I'm going to start working as a CNA soon, and although I'm looking forward to it, I'm dreading the perverted old men. While enrolled in my CNA class, the first resident I was assigned to asked me if I was a virgin, and that he could take care of it if I was. Some of my other friends fared worse. A couple of my classmates were assigned to a man who was a satyr. He'd constantly spout nasty language about performing sexual acts with us, buck his hips during pericare, and make grabs at our chests. My friend Jamie had it the worst, as she's drop dead gorgeous and a natural F cup, which even lack of makeup, 2 sports bras, and the dumpiest scrubs
can't hide. A man grabbed her ponytail and tried to pull her head towards his crotch.
I can understand and forgive if this behavior is due to dementia, but some of these men have no history of mental decline. In class, we were taught to be firm with them by looking at them in the eye and telling them that their behavior is not appropriate nor appreciated, and none of that blushy giggly stuff. We were also taught to avoid tempting them by not sticking out butts near them when we bend down.
My question is what to do with these men who do not respect your requests to stop. Ignoring them is useless wheh they're pawing at your bra straps. I mean, I'm not scared of being raped b/c they don't have the physical strength anymore, but it seems like this behavior is somewhat condoned, and they don't even bother giving them slaps on the wrists. Is this kind of sexual harassment something that I'm just going to have to put up with, or can measures be taken? I refuse to be treated like a high-mileage stripper.
Nov 6, '05
That's when you find a big, burly CNA named Bruno to tell the man, "Hello, Mr. Pervert, I will be washing you today!"
Where I work, whenever possible, they try to put male staff w/male pts., and vice versa.
You may be able to refuse to give that [patient] care. Ask.
Last edit by Cute_CNA on Nov 6, '05
Nov 6, '05
Quote from mcdonaldlass
When I was an aide, had to dealwith one or two "dirty old men". Just asked them would they want their grand-daughters subjected to that? Worked pretty good, too!!!
You should not have to tolerate that! Where is your administration?!!
Personally, if the patient was not demented or limited mentally in some way and grabbed my ponytail for the purposes you described, he'd best be ready for a possible lawsuit because after I tell him once very clearly what he is not allowed to do and what will happen if he does it again, if he tries it again, he WILL get one. :angryfire
(Sorry, but this incensed me to no end!)
Last edit by FroggysMom on Nov 6, '05