How many of you married doctors? - page 3
Hi all! I'm currently a student at Johns Hopkins SON, just starting, and I'm wondering how hard it will be to meet and date some of the male med students here to seek out future husbands. Don't... Read More
Jul 7, '02Oh please, please, please do not marry a doctor--you will always be a "nurse" to him: read that as "inferior second-class servant". If there are any doctors in heaven, which I sincerely doubt, I am leaving!
I do anesthesia; I was doing a spinal case and just chatting with the patient, a very nice lady, and she was asking me if I was married. I said yes, and she said "oh, I bet you're married to a doctor". I said, "oh my god, no--it's bad enough having to work with them, much less be married to one". Suddenly there was a dead silence on the other side of the drape. After I took my foot out of my mouth, I peeked over and said to the surgeon(a relatively benign guy who had recently removed my gallbladder)--"present company excepted, of course."
He still asked me to do the anesthesia for his wife when she had her kidney stones lithotripsied. His wife is a beautiful redheaded anorexic trophy.
Jul 7, '02Originally posted by zumalong
JHUnurse................................Are you sure you are not spying on this bb and you really are a MD who is looking for a date???
Jul 7, '02I have yet to even meet a Doc that I would want to have an extended conversation with that didn't include my health or patients concerns. The work you would have to put into chasing one or attempting to catch their eye would certainly take away from your priorities at work.
Maybe I sould rather harsh but I find that thought unprofessional, sexist, and down right strange. I suggest if you need your own adequate income to change career goals or move where you can afford to live with your wage. Money doesn't make a marriage....a REAL marriage.
Jul 7, '02And, JMHO, please please please drop nursing. Go be a model, an actress, whatever....
but (I never thought I'd hear myself say this, but there ya go) PLEASE
please---anything but nursing
Jul 7, '02originally posted by fergus51
my grandma says if you marry for money you'll earn every penny, but that it is just as easy to fall in love with a rich man as a poor one.
and she also says that a dress should be tight enough to show that you're a woman, but loose enough to show that you're a lady while you look for love
Jul 7, '02originally posted by jhunurse
i'm currently a student at johns hopkins son, just starting, and i'm wondering how hard it will be to meet and date some of the male med students here to seek out future husbands. don't get me wrong, marrying a doctor is not the reason i want to be a nurse, it's just an added benefit. let's face it, my nursing salary will not be enough to live in nyc, where i want to live, and support a family.
so how many of you managed to score doctor husbands, and how'd you do it? any suggestions on how i can meet some of them?
Jul 7, '02Every now and then I STILL run into a new grad lookin' to marry a doc...
These young things are so flattered (at first) when the docs flirt with them shamelessly and invite them out for drinks...old mama nurse I am, I take 'em aside and warn about his 2 ex wives and 5 kids he supports...all the whispers of affairs too numerous to count.....and with wifey #3 who is preggers...
And I have worked with a few shameless nurses who felt proud to take a doc away from a good wife and mother who put HIM through med school.... All I can say is hope they're happy with their big house and their dinner parties...I want more out of my marriage than that.
And I'm fortunate to have married a fine man who is my best friend and love for 25 years now...I would not settle for less.
Social climbing nurses may bag their doc, but I always tell them...don't be surprised when he's sleeping around with YOUR replacement some day....powerful, wealthy egomaniacs do NOT make good hubbies. JMHO.
Jul 7, '02If you do manage to nab your doctor, just make sure you never get old, fat, wrinkled, arthritic or form any strong opinions of your own. I have seen too many docs use their $$ and their Porsches (Jaguars, Mercedes, fill-in-the-blank here) to woo some trophy when the wife he just dumped (or hasn't gotten around to dumping yet) who put him through med school looks for a job to help support their kids. You might want to keep the number of a good divorce attorney in your little black book, just as a contingency.
To be fair, I have seen one case where an MD and RN married and seem to be happy, but they have only been married for 2 years (no kids yet.)
As for me, I recommend finding a nice engineer. I married one and he is stable, funny, intelligent and will make a very good father. I have also met many of his friends, and they are not nearly as boring as the stereotype will have you believe.
Jul 7, '02I married a doctor seventeen years ago. I didn't marry him for his future money making capacity. We married because we were best friends and had a lot in common.
It was the best decision I ever made.
Seven years ago, he became ill and lost his vision (Stevens-Johnson syndrome) and couldn't practice medicine anymore. Despite multiple corneal transplants, his vision is still too poor to do much of anything.
We did the ol' role reversal thing. He cooks, cleans, does the laundry, and raises the kids while I go to work.
Y'all are generalizing all the monstrous despicable qualities about doctors .
Mine's a gem!!!
Am I the only nurse married to a doctor who's happy on the board?????????
Jul 7, '02Originally posted by cheerfuldoer
If you ARE looking for a date, our Allnurses.com sibling named LasVegasRN would like to send you a "PM", but you better be lookin' mighty fine...cause she doesn't play around.
:chuckle Aw, Renee, you hush now... :imbar
Jul 7, '02"And, JMHO, please please please drop nursing. Go be a model, an actress, whatever....
but (I never thought I'd hear myself say this, but there ya go) PLEASE
please---anything but nursing"
I think you have a lot of nerve. How dare you make a judgement call like that and then sign off with a quote from the bible???! Kinda hypocritical don't you think? I'm not a Christian, but I do believe that somewhere in the bible it says "judge not lest ye be judged". oh, something like that.
Anyway, I think that's terrible that someone would ask a person to not consider nursing just because they consider their question shallow. First of all, who doesn't have a shallow side to them? Someone's doctor-husband/wife might be your Dolce and Gabanna shoes- it's all relative!
You guys might think the question is beneath you, you might be appalled that someone would even think that way, but please get off your moral soapbox(es). Life is not that serious.
Love you all (really!)
Jul 7, '02I would have to be pretty desperate to marry somebody (profession) I really can't stand. Yes I work with ALOT of Doc's (hospital) and just a handful are really great PEOPLE.....the rest are egotistical, self-centered, rude, hateful, obnoxious......you get the point.
Besides....I LOVE to get Love letters...we all know that Doc's can't write worth a damn, so how could I read all those sexy, seductive notes?????????
I have friends who are married....he's a RN, she's a LPN. They just celebrated 32 years. I think it would be neat if my hubby were a nurse and we could work together.....only 1 problem, he can't stand needles:roll He is a Engineer working in a chemical lab......I've thought of changing jobs I actually LOVE to spend time with him and would love to work together.
.....probably get in trouble for taking breaks together....if you know what I mean:imbar