILE THEY'RE AT IT!!

    Love

    Dennie
  8. by   JeannieM
    Originally posted by JHUnurse
    Hi all!

    I'm currently a student at Johns Hopkins SON, just starting, and I'm wondering how hard it will be to meet and date some of the male med students here to seek out future husbands. Don't get me wrong, marrying a doctor is NOT the reason I want to be a nurse, it's just an added benefit. Let's face it, my nursing salary will not be enough to live in NYC, where I want to live, AND support a family.

    So how many of you managed to score doctor husbands, and how'd you do it? Any suggestions on how I can meet some of them?

    Thanks!
    JHUnurse, after reading your post defending yourself and your nursing ambitions, I went back to your original one (quoted here) to be sure that I hadn't somehow misconstrued you. Well, here it all is, in black and white. "I'm wondering how hard it will be to meet and date some of the male med students here to seek out future husband." "So how many of you manged to score doctor husbands and how'd you do it?"
    I'd refrained from replying because I wasn't sure if I could be civil. Now I just can't stand it any longer. Sleepyeyes mentioned the "nursing instructor from hell". Well, toots, I have BEEN the "nursing instructor from hell". Or the GN mentor from hell, or the Clinical Nurse Specialist from hell. If somebody is really, truly trying hard, working hard, asking intelligent questions, wanting to succeed, nurses like me can be the best friend you ever had. We'll stay late, go the extra mile and bust a gut to help you. But if you're the person batting her pretty eyelashes at the medical student down the hall while your call light is going off...Well, I'll bend over backwards to get you OUT of this profession. Not only have I seen nursing students like you, I've worked with Nurse/Doctor wives like you, and the first sentence out of their mouths is always, "My husband, the DOCTOR, said..."
    If you can't hack it on your own, by all means, please do an "Anna Nicole" and marry a rich, 98 year old, preferrably dying guy with a good insurance policy. But please don't insult this profession while doing it. JeannieM
  9. by   LasVegasRN
    Wooo, I am still cracking up over Nursegoodguys flower child post. That was HILARIOUS!
    I agree with all said here. Love your post JeannieM.
  10. by   bestblondRN
    JeannieM--

    You said it ALL!!!!
  11. by   dianthe1013
    I do not reccomend finding an engineer.....I have yet to find one with a sense of humor??? Now don't beat me up for that one...
    Hee! You know, Rhona... It did take me several months to spot that sense of humor in my fiance... LOL I thought, at first, that it wasn't there...

    JHUnurse, I'm also a student, and I hope you really are worried about things like clinicals and instructors and classes and preceptors and lions and tigers and bears, oh...my. ::sigh:: Like the rest of us. It's soooo hard to get through this program without having to worry about men at the same time.

    As for answering your question, which no one really has because it worries everyone, here ya go: Your best bet is to either hang out at the nearest med student-populated bar, or make nicey-nice with a fun & friendly looking current med student - male or female. S/he can introduce you to some of her/his classmates.

    As a student myself, however, I should tell you this. Pleae be prepared for some of the guys to view you as:

    1) a ready-to-roll trollop with whom to toy,
    2) an intellectually-inferior underling, or
    3) completely below them, because you won't understand a word they're saying.

    Ha. Sad, but sometimes very true. They're not all like that, but stereotypes DO form for reason, after all...

    Donna
  12. by   live4today
    originally posted by dianthe1013
    ..........maybe we should set up a dating service for nurses and engineers?

    seriously, though, it's weird. a lot of nurses i know are attached to engineers. wonder why?

    donna
    why??? let me count the ways you shouldn't!!! my first husband was an engineer...three degrees...made lots of money...but...when we met we were teenagers, then went through the military together (he the soldier/me the wife)...then when he got out of the military and returned to the civilian sector to work, he climbed the corporate ladder faster than anyone most people know...and obtained several degrees in the process.

    sounds like someone's dream man, huh? think again! he's the nightmare on elmstreet you blindly recognize as being a night in shining armor until the claws of evil deception and lies he is damn good at show their many faces to you. the man is the incarnate. beware!!! or be fooled...big time...like i was. :angryfire

    the 'true test of a man...or woman for that matter' is not in their occupation ladies and gents....it is in their character...c - h - a - r - a - c - t - e - r....and that spells...all together now....character.
    :kiss
    Last edit by live4today on Aug 21, '02
  13. by   sbic56
    Geez, peers...
    What happened to being nonjudgemental? Could it be she is 19 and being appropriately naive? I thought the thread was a joke at first, but then realized she was looking for advice from what she thought would be wise and supportive nurses. Sure didn't get that did she? And what's with the "stay out of nursing" crap? Just because she wants to be taken care of doesn't mean she can't be a good nurse. And besides, in MHO, docs don't necessarily have the corner on the prick market; they come in all shapes, sizes and professions!

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